If it was the norm not to have kids, would you still have them?

[Anonymous]

Yes. DH and I hadn't planned on having kids when we got married despite the "social norms" and expectations but then one day I decided I wanted kids. DH was onboard. And now, I can't imagine life without my DC.

[Anonymous]

I probably would have intentionally only had one. I played with the idea when I was younger, but sort of brushed it off as weird. Then, surprise, ended up with one child due to infertility anyways. But it’s a much different journey to decide by choice versus end up there by failure and struggle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No but holy s*** do I think people downplay kids. I never wanted kids and if I wasn’t so old I’d have like 12. I enjoy them more than I’d ever known (only my kids though, still can’t stand other people’s kids). It’s all the cliches come true. So I’m glad a lot of society feels that way and pressured me into my own.

Gross.

[Anonymous]

In my circle (DH and I went to the same law school) having kids in your 20s was unheard of. We were one of two couples we knew who did. So I guess I would, since I did when I was surrounded by people in perpetual adolescence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I probably would have intentionally only had one. I played with the idea when I was younger, but sort of brushed it off as weird. Then, surprise, ended up with one child due to infertility anyways. But it’s a much different journey to decide by choice versus end up there by failure and struggle.

I'm sure. Fwiw, I have an only child and it's by choice but not by happy choice. More like "I know this is all I can handle."

[Anonymous]

nOPE and I would love spending my money in fun stuff

[Anonymous]

No. I only did because it was expected. But MAN, do I love him. So glad I took the leap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No but holy s*** do I think people downplay kids. I never wanted kids and if I wasn’t so old I’d have like 12. I enjoy them more than I’d ever known (only my kids though, still can’t stand other people’s kids). It’s all the cliches come true. So I’m glad a lot of society feels that way and pressured me into my own.

Gross.

Why? I'm a PP who feels the same. Love my kid, can't imagine life without him, would make the same choice over and over. But pre-him? Didn't want kids and wouldn't have unless society expected them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No but holy s*** do I think people downplay kids. I never wanted kids and if I wasn’t so old I’d have like 12. I enjoy them more than I’d ever known (only my kids though, still can’t stand other people’s kids). It’s all the cliches come true. So I’m glad a lot of society feels that way and pressured me into my own.

Gross.

You must be soOoO CoOl and countercultural, judging everyone for going with the grain of society! You were the target audience of Daria and blue hair dye in the early 2000’s too weren’t ya.