Why are we okay with long work hours?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We know that 40 hours a week is unhealthy.

People who hate their lives or use excessive work to escape like many do with alcohol will wonder what the big deal is.

The reality is that working 40 hours is unhealthy and it should change.

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The problem for you is, there will always be people who live their work and jobs and will be willing to work harder than you obviously are. I would stack my health against anyone’s and I regularly work 50 hours a week because I love what I do. I also make a lot more money than you ever will, if your statement is indicative of your attitude about work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We know that 40 hours a week is unhealthy.

People who hate their lives or use excessive work to escape like many do with alcohol will wonder what the big deal is.

The reality is that working 40 hours is unhealthy and it should change.

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The problem for you is, there will always be people who live their work and jobs and will be willing to work harder than you obviously are. I would stack my health against anyone’s and I regularly work 50 hours a week because I love what I do. I also make a lot more money than you ever will, if your statement is indicative of your attitude about work.

NP and no one that does my job will love what they do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We know that 40 hours a week is unhealthy.

People who hate their lives or use excessive work to escape like many do with alcohol will wonder what the big deal is.

The reality is that working 40 hours is unhealthy and it should change.

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The problem for you is, there will always be people who live their work and jobs and will be willing to work harder than you obviously are. I would stack my health against anyone’s and I regularly work 50 hours a week because I love what I do. I also make a lot more money than you ever will, if your statement is indicative of your attitude about work.

You can’t even read your own words and see how mentally and emotionally unstable you are.

The research is out… 40 hours is unhealthy. You work 50 and lay all the evidence in your unhealthy angry post.

You sound pathetic, and I feel sorry for you. I wish you could get help to be a happy and healthy person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We know that 40 hours a week is unhealthy.

People who hate their lives or use excessive work to escape like many do with alcohol will wonder what the big deal is.

The reality is that working 40 hours is unhealthy and it should change.

My wife routinely puts in 50-60, while I put in 40 (if I put in more, I earn credit hours.) She argues that if she doesn't put in the 50-60, the work doesn't get done. And not getting the work done is not an option (according to her.) She says I don't have a "real job."

My condolences for your marriage. That’s so sad, I’m truly sorry.

[Anonymous]

We managed 2 working parents with 3 kids without much difficulty. It helped that I have been WFH for 10+ years. DH has travels a lot so many times it is just me at home.

You figure it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why WFH has been so great for our family.

By cutting out our commutes, we've been able to reclaim some prime time back to our family lives.

WFH definitely helps! DH works from home and it makes a world of difference. I hate that so many places are going back for no good reason. It's not sustainable for 2 parents who both work outside of the house.

And yet so many of us are forced to do just this, pushing ourselves too far.

I work 60 hours a week and my husband works 45, both out of the house. We’ve been doing this for two decades while raising children at home. When our kids were young, he switched his hours to nights so there would always be someone home.

I feel like a shell of myself, and I can only think of 2 or 3 times I’ve been truly relaxed in the past couple years.

I hate this.

I’m really sorry. Why not change jobs, that sounds so incredibly unhealthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We managed 2 working parents with 3 kids without much difficulty. It helped that I have been WFH for 10+ years. DH has travels a lot so many times it is just me at home.

You figure it out.

Sure but is it healthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We know that 40 hours a week is unhealthy.

People who hate their lives or use excessive work to escape like many do with alcohol will wonder what the big deal is.

The reality is that working 40 hours is unhealthy and it should change.

.

The problem for you is, there will always be people who live their work and jobs and will be willing to work harder than you obviously are. I would stack my health against anyone’s and I regularly work 50 hours a week because I love what I do. I also make a lot more money than you ever will, if your statement is indicative of your attitude about work.

Not everyone is living to chase money. I'm sincerely glad you enjoy what you do so much, and it has no ill effect on health, but it doesn't make you a better person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The transition to life after college can be difficult with adjusting to a new schedule and increased independence.

"A college graduate, who recently began her first job, took to TikTok to vent about her struggles with the new phase of her life. Brielle, who goes by the username @brielleybelly123 on the platform, posted a video with text across the screen that read: “QOTD (question of the day) in a 9-5 how do u have time for ur life.”

As someone who works full time in a very full time job (60 hours a week), and handles all of the responsibilities of a special needs kid, has a home made dinner on the table every night, has a husband who wants me to commit a certain amount of emotional and physical time to him, no nanny, etc etc, I do find it charming when 22 year olds complain about having no free time. I remember having my current job pre kids. I worked a lot, but even still there was a LOT of free time every week. Now I have maybe twenty mins a day where I’m not committed to someone or something else.

Well good for you. You have agency. If you want to be a martyr, that's on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The transition to life after college can be difficult with adjusting to a new schedule and increased independence.

"A college graduate, who recently began her first job, took to TikTok to vent about her struggles with the new phase of her life. Brielle, who goes by the username @brielleybelly123 on the platform, posted a video with text across the screen that read: “QOTD (question of the day) in a 9-5 how do u have time for ur life.”

As someone who works full time in a very full time job (60 hours a week), and handles all of the responsibilities of a special needs kid, has a home made dinner on the table every night, has a husband who wants me to commit a certain amount of emotional and physical time to him, no nanny, etc etc, I do find it charming when 22 year olds complain about having no free time. I remember having my current job pre kids. I worked a lot, but even still there was a LOT of free time every week. Now I have maybe twenty mins a day where I’m not committed to someone or something else.

Well good for you. You have agency. If you want to be a martyr, that's on you.

DP.
Perhaps it isn’t martyrdom. Perhaps it’s necessity. Some people can’t just get up and change jobs. They may be tied down due to location, training, etc. And the PP also has a special needs child. What do you suggest? The PP just tosses the child out?

[Anonymous]

People waste an enormous amount of time in the office. Early in my career I would work 60 hours a week because I was single and there was nothing better to do and there were other singles in my office doing the same thing. When I got married I cut it down to 55 hours a week. when I became a parent I cut it down to 50 or so. I became much better at setting priorities and not wasting time. I almost never brought work home with me. It helped that most of the time I enjoyed my work and I had a lot of ambition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People waste an enormous amount of time in the office. Early in my career I would work 60 hours a week because I was single and there was nothing better to do and there were other singles in my office doing the same thing. When I got married I cut it down to 55 hours a week. when I became a parent I cut it down to 50 or so. I became much better at setting priorities and not wasting time. I almost never brought work home with me. It helped that most of the time I enjoyed my work and I had a lot of ambition.

This definitely depends on the job, though. Nurses, teachers, and other people who don’t get time at work to get their paperwork done have no choice but to put in all those extra hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The transition to life after college can be difficult with adjusting to a new schedule and increased independence.

"A college graduate, who recently began her first job, took to TikTok to vent about her struggles with the new phase of her life. Brielle, who goes by the username @brielleybelly123 on the platform, posted a video with text across the screen that read: “QOTD (question of the day) in a 9-5 how do u have time for ur life.”

As someone who works full time in a very full time job (60 hours a week), and handles all of the responsibilities of a special needs kid, has a home made dinner on the table every night, has a husband who wants me to commit a certain amount of emotional and physical time to him, no nanny, etc etc, I do find it charming when 22 year olds complain about having no free time. I remember having my current job pre kids. I worked a lot, but even still there was a LOT of free time every week. Now I have maybe twenty mins a day where I’m not committed to someone or something else.

Well good for you. You have agency. If you want to be a martyr, that's on you.

DP.
Perhaps it isn’t martyrdom. Perhaps it’s necessity. Some people can’t just get up and change jobs. They may be tied down due to location, training, etc. And the PP also has a special needs child. What do you suggest? The PP just tosses the child out?

There are a ton of suggestions I’d make but 1 is does she real need “homemade meals” every.day.

I mean come on… 60 hrs a week?

Yea there are so many suggestions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People waste an enormous amount of time in the office. Early in my career I would work 60 hours a week because I was single and there was nothing better to do and there were other singles in my office doing the same thing. When I got married I cut it down to 55 hours a week. when I became a parent I cut it down to 50 or so. I became much better at setting priorities and not wasting time. I almost never brought work home with me. It helped that most of the time I enjoyed my work and I had a lot of ambition.

This definitely depends on the job, though. Nurses, teachers, and other people who don’t get time at work to get their paperwork done have no choice but to put in all those extra hours.

Nurses and teachers have down time, not every day but don’t be fooled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People waste an enormous amount of time in the office. Early in my career I would work 60 hours a week because I was single and there was nothing better to do and there were other singles in my office doing the same thing. When I got married I cut it down to 55 hours a week. when I became a parent I cut it down to 50 or so. I became much better at setting priorities and not wasting time. I almost never brought work home with me. It helped that most of the time I enjoyed my work and I had a lot of ambition.

This definitely depends on the job, though. Nurses, teachers, and other people who don’t get time at work to get their paperwork done have no choice but to put in all those extra hours.

Nurses and teachers have down time, not every day but don’t be fooled.

Really? I’m the PP and a teacher. I had less than half an hour of down time today. That included my lunch AND my planning time together. I was in front of students for the remainder of my day.

Let those of us IN THE JOB tell you what it’s like.