Dream trip and uninterested spouse

[Anonymous]

I don’t think he’s being an ass. That’s a big trip that requires a lot of effort; if he’d be miserable, why would you want him to go?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think he’s being an ass. That’s a big trip that requires a lot of effort; if he’d be miserable, why would you want him to go?

The effort is getting to the airport. All inclusive safaris are actually incredibly sedentary. If he wanted, he could spend most of his time at the lodges doing little but read and relax.

OP, single people go on safaris all the time. I did in my single days. The last time we went on one there were singles at our camp. It was wonderful. I'd look at Porini/Gamewatchers in Kenya. They are fab. No fear traveling alone. People can be quite social at the camps and on the safari drives. You won't feel alone or left out.

[Anonymous]

Just go to the San Diego Wild Animal Park.

[Anonymous]

I’ll go OP. This is the same situation with my DH. We will be traveling separately in retirement lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I went on safari in Tanzania last November. It was truly the trip of a lifetime. My DH wasn't super into the idea when I planned it -- he said something like "They just drive you around looking for animals -- that sounds super boring." Once we got there and were "driving around looking for animals," he found it thrilling. Best trip ever.

At any rate, if he won't go, just do a group trip. FWIW, I wouldn't have been comfortable alone, even though we went five-star.

We had a similar experience. My dad really wanted to do go to Cape Town but had zero interest in a safari. He's not an animal lover or nature lover at all. My mom said no way are we going all the way to South Africa and not going on a safari. And of course my dad loved every bit of the safari, it was truly a magical experience and everyone in the family pretty much immediately wanted to go on another one.

OP, go and you can be smug for life over what your husband missed. Find a relative or friend or group of strangers. But don't miss the chance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think he’s being an ass. That’s a big trip that requires a lot of effort; if he’d be miserable, why would you want him to go?

The effort is getting to the airport. All inclusive safaris are actually incredibly sedentary. If he wanted, he could spend most of his time at the lodges doing little but read and relax.

OP, single people go on safaris all the time. I did in my single days. The last time we went on one there were singles at our camp. It was wonderful. I'd look at Porini/Gamewatchers in Kenya. They are fab. No fear traveling alone. People can be quite social at the camps and on the safari drives. You won't feel alone or left out.

Effort isn’t just physical.

[Anonymous]

Pay for a friend to join you.

[Anonymous]

He's entitled to a preference. You are lucky he doesn't mind you spending the money on yourself. Just you. It's a YOU problem that you can't envision/arrange going without him. You're being ridiculous - there is plenty of group travel.

"Dream" trip is another thing that's ridiculous. I hope you/ or you and he, will have other significant trips in the future. But it's on you to fulfill your wishes, the best you two can agree and afford. He may never want to go. And that's ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's entitled to a preference. You are lucky he doesn't mind you spending the money on yourself. Just you. It's a YOU problem that you can't envision/arrange going without him. You're being ridiculous - there is plenty of group travel.

"Dream" trip is another thing that's ridiculous. I hope you/ or you and he, will have other significant trips in the future. But it's on you to fulfill your wishes, the best you two can agree and afford. He may never want to go. And that's ok.

I don't assume this is true based on the OP.

[Anonymous]

I didn't say it was -necessarily- true, just that's she's in a good position, that they agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't say it was -necessarily- true, just that's she's in a good position, that they agree.

IF he does feel that way, but it's quite possible he'd pout about the $$$$ vacation for 1 too.

[Anonymous]

This is also a trip that wouldn't interest me at all. I would have a hard time if my spouse wanted to blow that kind of money on something I didn't want to do. Maybe I would compromise by visiting some cities in Africa I wanted to while my spouse went on to a safari.

[Anonymous]

Go by yourself!! I’m realizing my DH has no plan to retire - and I’m not waiting around once I have that freedom for his vacation days. I have already told him I plan on using the vacation budget.

[Anonymous]

She said it's not a problem.
Next, ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find a tour group to do this with. You could go on a women’s trip or one with a mixed group. There are all kinds of resources for solo travel that allow you to join a group of likeminded travelers.

+1!
Op, empower yourself! You’ll never regret taking a trip like this.