Dh ignoring me while taking a weekend trip

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So he's stressed and was also parenting alone this weekend. And he obviously did respond but not as much as you want. So you plan to eat his favorite food as punishment? Enjoy being divorced in a few years. You sound like a drama queen nightmare

Op here he has not responded since yesterday afternoon. Going a day and a half without communication is very unusual.

That's strange. I'd be upset if he was ignoring you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So he's stressed and was also parenting alone this weekend. And he obviously did respond but not as much as you want. So you plan to eat his favorite food as punishment? Enjoy being divorced in a few years. You sound like a drama queen nightmare

Op here he has not responded since yesterday afternoon. Going a day and a half without communication is very unusual.

Not responding for a day and a half is very weird. Are they dead?

Did you call?

Yes several times

Can anyone check in them? Id be worried about carbon monoxide poisoning or something, not that he’s ignoring you!

[Anonymous]

So weird, wouldn’t you normally FaceTime your 3 yo yo say hello or goodnight? Has your 5 yo asked to speak with dad?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this post op like what do you mean you left him with a cooler with his favorite at home???

What???

Perhaps he's taking a much needed break from you.

I have been hauling around a cooler to keep the food I bought him fresh.

Omg. I’m not following at all…so confusing

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you the poster who took the older child to NYC while leaving the younger one at home because he pees everywhere?

This was my guess too. Maybe he's dealing with your 3yo and the behavioral problems that kept you from taking him on the trip.

I didn’t think of this but I bet you’re right.

He’s stuck at home alone dealing with a kid with serious issues while apparently also stressed about work and she’s wondering why he’s not sending replies to her cute pics while she visits museums all day with the older kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So weird, wouldn’t you normally FaceTime your 3 yo yo say hello or goodnight? Has your 5 yo asked to speak with dad?

This- with toddlers going day and a half with no response is weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So weird, wouldn’t you normally FaceTime your 3 yo yo say hello or goodnight? Has your 5 yo asked to speak with dad?

No reason to FaceTime, they aren’t gone for a month, why remind the younger kid they are missing a fun trip. Weird to tote around food in a cooler, did husband even ask for that?

That said, I’d be annoyed for husband to not even respond with a quick text answering whether they are ok or not at home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So weird, wouldn’t you normally FaceTime your 3 yo yo say hello or goodnight? Has your 5 yo asked to speak with dad?

No reason to FaceTime, they aren’t gone for a month, why remind the younger kid they are missing a fun trip. Weird to tote around food in a cooler, did husband even ask for that?

That said, I’d be annoyed for husband to not even respond with a quick text answering whether they are ok or not at home.

You only touch base with your children if you’re gone a month? Mine like to at least say a quick hello/love you and have so since they were that young. Now they’re teens.

[Anonymous]

Are you home yet? Everyone ok? I’d definitely think there was something wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this post op like what do you mean you left him with a cooler with his favorite at home???

What???

Perhaps he's taking a much needed break from you.

Right? Did she take the refrigerator with her? I'd be mad, too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this post op like what do you mean you left him with a cooler with his favorite at home???

What???

Perhaps he's taking a much-needed break from you.

Right? Did she take the refrigerator with her? I'd be mad, too.

She bought him some kind of special food they can't get here that isn't perishable. It's not that complicated.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So he's stressed and was also parenting alone this weekend. And he obviously did respond but not as much as you want. So you plan to eat his favorite food as punishment? Enjoy being divorced in a few years. You sound like a drama queen nightmare

Op here he has not responded since yesterday afternoon. Going a day and a half without communication is very unusual.

Not responding for a day and a half is very weird. Are they dead?

I'd be concerned if my DH didn't call or text me back after more than 24 hours and he had our child with him. That part is reasonable. I didn't read the whole thread and don't know all the previous references but got this far.

[Anonymous]

Your title makes it sound like he’s on a guys’ trip while everything at home is breaking.. but you already know that.
If you miss him, go home, he’s your husband, nobody can keep you two apart unless you both agree, and certainly for the weekend, nobody can make you each take a kid and spend it separately.
Op, it was a cold rainy weekend here last weekend. I wouldn’t have wanted to be parenting solo from a mental health perspective. I just wouldn’t. I also wouldn’t want to be home with one kid while my husband sent me cute pics of a trip I wasn’t on, not last weekend at any rate, I’m not kidding when I say the only thing that made the nasty weather on Saturday bearable was that my husband and I were together. We had a fun night at church Friday, and our kids had activities on Saturday so we were plenty busy, but yes, parenting on a weekend that is gross and cold during a time that is usually family time, coupled with the needs of a younger child (you knew what you were doing by taking the older one and getting out of Dodge), would not have made me too responsive to my husband either. That may sound nutty, but I am by no means the “cool wife” and I can run my marriage however I like. It’s doubtful that your 5-year-old and you share an interest that your husband and 3-year-old can’t share. That may change, but not yet.

Sounds like you’re looking for a fight or read to many parenting books on how each kid needs individual time, otherwise they will grow up totally unfit for society. If you don’t enjoy what you’re doing, stop and come home. Your husband will be glad to see you and there’s all kinds of stuff you can do as a family here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Your title makes it sound like he’s on a guys’ trip while everything at home is breaking.. but you already know that.
If you miss him, go home, he’s your husband, nobody can keep you two apart unless you both agree, and certainly for the weekend, nobody can make you each take a kid and spend it separately.
Op, it was a cold rainy weekend here last weekend. I wouldn’t have wanted to be parenting solo from a mental health perspective. I just wouldn’t. I also wouldn’t want to be home with one kid while my husband sent me cute pics of a trip I wasn’t on, not last weekend at any rate, I’m not kidding when I say the only thing that made the nasty weather on Saturday bearable was that my husband and I were together. We had a fun night at church Friday, and our kids had activities on Saturday so we were plenty busy, but yes, parenting on a weekend that is gross and cold during a time that is usually family time, coupled with the needs of a younger child (you knew what you were doing by taking the older one and getting out of Dodge), would not have made me too responsive to my husband either. That may sound nutty, but I am by no means the “cool wife” and I can run my marriage however I like. It’s doubtful that your 5-year-old and you share an interest that your husband and 3-year-old can’t share. That may change, but not yet.

Sounds like you’re looking for a fight or read to many parenting books on how each kid needs individual time, otherwise they will grow up totally unfit for society. If you don’t enjoy what you’re doing, stop and come home. Your husband will be glad to see you and there’s all kinds of stuff you can do as a family here.

You're jumping to a lot of conclusions pp. Her husband could have gone but doesn't value traveling so she decided to take one kid instead of two. Sounds reasonable. Why does he get to stay home child-free? Maybe she was visiting her parents. Maybe they don't have the funds to all together. We don't know but ignoring each other for 1.5 days isn't right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am on a 4-day trip with our 5-year-old. He stayed home with the 3 year old. He has ignored us all day. I sent cute pictures of our 5-year-old at the museum and didn't get a response. Usually, we don't text a lot but if we are on a trip we will text more I.e. Letting each other know we are boarding stuff like that. The whole weekend I feel he's been standoffish. I went out of my way to bring him his favorite food. I got a cooler bag and ice packs. I may just eat the food myself 😆 I don't think he's up to anything because we don't have a babysitter locally. Whenever he goes the younger one will have to go. I think he's mad he didn't come but I asked him to come and he declined. He doesn't value vacations/ trips and is super stressed with work but won't admit it. We've been married for 12 years.

This is what stuck out to me. Her dh refuses to go on vacations so she's doing the best she can which is splitting the kids up so she can handle it.