I wish I were skinny and flat chested

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean this in the nicest way possible, I find it incredibly sad you could be old enough to be posting here and still hung up on this.

I think it's a bummer too. Not a judgment, I think a lot of women feel this way, but it feels like an adolescent belief that we should all get past by our 20s at the latest. Your body is your body. At a minimum accepting its basic shape feels like a required part of growing up.

There is a whole genre of clothing that is designed for busty women, by the way. A lot of flat chested women find there are lots of shirts and dresses that don't work with their bodies because they can't fill out clothes that were designed for someone with boobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And many skinny, flat-chested women envy your curves.

Acceptance your body for what it is and simply letting go of the idea that it should (or could) be different can be extremely liberating. I guarantee you there are clothes that will look great on your body but terrible on a skinny, flat-chested woman.

You will never be skinny and flat-chested. You just won't. Let it go. That body type is not inherently better than yours.

No reason this is true. I am happily skinny and flat chested. I have known no other way.

PP said “many,” not all. Breast augmentation is one of the most popular plastic surgeries in the US, so it’s undeniably the case.

+1, I'm the PP who said that many flat chested women envy curves. I say that as an "almost A" cup who used to feel that way in my 20s, but outgrew it. Actually one of the things that changed my mind was having a baby and having larger boobs for a time and realizing it didn't suit my frame at all. I just didn't feel like myself. But when I was younger I definitely believed clothes would fit me better if I'd had bigger boobs.

[Anonymous]

I envy you.
I can't wear scoop necked or v-neck shirts bc I don't have a bust to fill it out and it just looks too baggy.
Did I mention lingerie looks ridiculous on me too. There's nothing voluptuous. My self-esteem has plummeted in the bedroom .

Skinny jeans, although I can wear them, are ironically uncomfortable. I like to wear something looser, but it's hard to find something (boot cut is all I own) otherwise it's too frumpy in the butt.

[Anonymous]

Me too, OP!!!

There’s curvy and busty in a good way that some of the PPs imagine you are and are chiding you for not being grateful, OP, and then there’s actually having a large chest. I’m guessing if you are actually posting this you are probably like me and way beyond “feminine curve” territory and into “matronly bosom and no clothes fit” territory, like me.

I’m a 34DDD and buy size 10-12 tops and dresses to alter down to fit the rest of my size 4, short waisted body. I haven’t been able to wear anything on-trend or cute since I was in the 8th grade. Every trend is just a reminder that clothes are made for skinny, flat-chested people- when slip dresses, camisoles and spaghetti straps came back recently it was a flashback to all of the outfits I couldn’t wear in college and high school.

Don’t get me started about exercise. My friends go for a run and wear a cute tank with a built-in shelf bra and can stay in it for the rest of the day. If I go for even a powerwalk I’m in a panache monstrosity with another pullover bra on top and covering the whole thing with whatever top I buy in bulk because it actually fits. And even if I work out all of the time, I look like a muscled little gnome, not a lithe athletic woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really? There are pros and cons to both but I have always enjoyed being busty and curvy. There are tons of styles that look better with a larger bust. I’d rather be selma Hayek than Natalie Portman at the end of the day.

Get a reduction if it would make your life better!

Salma

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Me too, OP!!!

There’s curvy and busty in a good way that some of the PPs imagine you are and are chiding you for not being grateful, OP, and then there’s actually having a large chest. I’m guessing if you are actually posting this you are probably like me and way beyond “feminine curve” territory and into “matronly bosom and no clothes fit” territory, like me.

I’m a 34DDD and buy size 10-12 tops and dresses to alter down to fit the rest of my size 4, short waisted body. I haven’t been able to wear anything on-trend or cute since I was in the 8th grade. Every trend is just a reminder that clothes are made for skinny, flat-chested people- when slip dresses, camisoles and spaghetti straps came back recently it was a flashback to all of the outfits I couldn’t wear in college and high school.

Don’t get me started about exercise. My friends go for a run and wear a cute tank with a built-in shelf bra and can stay in it for the rest of the day. If I go for even a powerwalk I’m in a panache monstrosity with another pullover bra on top and covering the whole thing with whatever top I buy in bulk because it actually fits. And even if I work out all of the time, I look like a muscled little gnome, not a lithe athletic woman.

Oh god. Yes. The Panache monstrosity! I tell ya, my boobs are like battering rams in that thing. But it’s the only sports bra that actually kind of fits — and not well, at that! I’m a taller version of you, with a long waist and short legs. I’m surrounded every week in my yoga classes by women in dainty, strappy tops or even just little bralettes while I’ve got the panache beasts strapped around me because my boobs literally don’t fit in or stay in any other sports bra. I have such real envy for smaller chested women.

[Anonymous]

That’s funny, because I love my Panache sports bra. With my 30 I chest, it’s the first sports bra that actually fits and feels comfortable! Can I be all cute in it like my A cup friends? No. But it makes any top I wear over it look fabulous, so I take advantage of that.

Yes, I’m never going to wear cute strappy tops. I had to get past that at age 12, when that was already obvious. Find the clothes that make you look great, because they are out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Me too, OP!!!

There’s curvy and busty in a good way that some of the PPs imagine you are and are chiding you for not being grateful, OP, and then there’s actually having a large chest. I’m guessing if you are actually posting this you are probably like me and way beyond “feminine curve” territory and into “matronly bosom and no clothes fit” territory, like me.

I’m a 34DDD and buy size 10-12 tops and dresses to alter down to fit the rest of my size 4, short waisted body. I haven’t been able to wear anything on-trend or cute since I was in the 8th grade. Every trend is just a reminder that clothes are made for skinny, flat-chested people- when slip dresses, camisoles and spaghetti straps came back recently it was a flashback to all of the outfits I couldn’t wear in college and high school.

Don’t get me started about exercise. My friends go for a run and wear a cute tank with a built-in shelf bra and can stay in it for the rest of the day. If I go for even a powerwalk I’m in a panache monstrosity with another pullover bra on top and covering the whole thing with whatever top I buy in bulk because it actually fits. And even if I work out all of the time, I look like a muscled little gnome, not a lithe athletic woman.

Oh god. Yes. The Panache monstrosity! I tell ya, my boobs are like battering rams in that thing. But it’s the only sports bra that actually kind of fits — and not well, at that! I’m a taller version of you, with a long waist and short legs. I’m surrounded every week in my yoga classes by women in dainty, strappy tops or even just little bralettes while I’ve got the panache beasts strapped around me because my boobs literally don’t fit in or stay in any other sports bra. I have such real envy for smaller chested women.

Get a reduction if it bothers you so much! Live your A cup dreams!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Me too, OP!!!

There’s curvy and busty in a good way that some of the PPs imagine you are and are chiding you for not being grateful, OP, and then there’s actually having a large chest. I’m guessing if you are actually posting this you are probably like me and way beyond “feminine curve” territory and into “matronly bosom and no clothes fit” territory, like me.

I’m a 34DDD and buy size 10-12 tops and dresses to alter down to fit the rest of my size 4, short waisted body. I haven’t been able to wear anything on-trend or cute since I was in the 8th grade. Every trend is just a reminder that clothes are made for skinny, flat-chested people- when slip dresses, camisoles and spaghetti straps came back recently it was a flashback to all of the outfits I couldn’t wear in college and high school.

Don’t get me started about exercise. My friends go for a run and wear a cute tank with a built-in shelf bra and can stay in it for the rest of the day. If I go for even a powerwalk I’m in a panache monstrosity with another pullover bra on top and covering the whole thing with whatever top I buy in bulk because it actually fits. And even if I work out all of the time, I look like a muscled little gnome, not a lithe athletic woman.

Oh god. Yes. The Panache monstrosity! I tell ya, my boobs are like battering rams in that thing. But it’s the only sports bra that actually kind of fits — and not well, at that! I’m a taller version of you, with a long waist and short legs. I’m surrounded every week in my yoga classes by women in dainty, strappy tops or even just little bralettes while I’ve got the panache beasts strapped around me because my boobs literally don’t fit in or stay in any other sports bra. I have such real envy for smaller chested women.

Get a reduction if it bothers you so much! Live your A cup dreams!

Lol

Are you paying?

I don’t want an A cup ... I think a C would be nice with my build

[Anonymous]

As someone who is skinny and truly flat-chested (AA, even an A cup is too big for me), let me tell you that finding flattering clothes isn’t a walk in the park on this end of the spectrum either. Most tops don’t work because I can’t fill them out. I regularly buy the smallest size available and it’s still too big.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Me too, OP!!!

There’s curvy and busty in a good way that some of the PPs imagine you are and are chiding you for not being grateful, OP, and then there’s actually having a large chest. I’m guessing if you are actually posting this you are probably like me and way beyond “feminine curve” territory and into “matronly bosom and no clothes fit” territory, like me.

I’m a 34DDD and buy size 10-12 tops and dresses to alter down to fit the rest of my size 4, short waisted body. I haven’t been able to wear anything on-trend or cute since I was in the 8th grade. Every trend is just a reminder that clothes are made for skinny, flat-chested people- when slip dresses, camisoles and spaghetti straps came back recently it was a flashback to all of the outfits I couldn’t wear in college and high school.

Don’t get me started about exercise. My friends go for a run and wear a cute tank with a built-in shelf bra and can stay in it for the rest of the day. If I go for even a powerwalk I’m in a panache monstrosity with another pullover bra on top and covering the whole thing with whatever top I buy in bulk because it actually fits. And even if I work out all of the time, I look like a muscled little gnome, not a lithe athletic woman.

LOL another 34 ddd/e here.

I’ve accepted panache and wacoal and whatever other miracles of engineering we subject ourselves to and I just enjoy my body. It’s healthy, it produced and nourished my children, and it’s just time to stop punishing myself for things I have no control over.

No I will never be lithe or waifish or whatever else but when I look in the mirror in a bra and underwear my body is attractive to me and I find the clothes that look good even if I am stuck shopping at stores like talbots a lot.

[Anonymous]

My top is bigger than my bottom by one inch. Used to be more. Most dresses are the other way around.
Not one company makes them the same size.Top an inch or two bigger is unheard of on a dress, so I wear wrap dresses.
I blame the boobs. I don't want a bigger butt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate my boobs. I got the skinny part down but my large chest is annoying

This! No matter how thin I am I still have big boobs and I HATE it.

[Anonymous]

Grass is always greener. Always.

[Anonymous]

Larget breasts are lovely in youth but by middle age they are matronly and ugly. Yes, I appreciate how my body birthed 3 kids and yada, yada but ugh. I would give a lot for a lithe, flat chested figure. This type of body ages much, much better.