Dream trip and uninterested spouse
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Anonymous
| Just looking to vent, but a reality check on whether I'm being reasonable would be good. My dream vacation is a safari. We have the $$ to do it in a nice and safe way. DH is adamant that he is completely uninterested and will never go on such a trip. No moral opposition, just thinks it seems boring and silly and not a way he wants to spend his time. As a woman this is not a trip that's safe to go on alone, and I wouldn't be able to convince any friends to go on such a trip. Is he being an ass or is it silly of me to try to push something he doesn't care to do? |
Anonymous
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OP I will go on this trip with you! Screw your husband (except not because he doesn't deserve it).
Anyway, he is being an ass. Sometimes in life and especially in a marriage we do things we may not find interesting because the other person loves it. You aren't asking him to do anything dangerous. |
Anonymous
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He’s totally being an ass. My husband is game for trips with me, but I push the boundaries and I know he’s worried beforehand. Like staying in huts in Africa, camping in wadi rum. But he knows I want it and knows I’m not stupid and that’s I’ve planned it to be safe. It probably was something I should have done before meeting Dh but we met young. I did spend a summer backpacking Europe and sleeping under bridges.
Why wouldn’t a girlfriend go? |
Anonymous
OP here. My friends don’t spend very much on vacation….I would feel very odd asking anyone to join a trip that would probably be $1500+/night, and no one would be willing to spend that much. |
Anonymous
| Join a group trip. Not fair to make your husband go on such a big trip he has no interest in because you want to. |
Anonymous
| Find something you both would enjoy. Compromise. |
Anonymous
| Omg just go by yourself. “Africa” is not unsafe. If you arrange with a safari outfitter they will literally do everything for you. Trust me, you’ll have very little encounters with unsafe Africans. |
Anonymous
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I have women friends who have gone on safaris (non-hunting) by themselves and they had a blast! They made really good friends with whom they're still in contact.
The outfitters are very experienced and will give you the trip of a lifetime. I would just go. Much better solo than dragging along an unenthusiastic spouse. |
Anonymous
| Find a tour group to do this with. You could go on a women’s trip or one with a mixed group. There are all kinds of resources for solo travel that allow you to join a group of likeminded travelers. |
Anonymous
So pay for them. You have the money. If the alternative is it’s no safari, or safari with annoyed and unhappy husband, just pay for the friend too. |
Anonymous
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My nail tech just went with another girl friend to South Africa and on a safari. She said it was amazing.
Go on your own or bring a friend. Get cheaper accommodations if you bring a friend. |
Anonymous
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OP, I'm the 11:23 poster. My nail tech and her friend had a driver. They spent time in the wine region and also on the safari and also in the two main cities of South Africa.
The one thing thing she recommended was a driver. They had 2 drivers for the trip (in luxury vehicles.). One driver was for the first half and the second driver was for the second half. I think it took my nail tech 2 years to save up for the trip. She raved about the trip. |
Anonymous
| Can you take one of your parents with you? Or one of his parents? |
Anonymous
| I would never go on a safari either. |
Anonymous
| I would start talking about this dream trip to friends, coworkers, neighbors. I bet you'll find someone who would go with you. I would go with a casual friend in a heartbeat. |