Dh ignoring me while taking a weekend trip

[Anonymous]

He had to work and was home with the 3 year old? What the heck, are you a troll?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife took our five-year old on a four-day trip and I stayed home with the three-year old. I wanted to really enjoy this time with my youngest so I consciously set my phone aside and engaged with our child when they weren't napping. Then, because I didn't want my wife coming home to a messy house, I've been cooking and cleaning all weekend while the three-year old naps and after they've gone to bed. I can't wait to see them both when they get home!

Seriously OP, you're looking to borrow trouble here.

Did you ignore all communication for 2 days? I call BS. Everyone is glued to their phones. No one is not looking at their phone for more than a few hours. We are in year 2023.

The post was satirical...

Looking at your phone isn't the same as needing to feel like responding to every picture of text from your wife while she's off with one kid and you're home with the other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife took our five-year old on a four-day trip and I stayed home with the three-year old. I wanted to really enjoy this time with my youngest so I consciously set my phone aside and engaged with our child when they weren't napping. Then, because I didn't want my wife coming home to a messy house, I've been cooking and cleaning all weekend while the three-year old naps and after they've gone to bed. I can't wait to see them both when they get home!

Seriously OP, you're looking to borrow trouble here.

Did you ignore all communication for 2 days? I call BS. Everyone is glued to their phones. No one is not looking at their phone for more than a few hours. We are in year 2023.

Yep. No one ignores their phone for that long. What if your traveling wife had an emergency?

Op here. We returned last night and everything was fine. The house was a complete mess. I asked the neighbor to check on them. The younger one got into all kinds of stuff. He had my work badge hidden and he drew on the walls.
It seems he was roaming the house while Dh was in meetings. Dh said he was singing the ABCs during a video chat 😆 I asked him if it was hard and he said it was totally fine. He doesn't like to admit things are hard. After he ate the special food I brought him I made him vacuum. There were full meals all over the dining rug. One guy said he was busy cleaning while his wife was away. That would only happen in my dreams.

Nice try, troll.

You guys had no childcare for a three-year old while your husband worked for two days? And why was he working all weekend? And you had to have a neighbor go check on them to see if they were alive but you're commenting about food on the rug? Better luck next time.

[Anonymous]

When I'm away from home, it's a break. To enjoy that break, I need to feel free of the usual things going on at home. If it's a short time, and no crisis, I'd like to be left alone. That's how I honestly feel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So he's stressed and was also parenting alone this weekend. And he obviously did respond but not as much as you want. So you plan to eat his favorite food as punishment? Enjoy being divorced in a few years. You sound like a drama queen nightmare

Op here he has not responded since yesterday afternoon. Going a day and a half without communication is very unusual.

Perhaps he is seething inside that he could not take the trip w/you.
Or perhaps he is angry that you took the trip.

Or he could be just annoyed that he is stuck at home….caring for a three-yr. old.

Something is definitely bothering him.
I would just enjoy the rest of your trip w/your five yr old then discuss this matter when you return home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife took our five-year old on a four-day trip and I stayed home with the three-year old. I wanted to really enjoy this time with my youngest so I consciously set my phone aside and engaged with our child when they weren't napping. Then, because I didn't want my wife coming home to a messy house, I've been cooking and cleaning all weekend while the three-year old naps and after they've gone to bed. I can't wait to see them both when they get home!

Seriously OP, you're looking to borrow trouble here.

Did you ignore all communication for 2 days? I call BS. Everyone is glued to their phones. No one is not looking at their phone for more than a few hours. We are in year 2023.

Yep. No one ignores their phone for that long. What if your traveling wife had an emergency?

Op here. We returned last night and everything was fine. The house was a complete mess. I asked the neighbor to check on them. The younger one got into all kinds of stuff. He had my work badge hidden and he drew on the walls.
It seems he was roaming the house while Dh was in meetings. Dh said he was singing the ABCs during a video chat 😆 I asked him if it was hard and he said it was totally fine. He doesn't like to admit things are hard. After he ate the special food I brought him I made him vacuum. There were full meals all over the dining rug. One guy said he was busy cleaning while his wife was away. That would only happen in my dreams.

I don't think he even knows it was hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He had to work and was home with the 3-year-old. What the heck, are you a troll?

This is op. 3 year old goes to preschool. Dh has plenty of PTO days but won't take them. He also doesn't have to work weekends but he's addicted to working. I know tons of moms who wfh without childcare. I could never do it but some people do it! When I used to work from home people would ask why I had childcare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He had to work and was home with the 3-year-old. What the heck, are you a troll?

This is op. 3 year old goes to preschool. Dh has plenty of PTO days but won't take them. He also doesn't have to work weekends but he's addicted to working. I know tons of moms who wfh without childcare. I could never do it but some people do it! When I used to work from home people would ask why I had childcare.

The people who WFH without childcare for a 3 yo are either not working from home or not taking care of their child. You cannot do both. Just parking a child in front of a screen for hours is not parenting and not taking care of the child. I get that some people have to do it, but it is not good.

[Anonymous]

When I had a three year old boy, he kept me busy from 5:30am-9:00pm. If I was lucky there was a short nap.