Dh ignoring me while taking a weekend trip

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this post op like what do you mean you left him with a cooler with his favorite at home???

What???

Perhaps he's taking a much-needed break from you.

Right? Did she take the refrigerator with her? I'd be mad, too.

She bought him some kind of special food they can't get here that isn't perishable. It's not that complicated.

Apparently reading for you is complicated. OP said in the first post, "I got a cooler bag and ice packs."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: Your title makes it sound like he’s on a guys’ trip while everything at home is breaking.. but you already know that.
If you miss him, go home, he’s your husband, nobody can keep you two apart unless you both agree, and certainly for the weekend, nobody can make you each take a kid and spend it separately.
Op, it was a cold rainy weekend here last weekend. I wouldn’t have wanted to be parenting solo from a mental health perspective. I just wouldn’t. I also wouldn’t want to be home with one kid while my husband sent me cute pics of a trip I wasn’t on, not last weekend at any rate, I’m not kidding when I say the only thing that made the nasty weather on Saturday bearable was that my husband and I were together. We had a fun night at church Friday, and our kids had activities on Saturday so we were plenty busy, but yes, parenting on a weekend that is gross and cold during a time that is usually family time, coupled with the needs of a younger child (you knew what you were doing by taking the older one and getting out of Dodge), would not have made me too responsive to my husband either. That may sound nutty, but I am by no means the “cool wife” and I can run my marriage however I like. It’s doubtful that your 5-year-old and you share an interest that your husband and 3-year-old can’t share. That may change, but not yet.

Sounds like you’re looking for a fight or read to many parenting books on how each kid needs individual time, otherwise they will grow up totally unfit for society. If you don’t enjoy what you’re doing, stop and come home. Your husband will be glad to see you and there’s all kinds of stuff you can do as a family here.

You're jumping to a lot of conclusions pp. Her husband could have gone but doesn't value traveling so she decided to take one kid instead of two. Sounds reasonable. Why does he get to stay home child-free? Maybe she was visiting her parents. Maybe they don't have the funds to all together. We don't know but ignoring each other for 1.5 days isn't right.

She said he doesn't value vacations and is stressed at work, and he is staying home with the 3 yo. I don't think the PP is jumping to conclusions on this one. OP seems like a difficult person.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So he's stressed and was also parenting alone this weekend. And he obviously did respond but not as much as you want. So you plan to eat his favorite food as punishment? Enjoy being divorced in a few years. You sound like a drama queen nightmare

Op here he has not responded since yesterday afternoon. Going a day and a half without communication is very unusual.

respond with "hey babe is everything ok? I have not heard from you, just let me know things are cool while you are dealing with a 3 year old"

[Anonymous]

It's Tuesday. What happened, OP? In my life, this would be strange. We would send some reaction to the pictures that were sent and maybe send our own, even if we were not up for a conversation or longer messages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this post op like what do you mean you left him with a cooler with his favorite at home???

What???

Perhaps he's taking a much-needed break from you.

Right? Did she take the refrigerator with her? I'd be mad, too.

She bought him some kind of special food they can't get here that isn't perishable. It's not that complicated.

Apparently reading for you is complicated. OP said in the first post, "I got a cooler bag and ice packs."

So what's your point? The food required that not to spoil.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Your title makes it sound like he’s on a guys’ trip while everything at home is breaking.. but you already know that.
If you miss him, go home, he’s your husband, nobody can keep you two apart unless you both agree, and certainly for the weekend, nobody can make you each take a kid and spend it separately.
Op, it was a cold rainy weekend here last weekend. I wouldn’t have wanted to be parenting solo from a mental health perspective. I just wouldn’t. I also wouldn’t want to be home with one kid while my husband sent me cute pics of a trip I wasn’t on, not last weekend at any rate, I’m not kidding when I say the only thing that made the nasty weather on Saturday bearable was that my husband and I were together. We had a fun night at church Friday, and our kids had activities on Saturday so we were plenty busy, but yes, parenting on a weekend that is gross and cold during a time that is usually family time, coupled with the needs of a younger child (you knew what you were doing by taking the older one and getting out of Dodge), would not have made me too responsive to my husband either. That may sound nutty, but I am by no means the “cool wife” and I can run my marriage however I like. It’s doubtful that your 5-year-old and you share an interest that your husband and 3-year-old can’t share. That may change, but not yet.

Sounds like you’re looking for a fight or read to many parenting books on how each kid needs individual time, otherwise they will grow up totally unfit for society. If you don’t enjoy what you’re doing, stop and come home. Your husband will be glad to see you and there’s all kinds of stuff you can do as a family here.

You're jumping to a lot of conclusions pp. Her husband could have gone but doesn't value traveling so she decided to take one kid instead of two. Sounds reasonable. Why does he get to stay home child-free? Maybe she was visiting her parents. Maybe they don't have the funds to all together. We don't know but ignoring each other for 1.5 days isn't right.

She said he doesn't value vacations and is stressed at work, and he is staying home with the 3 yo. I don't think the PP is jumping to conclusions on this one. OP seems like a difficult person.

Op seems difficult because she values taking vacations and her stressed husband who needs one doesn't. Okay.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you the poster who was trying to come up with a story to tell your younger child for where you were going on your trip? The one with the kid who runs off often which is why you didn’t want to bring him ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Your title makes it sound like he’s on a guys’ trip while everything at home is breaking.. but you already know that.
If you miss him, go home, he’s your husband, nobody can keep you two apart unless you both agree, and certainly for the weekend, nobody can make you each take a kid and spend it separately.
Op, it was a cold rainy weekend here last weekend. I wouldn’t have wanted to be parenting solo from a mental health perspective. I just wouldn’t. I also wouldn’t want to be home with one kid while my husband sent me cute pics of a trip I wasn’t on, not last weekend at any rate, I’m not kidding when I say the only thing that made the nasty weather on Saturday bearable was that my husband and I were together. We had a fun night at church Friday, and our kids had activities on Saturday so we were plenty busy, but yes, parenting on a weekend that is gross and cold during a time that is usually family time, coupled with the needs of a younger child (you knew what you were doing by taking the older one and getting out of Dodge), would not have made me too responsive to my husband either. That may sound nutty, but I am by no means the “cool wife” and I can run my marriage however I like. It’s doubtful that your 5-year-old and you share an interest that your husband and 3-year-old can’t share. That may change, but not yet.

Sounds like you’re looking for a fight or read to many parenting books on how each kid needs individual time, otherwise they will grow up totally unfit for society. If you don’t enjoy what you’re doing, stop and come home. Your husband will be glad to see you and there’s all kinds of stuff you can do as a family here.

You're jumping to a lot of conclusions pp. Her husband could have gone but doesn't value traveling so she decided to take one kid instead of two. Sounds reasonable. Why does he get to stay home child-free? Maybe she was visiting her parents. Maybe they don't have the funds to all together. We don't know but ignoring each other for 1.5 days isn't right.

She said he doesn't value vacations and is stressed at work, and he is staying home with the 3 yo. I don't think the PP is jumping to conclusions on this one. OP seems like a difficult person.

Op seems difficult because she values taking vacations and her stressed husband who needs one doesn't. Okay.

She's resentful he doesn't want to take trips as a family. Traveling with kids can be stressful but he can't just opt out completely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's Tuesday. What happened, OP? In my life, this would be strange. We would send some reaction to the pictures that were sent and maybe send our own, even if we were not up for a conversation or longer messages.

He didn't answer when she called either, but she is mad he is ignoring her rather than worried if they are still alive. Weird.

[Anonymous]

My wife took our five-year old on a four-day trip and I stayed home with the three-year old. I wanted to really enjoy this time with my youngest so I consciously set my phone aside and engaged with our child when they weren't napping. Then, because I didn't want my wife coming home to a messy house, I've been cooking and cleaning all weekend while the three-year old naps and after they've gone to bed. I can't wait to see them both when they get home!

Seriously OP, you're looking to borrow trouble here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife took our five-year old on a four-day trip and I stayed home with the three-year old. I wanted to really enjoy this time with my youngest so I consciously set my phone aside and engaged with our child when they weren't napping. Then, because I didn't want my wife coming home to a messy house, I've been cooking and cleaning all weekend while the three-year old naps and after they've gone to bed. I can't wait to see them both when they get home!

Seriously OP, you're looking to borrow trouble here.

Did you ignore all communication for 2 days? I call BS. Everyone is glued to their phones. No one is not looking at their phone for more than a few hours. We are in year 2023.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife took our five-year old on a four-day trip and I stayed home with the three-year old. I wanted to really enjoy this time with my youngest so I consciously set my phone aside and engaged with our child when they weren't napping. Then, because I didn't want my wife coming home to a messy house, I've been cooking and cleaning all weekend while the three-year old naps and after they've gone to bed. I can't wait to see them both when they get home!

Seriously OP, you're looking to borrow trouble here.

Did you ignore all communication for 2 days? I call BS. Everyone is glued to their phones. No one is not looking at their phone for more than a few hours. We are in year 2023.

Yep. No one ignores their phone for that long. What if your traveling wife had an emergency?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife took our five-year old on a four-day trip and I stayed home with the three-year old. I wanted to really enjoy this time with my youngest so I consciously set my phone aside and engaged with our child when they weren't napping. Then, because I didn't want my wife coming home to a messy house, I've been cooking and cleaning all weekend while the three-year old naps and after they've gone to bed. I can't wait to see them both when they get home!

Seriously OP, you're looking to borrow trouble here.

Did you ignore all communication for 2 days? I call BS. Everyone is glued to their phones. No one is not looking at their phone for more than a few hours. We are in year 2023.

Yep. No one ignores their phone for that long. What if your traveling wife had an emergency?

Op here. We returned last night and everything was fine. The house was a complete mess. I asked the neighbor to check on them. The younger one got into all kinds of stuff. He had my work badge hidden and he drew on the walls.
It seems he was roaming the house while Dh was in meetings. Dh said he was singing the ABCs during a video chat 😆 I asked him if it was hard and he said it was totally fine. He doesn't like to admit things are hard. After he ate the special food I brought him I made him vacuum. There were full meals all over the dining rug. One guy said he was busy cleaning while his wife was away. That would only happen in my dreams.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife took our five-year old on a four-day trip and I stayed home with the three-year old. I wanted to really enjoy this time with my youngest so I consciously set my phone aside and engaged with our child when they weren't napping. Then, because I didn't want my wife coming home to a messy house, I've been cooking and cleaning all weekend while the three-year old naps and after they've gone to bed. I can't wait to see them both when they get home!

Seriously OP, you're looking to borrow trouble here.

Did you ignore all communication for 2 days? I call BS. Everyone is glued to their phones. No one is not looking at their phone for more than a few hours. We are in year 2023.

Yep. No one ignores their phone for that long. What if your traveling wife had an emergency?

Op here. We returned last night and everything was fine. The house was a complete mess. I asked the neighbor to check on them. The younger one got into all kinds of stuff. He had my work badge hidden and he drew on the walls.
It seems he was roaming the house while Dh was in meetings. Dh said he was singing the ABCs during a video chat 😆 I asked him if it was hard and he said it was totally fine. He doesn't like to admit things are hard. After he ate the special food I brought him I made him vacuum. There were full meals all over the dining rug. One guy said he was busy cleaning while his wife was away. That would only happen in my dreams.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife took our five-year old on a four-day trip and I stayed home with the three-year old. I wanted to really enjoy this time with my youngest so I consciously set my phone aside and engaged with our child when they weren't napping. Then, because I didn't want my wife coming home to a messy house, I've been cooking and cleaning all weekend while the three-year old naps and after they've gone to bed. I can't wait to see them both when they get home!

Seriously OP, you're looking to borrow trouble here.

Did you ignore all communication for 2 days? I call BS. Everyone is glued to their phones. No one is not looking at their phone for more than a few hours. We are in year 2023.

Yep. No one ignores their phone for that long. What if your traveling wife had an emergency?

Op here. We returned last night and everything was fine. The house was a complete mess. I asked the neighbor to check on them. The younger one got into all kinds of stuff. He had my work badge hidden and he drew on the walls.
It seems he was roaming the house while Dh was in meetings. Dh said he was singing the ABCs during a video chat 😆 I asked him if it was hard and he said it was totally fine. He doesn't like to admit things are hard. After he ate the special food I brought him I made him vacuum. There were full meals all over the dining rug. One guy said he was busy cleaning while his wife was away. That would only happen in my dreams.

Did you guys not line up childcare for the work day? You guys literally left a 3 year old to entertain himself while your dh was working? How old are you and your husband?