Does your older teen do anything besid staying up late?

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Anonymous wrote:MY DD is 15 and will be going to camp on Monday. in the past 3 weeks school was out, she would stay up till 5am and not wake till noon. she said she wasn't felling well yesterday because she went to bed at 2:30am (early)... At least she will be at camp for the next few weeks, then we have a beach trip, and RV trip, and a few weeks aftrer school will start. If your DC isn't attending camp or school are they doing anything besiding eating and ordering food at night ?

You allow a 15 YO to live like this? Wow. Not my 15 YO

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Anonymous wrote:Ordering food? Oh hell to the no. How is that getting paid for?

We allow her to spend up to $60 a week in food.

Why? Do you not feed her at home?

[Anonymous]

My 15 year old is responsible for daily tutoring for younger siblings, studying for SAT, three days a week sports practice and two days a week volunteer work. She stays up until about midnight.

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Anonymous wrote:15 isn’t really even a “older teen.” My almost-15 year old doesn’t have a whole lot going on this summer—online PE, music lessons, working on her hobby—but hell no would I be ok with her staying up all night ordering take-out. Really bizarre.

Online pe.
Smfh

It’s seriously so much more actual exercise than regular PE would be.

do they need a heart rate? or just "honest system"

Not sure about the heart rate. They have to turn in a log with screenshots from a Fitbit app. I guess it’s fakeable, but my kid is really diligent about it, and she absolutely hates exercise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:15 isn’t really even a “older teen.” My almost-15 year old doesn’t have a whole lot going on this summer—online PE, music lessons, working on her hobby—but hell no would I be ok with her staying up all night ordering take-out. Really bizarre.

Online pe.
Smfh

It’s seriously so much more actual exercise than regular PE would be.

do they need a heart rate? or just "honest system"

You need either a specific heart rate ( documented by photographs) showing date, effort, length of effort, heart rate, etc. alternatively, you can get a coach’s signature but the coach’s contact information has to be provided so the teacher can verify it’s true.

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Many teens go through periods like this. Is it ideal? No.

But you have camp coming up and she can turn over a new leaf.

IMO these other posters are overreacting. She’s not hurting anyone with her behavior. It’s normal for teens to stay up late and sleep in.

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Anonymous wrote:Mine did the same, turned out to be decent, functional and successful. Do offer advice and alternatives to be more productive but don't pick fights over it.

+1. Lots of people did stuff like this in the summer as teens and are successful adults.

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Anonymous wrote:Mine did the same, turned out to be decent, functional and successful. Do offer advice and alternatives to be more productive but don't pick fights over it.

+1. Lots of people did stuff like this in the summer as teens and are successful adults.

I don’t think the question is whether this messes up your chance at becoming a successful adult. For me, it’s an issue of so much wasted time without any schedule, obligations, etc., at an age where the kid has already had years of no or low obligation summers and, regardless, those with obligations still have plenty of downtime for whatever. With everything, I think a little more balanced approach is better. I would rather my teens have classes, sports, jobs, responsibilities, downtime, friend time, etc. as part of a balanced summertime.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine did the same, turned out to be decent, functional and successful. Do offer advice and alternatives to be more productive but don't pick fights over it.

+1. Lots of people did stuff like this in the summer as teens and are successful adults.

I don’t think the question is whether this messes up your chance at becoming a successful adult. For me, it’s an issue of so much wasted time without any schedule, obligations, etc., at an age where the kid has already had years of no or low obligation summers and, regardless, those with obligations still have plenty of downtime for whatever. With everything, I think a little more balanced approach is better. I would rather my teens have classes, sports, jobs, responsibilities, downtime, friend time, etc. as part of a balanced summertime.

+1. Also my teens are happier when they are busy. Too much unstructured time tends to result in too much phone use, which leads to more irritability. Also, I think they need to get out of the house most days, just for their mental health.