Jealous of my smug happy sister

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Hmmm.

Calling someone "smug" usually means you're jealous. Not that this person has done anything wrong. And your description bears this out.

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Anonymous wrote:Is she smug, or do you think she is smug because you are jealous.

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THIS

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Anonymous wrote:My sister is a unicorn. Married rich. To a great guy who adores her. Perfect and loving in laws. Great job. Easy and successful pregnancy. House In a desirable location.

She is so happy and smug. Talking about how she worked so hard so she deserves this and we all need to work harder so we can fix our own lives. Ugh I hate her!

I hate to tell you this but she's not a unicorn. I happen to know a few women in my social circle who fit this description. I might feel the occasional twinge of envy but have to admit that they are special in their own right. To have a very successful, loving man fall in love with you usually means you are attractive to that kind of man. That kind of man often has loving and successful parents. Often these women are quite attractive and socially adept. Other than being smug and happy, what does your sister have going for her that you do not?

Op here. Well, this is just it. For as long as I recall my sister has been treated like she’s special. Teachers and neighbors and friends of our parents would fawn about her. How mature and thoughtful she was. How beautiful she was. How special she was.

She has that rare combination of beauty, poise and a great head on her shoulders. Her husband is a catch. Rich and successful, yes, but a thoroughly decent guy and his parents are wonderful people. They all love my sister and feel so lucky to have her.

I mean, you tell me how a mere mortal is supposed to not feel envious!

Marcia, Marcia, Marcia

What does this mean???

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ICVXf8Vznec

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Anonymous wrote:
Hmmm.

Calling someone "smug" usually means you're jealous. Not that this person has done anything wrong. And your description bears this out.

Smug has a definition…..

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Anonymous wrote:I was this person for many years until bad things happened to derail my smug little life. In retrospect I can’t believe how naive and judgmental I was. I thought life was really straightforward and linear and that you set a goal and then took the steps to achieve the goal. I knew people who occasionally got slammed by tragedy but I pretty much thought they were outliers. I am currently reeling from the revelation that input often doesn’t equal output (I.e. the hardest working moms will have the best kids, marriage, career etc.) and currently life feels really random to me

You are describing me, too. I see old pictures and it’s like looking into a fairytale.
OP, nothing is forever. Love your sister and let it go because life happens to everyone.

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Hmmm.

Calling someone "smug" usually means you're jealous. Not that this person has done anything wrong. And your description bears this out.

My mom led a charmed life and is the definition of smug. Example: We were at a restaurant and the waitress was her age, working her tail off. I said "She's doing such a good job, it's a shame she has to work such a tough job at her age." Mom "Well if she had picked the right man when she was young, she'd be able to relax now like me." WTH??

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Anonymous wrote:
Hmmm.

Calling someone "smug" usually means you're jealous. Not that this person has done anything wrong. And your description bears this out.

My mom led a charmed life and is the definition of smug. Example: We were at a restaurant and the waitress was her age, working her tail off. I said "She's doing such a good job, it's a shame she has to work such a tough job at her age." Mom "Well if she had picked the right man when she was young, she'd be able to relax now like me." WTH??

These types are really tone deaf and self-impressed. Usually their good fortune is a combination of luck and yes, good decisions made at the right time. But, was the waitress beautiful enough and situated strategically enough to find a rich man?? It’s one thing to say to marry rich but it’s incredibly difficult to actually do.