Very attractive women, how has your dating life been?

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Anonymous wrote:"Very attractive" women get too much attention from the wrong men, unless you have a bouncer to run a credit/background check first. "Decent looking" women get attention from a better crowd.
A very attractive woman can look decent by dressing down and wearing less makeup.

Being "very attractive" works when you are targeting a specific individual and will take initiative.

Is kim kardashian very attractive? Is Alexandria ocasio cortez very attractive? she kind of looks like a horse to me.

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I'm going to directly answer OP's question. I'm now 40 & very happily married but it took a long time. I was known as a "Very Attractive women" in my dating years in very competitive markets- NYC, DC. Yes I had LOTS of dates and LOTS of attention and it was fun, but none of that matters if you don't have chemistry. I very much wanted to settle down and get married in my late 20s/early 30s and had my heartbroken several times because we just weren't a match. Especially in places like DC- most men aren't willing to marry just a pretty face and they value way more.
Many, many of my ex's are married to women that many would consider far "less attractive looking" than me because chemistry and intimacy aren't necessarily tied to that. You cannot force serious connection- no matter how good looking or charming you are. Thankfully, after many dates and years, I found the person I was supposed to be with on many levels.

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I'm going to directly answer OP's question. I'm now 40 & very happily married but it took a long time. I was known as a "Very Attractive women" in my dating years in very competitive markets- NYC, DC. Yes I had LOTS of dates and LOTS of attention and it was fun, but none of that matters if you don't have chemistry. I very much wanted to settle down and get married in my late 20s/early 30s and had my heartbroken several times because we just weren't a match. Especially in places like DC- most men aren't willing to marry just a pretty face and they value way more.
Many, many of my ex's are married to women that many would consider far "less attractive looking" than me because chemistry and intimacy aren't necessarily tied to that. You cannot force serious connection- no matter how good looking or charming you are. Thankfully, after many dates and years, I found the person I was supposed to be with on many levels.

It sounds like they just settled actually. Unless you are from Nigeria or a sumo wrestler then you'd settle with a chubbo woman. I don't see why you were in relationships with ex's you didn't have chemistry or sexual attraction with. Isn't that the whole point?

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I'm going to directly answer OP's question. I'm now 40 & very happily married but it took a long time. I was known as a "Very Attractive women" in my dating years in very competitive markets- NYC, DC. Yes I had LOTS of dates and LOTS of attention and it was fun, but none of that matters if you don't have chemistry. I very much wanted to settle down and get married in my late 20s/early 30s and had my heartbroken several times because we just weren't a match. Especially in places like DC- most men aren't willing to marry just a pretty face and they value way more.
Many, many of my ex's are married to women that many would consider far "less attractive looking" than me because chemistry and intimacy aren't necessarily tied to that. You cannot force serious connection- no matter how good looking or charming you are. Thankfully, after many dates and years, I found the person I was supposed to be with on many levels.

It sounds like they just settled actually. Unless you are from Nigeria or a sumo wrestler then you'd settle with a chubbo woman. I don't see why you were in relationships with ex's you didn't have chemistry or sexual attraction with. Isn't that the whole point?

PP here- You are missing the point. I did have chemistry & attraction with them..but we didn't have enough to make the relationship more serious. Also, they didn't necessarily settle. The women they married they found attractive in their own way for a variety of reasons and having a woman who has to make everyone's head turn isn't one of them.

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Anonymous wrote:"Very attractive" women get too much attention from the wrong men, unless you have a bouncer to run a credit/background check first. "Decent looking" women get attention from a better crowd.
A very attractive woman can look decent by dressing down and wearing less makeup.

Being "very attractive" works when you are targeting a specific individual and will take initiative.

Is kim kardashian very attractive? Is Alexandria ocasio cortez very attractive? she kind of looks like a horse to me.

AOC is incredibly attractive because she looks decent and spits righteous fire. But that's different because she's famous, not the usual scenario where you react to someone's attractiveness before you know much about them besides their look.

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The few true 10s I have know were serial monogamists. The men they were with were so enamored by their looks that they treated the 10s like goddesses until the spell eventually wore off. Then the beautiful women moved on to the next guy. Eventually the 10s aged out of this cycle by looking more normal and being forced to carry their own weight.

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Anonymous wrote:"Very attractive" women get too much attention from the wrong men, unless you have a bouncer to run a credit/background check first. "Decent looking" women get attention from a better crowd.
A very attractive woman can look decent by dressing down and wearing less makeup.

Being "very attractive" works when you are targeting a specific individual and will take initiative.

Is kim kardashian very attractive? Is Alexandria ocasio cortez very attractive? she kind of looks like a horse to me.

AOC is incredibly attractive because she looks decent and spits righteous fire. But that's different because she's famous, not the usual scenario where you react to someone's attractiveness before you know much about them besides their look.

She's incredibly lucky but hardly a 6 and probably a 2 in nyc.

[Anonymous]

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I'm going to directly answer OP's question. I'm now 40 & very happily married but it took a long time. I was known as a "Very Attractive women" in my dating years in very competitive markets- NYC, DC. Yes I had LOTS of dates and LOTS of attention and it was fun, but none of that matters if you don't have chemistry. I very much wanted to settle down and get married in my late 20s/early 30s and had my heartbroken several times because we just weren't a match. Especially in places like DC- most men aren't willing to marry just a pretty face and they value way more.
Many, many of my ex's are married to women that many would consider far "less attractive looking" than me because chemistry and intimacy aren't necessarily tied to that. You cannot force serious connection- no matter how good looking or charming you are. Thankfully, after many dates and years, I found the person I was supposed to be with on many levels.

Lots of women are called "very attractive." Truly beautiful women get proposal after proposal.

Yes, it's possible that the man after man broke your heart to marry much less attractive women. It's more likely that your looks were less exceptional than you think and that these men dropped you for women whose looks were on par with yours or better.

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Well, they are all pink in the inside.

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I'm going to directly answer OP's question. I'm now 40 & very happily married but it took a long time. I was known as a "Very Attractive women" in my dating years in very competitive markets- NYC, DC. Yes I had LOTS of dates and LOTS of attention and it was fun, but none of that matters if you don't have chemistry. I very much wanted to settle down and get married in my late 20s/early 30s and had my heartbroken several times because we just weren't a match. Especially in places like DC- most men aren't willing to marry just a pretty face and they value way more.
Many, many of my ex's are married to women that many would consider far "less attractive looking" than me because chemistry and intimacy aren't necessarily tied to that. You cannot force serious connection- no matter how good looking or charming you are. Thankfully, after many dates and years, I found the person I was supposed to be with on many levels.

Lots of women are called "very attractive." Truly beautiful women get proposal after proposal.

Yes, it's possible that the man after man broke your heart to marry much less attractive women. It's more likely that your looks were less exceptional than you think and that these men dropped you for women whose looks were on par with yours or better.

So you think truly beautiful women have it all made? They never experience heartache, have everything go their way and everything turns out just peachy? Sorry but you are wrong

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Anonymous wrote:Wondering how dating life compares for those who are very attractive vs those of us who are average. Have you found it harder or easier to find a long term partner? Any disadvantages to being very attractive?

Advantage is that it is easy to find a man because men come up to me all the time. The downside is that men come up to me all time.

Where do they come up to you? DC women aren't the best dressers. Most of them lack makeup or good fashion sense and look like moms.

I'm "girl next door" attractive vice "very attractive" and men approach me quite often in the DC area. That's not unusual, so I'm sure really attractive women get it all of the time.

I'm surprised they do since many hold clearances and would be afraid of branded a perv in this post me too generation. I thought attractive women fished for men online.

PP here and I’m sure having a great body has something to do with it for me. I’m 40, a mom, and I’m curvy with a 6 pack. I work out and eat well, so I stand out amongst my peers in that sense. I also tend to make eye contact with people and smile as I go. Men sometimes assume that’s the green light to approach and I’m not mad at that. My mom is friendly to everyone and I used to dread going out with her as a kid because men were constantly approaching or checking her out. Anyway, the combo of being friendly and in good shape (but otherwise average) makes it pretty easy to meet men. To be fair, I also work in an industry well-suited for meeting new men pretty often.

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I'm going to directly answer OP's question. I'm now 40 & very happily married but it took a long time. I was known as a "Very Attractive women" in my dating years in very competitive markets- NYC, DC. Yes I had LOTS of dates and LOTS of attention and it was fun, but none of that matters if you don't have chemistry. I very much wanted to settle down and get married in my late 20s/early 30s and had my heartbroken several times because we just weren't a match. Especially in places like DC- most men aren't willing to marry just a pretty face and they value way more.
Many, many of my ex's are married to women that many would consider far "less attractive looking" than me because chemistry and intimacy aren't necessarily tied to that. You cannot force serious connection- no matter how good looking or charming you are. Thankfully, after many dates and years, I found the person I was supposed to be with on many levels.

Lots of women are called "very attractive." Truly beautiful women get proposal after proposal.

Yes, it's possible that the man after man broke your heart to marry much less attractive women. It's more likely that your looks were less exceptional than you think and that these men dropped you for women whose looks were on par with yours or better.

So you think truly beautiful women have it all made? They never experience heartache, have everything go their way and everything turns out just peachy? Sorry but you are wrong

They have a number of problems, including being dismissed as daft bevause of their looks. Also, they attract shallow men. But the ultra attractive women I've come across have no problems getting proposals. And men tend to choose more attractive women for long term relationships unless there's a big difference in class or education.

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I'm going to directly answer OP's question. I'm now 40 & very happily married but it took a long time. I was known as a "Very Attractive women" in my dating years in very competitive markets- NYC, DC. Yes I had LOTS of dates and LOTS of attention and it was fun, but none of that matters if you don't have chemistry. I very much wanted to settle down and get married in my late 20s/early 30s and had my heartbroken several times because we just weren't a match. Especially in places like DC- most men aren't willing to marry just a pretty face and they value way more.
Many, many of my ex's are married to women that many would consider far "less attractive looking" than me because chemistry and intimacy aren't necessarily tied to that. You cannot force serious connection- no matter how good looking or charming you are. Thankfully, after many dates and years, I found the person I was supposed to be with on many levels.

Lots of women are called "very attractive." Truly beautiful women get proposal after proposal.

Yes, it's possible that the man after man broke your heart to marry much less attractive women. It's more likely that your looks were less exceptional than you think and that these men dropped you for women whose looks were on par with yours or better.

So you think truly beautiful women have it all made? They never experience heartache, have everything go their way and everything turns out just peachy? Sorry but you are wrong

They have a number of problems, including being dismissed as daft bevause of their looks. Also, they attract shallow men. But the ultra attractive women I've come across have no problems getting proposals. And men tend to choose more attractive women for long term relationships unless there's a big difference in class or education.

I'm the PP who responded before. Again, I never got a problem with proposals and who was coming to me- the numbers were high. I dismissed many in my life (too safe). I wasn't interested in the very shallow men- they were easy to entertain and basic. You ARE correct if the very attractive women stops there.
I wanted serious connection and thought I had it several times in my life before I found the real thing. Many other men (especially intelligent, interesting men) also seek deep connection. I've seen time and time again these men choose moderately attractive women (or moderate in comparison) to the "hottest" date they've ever had

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Anonymous wrote:I always wonder about women who respond to threads like this. Do you really think you are "Very" attractive? LOL.

I don’t think they think they are Helen of Troy, but I think women know roughly what decile they fall in, or at the least which quartile!

women probably have a clearer sense of their looks than any other personal characteristic as there is constant and often intrusive external feedback.

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Most people do not consider Jackie very attractive. She is good looking, the kind of good looking that most tall women can achieve with diet, exercise and a good skin care regimen.

She is not very attractive.

I think it's hilarious how insecure people on the internet try to put obviously attractive women down by claiming they aren't all that. Jackie was a world famous beauty. Also she's dead so she won't read this.