Dream trip and uninterested spouse

[Anonymous]

I think you’d love it even solo, but if you have kids, I’d consider taking them! My husband and I went on a safari pre-kids and can’t wait to go with them when they’re old enough — it’s a trip we’d want them to remember and be mature enough to follow the rules, so I’d guess 10 or older would be best.

[Anonymous]

Do you have kids that you can go with?

It is really hard to find people who want to do the same thing with the same budget. I do a lot of things with just my kids.

[Anonymous]

I have lots of friends whose spouses are not on the same page with travel. I don’t think it is uncommon.

I personally am the one not so interested in safari but will go once. It seems far and totally not my thing no matter how luxurious it is set up.

[Anonymous]

I would go on my own and save the money he’s not spending to do a trip you both want to do or he can take a trip you’re not interested in. Dh travels without me sometimes (rock climbing) and I often tack on to work travel. We haven’t had time or money to take extensive trips like a safari but I’d have no issue going alone (he would not be as interested either) and I’d have no issue with him doing his thing. As long as we also have stuff we want to do together. I actually love it when dh is gone for a little while. I’m happy to see him when he’s back but sometimes I really enjoy being by myself.

[Anonymous]

Do you have kids?

You should take them and join a family friendly group. It’ll be an amazing experience.

Who cares if your husband wants to stay home and watch Netflix? GO!

[Anonymous]

Just because you can, doesn't mean you should.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I went to South Africa with our then 2.5 year old. It truly was amazing, from Capetown, the wine region, and the safari. I believe it truly has something for everyone and throwing in a safari for a few nights would be no big deal.

While I loved the safari, the wine region and the coast (seeing the penguins) was probably my favorite part.

[Anonymous]

This is a relationship issue not a travel issue.

A big part of marriage is sucking it up and doing things to make your partner happy.

Ask your husband why he won’t do something nice to make you happy and report back.

Rattle off all the dumb stuff you’ve done for him, if necessary.

Remind him about safari sex.

But if he’s going to be a jerk, then don’t bother bringing him. Find a friend or join a group.

I’m sure you could post on your FB to see if anyone is interested in a safari and someone will reach out.

[Anonymous]

He’s not being an ass. Go alone on a tour if you can’t find someone who wants to be there. It’s really expensive and if he goes and doesn’t really want to be there it won’t be the same for you.

I’ve gone on many big vacations with my husband be supportive that I find really boring or uncomfortable. Think of roughing it types of trips in other countries or places far away with a particular interest, like something in history. At this point in my life I’m not doing it anymore. It’s not as fun for him because he can see I’m not loving it, even if I’m quiet and/or agreeable. It’s a waste of money and takes away from his enjoyment. He can go with friends, our kids or alone on a tour.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I have had the same debate over the same trip. I would love to go on a safari but he has no interest. I’ve dropped it because I’m not going to push him into an entire trip he doesn’t want. The world is big and there’s lots of trips we both want to do. My DD graduates from high school in a few years. I’m contemplating a mother/daughter safari trip to celebrate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[quote=Anonymous]If it's safe to do with him, it's safe to do alone. Seriously. You should only go with a vetted tour group that you'd trust alone as much as with him.

This is absolutely not always the case. The world is not always safe for women as much as we wish it was

+1 My DH and I were on safari in Tanzania last November, and we went as lux as possible -- and I wouldn't want to do it alone. If I wanted to go again and DH didn't want to go, I'd do a group tour. I'd say men can go alone, no problem. Not women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[quote=Anonymous]If it's safe to do with him, it's safe to do alone. Seriously. You should only go with a vetted tour group that you'd trust alone as much as with him.

This is absolutely not always the case. The world is not always safe for women as much as we wish it was

+1 My DH and I were on safari in Tanzania last November, and we went as lux as possible -- and I wouldn't want to do it alone. If I wanted to go again and DH didn't want to go, I'd do a group tour. I'd say men can go alone, no problem. Not women.

I agree with this and I was just on safari earlier this year (Tanzania, Uganda, Kenya). I went with my sister, so two females. We were fine and everything, and we weren't in any danger, but it is not as safe as everyone raves on and on about. I assumed it was but once you're there, you'll understand why, and understand what could go wrong. And I'm someone who has solo traveled as a female to many, many countries, and all over the US. I would've felt so much safer if my husband would've been with.

[Anonymous]

We just got back from two weeks in Tanzania and it was wonderful. You can do this alone by finding a group tour to join--it is very safe. Your husband doesn't know what he is missing. It is a transformative experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Relationship issues aside, I went on a private safari in Tanzania solo. Not only was it safe, it was one of my favorite trips ever.

NP…which one did you go on.

I’m a NP and could have written this exact post. I do have a friend who would probably go, but I’ll go single if I have to. Too important to me to miss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We just got back from two weeks in Tanzania and it was wonderful. You can do this alone by finding a group tour to join--it is very safe. Your husband doesn't know what he is missing. It is a transformative experience.

+1
Go with a group but your dh doesnt know what he will be missing.
I was the most reluctant to go - and am not interested in animals either.

It turned out to be one of the best and most memorable trips I have ever been on.