Poorly behaved houseguests

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe all these replies. Presumably you allowed them to visit and stay with you? They didn't just shop up? Seriously, just nicely ask the kid to change the behavior if it's really bad. Tell him the rules and ask him to comply. Do it nicely and get over it. It's a few days and these people are obviously part of your life. Just be courteous and patient for a few days. I would never ever behave the way some posters are suggesting. If you do or say those things to those parents, particularly suggesting they leave because of their kid's behavior, that relationship will be over forever. I would guess the guests are your really your spouse's and you're looking to judge, though, too, right?

You do realize that...OP has already tried this approach, yes? And it hasn't work.

So now it's time to try another tactic, right? That's what we are suggesting.

And no, it's actually not being courteous to teach this kid and his parents that they can roll up and act like this in someone's home, to the point of being destructive and disruptive. You're the type who confuses "being courteous" with "being a doormat." Those are two different things.

I know it very well. I also know how not to walk around with a stick in my...

All evidence to the contrary. Or, as you so inelegantly put it, "Bullsh*t, bullsh*t"

Stay classy.

I'm the PP and not the one who posted that. As I said in my just previous post, there are several who think you all need to learn to chill.

You sound like a lazy parent of ill-behaved kids. You’ll deny it, of course, because it’s an anonymous message board, but it’s completely obvious, since you seem waaay overinvested in these crappily behaved kids and their checked out parents and demand that OP just suck it up and tolerate it for the duration of the multiple-night visit in HER house. No.

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Anonymous wrote:OP still hasn't said who the guests are and since this is in the Family relationships forum, I am sure it is inlaws. Regardless, OP, it's family. Suck it up and be nice and let go of your rules for a few days. It won't kill you.

Ignore this, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:If the kid is that hard the parents are strung out, exhausted. That’s why they’re ignoring him.

No. Excuse. Whatsoever.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. It is my inlaws. They got here Saturday, were only supposed to stay the weekend before visitsing other relatives, but the day before they arrived told us they wanted to spend extra time in DC, and we obliged. They're supposed to be leaving tomorrow (fingers crossed), but then they also said they would be back in DC on Friday or Saturday, implying that they would be staying with us again, before going home on Monday. I think we're just going to say it's been too disruptive for our 2yo (which is true!) and get them a hotel (spouse feels too bad about it so we will likely just pay).

I see the recommendation of asking the parents to tell their kid to behave, which seems kind of awkward to me. The parents will be in the same room, right next to their kid, as he's kicking a piece of furniture and not say a thing about it. So I've just been taking it upon myself. The end is hopefully in sight at least.

Of course it’s the in laws! DCUM women are the most intolerant of in laws of any set of women on the planet!

Oh, here you are, hysterical pro-in law whiny exclamation point lady.

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Anonymous wrote:We tell the parents to handle it. "Dave, please keep Roger from jumping on the couch. That's not allowed in this house." "Dorinda, Roger purposely poured his juice all over the floor - the paper towels are over there and the mop is in the closet where the laundry is."

And then we hustle them out ASAP. "It seems like Roger is really not enjoying himself here, and it's straining the visit. Maybe you guys would be more comfortable in a hotel."

NP - love all this.

No way. That is all insanely rude. If you can't deal with differences in people, then do not have houseguests. Like seriously, chill out about all your rules for a few days.

Asking someone’s child to not pour juice all over the floor is rude? GTFOH

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Anonymous wrote:If the kid is that hard the parents are strung out, exhausted. That’s why they’re ignoring him.

No. Excuse. Whatsoever.

If kid is that difficult, you don’t bring him as a guest to someone else’s home.

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Tell them the kid needs to be reigned in.