I’ve observed that truly affluent families are blasé about where their kids go to college

[Anonymous]

So people with tons of money can afford to be relaxed about their lives. Obviously.

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Anonymous wrote:This post is actually really triggering me. I grew up in these circles in Texas and went to the right school, camp, college and sorority and never felt like I really fit in with any of it - especially because the guys seemed so spoiled and vapid - and as an adult I have purposefully avoided that scene with my own kids. Now I kind of regret doing that because I see the ease in which these kids can float through life on their connections if they so choose. Not that my kids have any real hardships at all - we have plenty of money and very supportive and close families - but there is something comforting about that social bubble. I wanted to raise my kids outside of it for a reason but now that they are entering college I can see how it would be useful.

Interesting post. Even though the poster may receive a bit of flack for such thoughts, I understand. I attended college with a large group--not groups as they do find and associate with one another--of wealthy kids who enjoyed the small school environment because they were living a very comfortable country club like experience. Easy to see why wealthy parents want their kids to associate with other from a similar background. And, for the most part, such a lifestyle composed of wealth and connections works.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s easier to be rich in the south: low taxes and $1 million buys you a giant, nice house instead of a 2 bedroom $hitshack. But money doesn’t matter as much as who you’re related to.

Your information is very dated. You should get out of the DC area every now and then.

Lol just moved from there and lived there a decade.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s easier to be rich in the south: low taxes and $1 million buys you a giant, nice house instead of a 2 bedroom $hitshack. But money doesn’t matter as much as who you’re related to.

Yeah, that’s the catch. You can’t buy your way into these circles. It matters which high school you went to, who your dad is, which country club your family belongs to.

Fascinating, isn't it? There are places like this all over the country. And DC is full of people who didn't fit in where they grew up, so they came here to start over.

Dude, if you think DC doesn’t have generational wealth, you’re clearly not in those circles. DC is not the land of kids without family connections picking themselves up by their bootstraps. The very notion is hilarious

And you could go to any major city in the US to find professionals who aren’t uber wealthy making it. In fact, it’s arguably easier to go from nothing to something in LCOL markets. That’s not DC

DC is absolutely more meritocratic than places where the interviewer was your high school bully or where you’re the only person of your race or ethnicity.

Many places in the South have just as much or more diversity than the DC area. Check the demographics of Dallas, Houston, New Orleans, Atlanta, etc etc. You don’t really know what you’re talking about.

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Anonymous wrote:This post is actually really triggering me. I grew up in these circles in Texas and went to the right school, camp, college and sorority and never felt like I really fit in with any of it - especially because the guys seemed so spoiled and vapid - and as an adult I have purposefully avoided that scene with my own kids. Now I kind of regret doing that because I see the ease in which these kids can float through life on their connections if they so choose. Not that my kids have any real hardships at all - we have plenty of money and very supportive and close families - but there is something comforting about that social bubble. I wanted to raise my kids outside of it for a reason but now that they are entering college I can see how it would be useful.

Interesting post. Even though the poster may receive a bit of flack for such thoughts, I understand. I attended college with a large group--not groups as they do find and associate with one another--of wealthy kids who enjoyed the small school environment because they were living a very comfortable country club like experience. Easy to see why wealthy parents want their kids to associate with other from a similar background. And, for the most part, such a lifestyle composed of wealth and connections works.

Yeah and it is also not just about wealth but also connections and names. My maiden name/family is pretty old school connected but since I am the mom and my kid didn't get my last name they can't just show up in that circle and be recognized like they would if their dad had that name. He brings many great things to their lives though. His family is academic and more worldly and totally oblivious to the bubble.

I am being really frank here but it took time and distance to understand how this all works. My parents somewhat rejected the scene too but were still swept up in it raising us because that was what everyone else they knew were doing.

[Anonymous]

That old model, of an aristocracy, is dying out.

Sorry but the peasants have found the key to the bastille.

[Anonymous]

Sports hosts? You mean ex athletes? Otherwise sports hosts aren’t rich. You only hear about those kids if they’re also good at a sport. And if they are very good, especially in this day and age of NIL money for college kids , it is not blasé it’s a major career decision at age 18 guided by tons of people. Trust me there is nothing blasé about Arch Manning or Bronny James’ college decisions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That old model, of an aristocracy, is dying out.

Sorry but the peasants have found the key to the bastille.

Please share your knowledge to this peasant, oh wise one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That old model, of an aristocracy, is dying out.

Sorry but the peasants have found the key to the bastille.

The aristocrat wannabes are holding on for dear life with lots of private groups and closed social circles. Even after their family money is long gone, their identity and power is their lineage from a plantation owner, politicians, or founders of the city. Fewer and fewer people are impressed by this, so the circle gets smaller and less prestigious but they carry on the traditions like secret meetings and closed events that make them feel special and safe.

[Anonymous]

Sure mediocre kids from truly affluent families will go to a mediocre schools, take easy majors, and relax.

Work for dad's business or live off trust fund.

Any surprise here??

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Anonymous wrote:That old model, of an aristocracy, is dying out.

Sorry but the peasants have found the key to the bastille.

The aristocrat wannabes are holding on for dear life with lots of private groups and closed social circles. Even after their family money is long gone, their identity and power is their lineage from a plantation owner, politicians, or founders of the city. Fewer and fewer people are impressed by this, so the circle gets smaller and less prestigious but they carry on the traditions like secret meetings and closed events that make them feel special and safe.

It’s called genteel poverty.

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Anonymous wrote:Not really understanding the definition of "truly affluent".

If you look at where the children of the Top 100 richest American families attend, it is certainly clustered in Top 20 colleges. More so among the families where the person actually was the one to get themselves into the Top 100 (think Bill Gates or Stephen Schwartzman from Blackstone) vs. people in this group that inherited the wealth (think of the Waltons from Wal Mart).

I guess I just don't understand the premise.

I think she just means families with net worth in high millions (100+) as opposed to only 10M or so as we see often here.
There are more families like that than just the household names that you mentioned

Maybe, except I doubt sports hosts fall into the $100MM+ category. Maybe OP means HNW professional athletes? Their children tend to also be great athletes as well, so of course makes sense they are attending an SEC powerhouse or equivalent...but they are not blase about that...just their Top 20 would be based on the sport vs. USNews Top 20 academic rankings.

I took OP’s statement to mean owners of professional sports teams. These families are definitely high net worth and their kids are more likely go to the schools OP referenced than an Ivy.

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I feel like most of these posts were written by AI who gleaned their knowledge of the world exclusively through reality TV shows. The makeup of all schools is intentionally heterogeneous, rich/successful/"c-suite" (gah) people are not a monolithic population - all espousing the same beliefs, living the same minds of lives, wearing the same brands, voting for the same politicians.

This is an immature crap thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like most of these posts were written by AI who gleaned their knowledge of the world exclusively through reality TV shows. The makeup of all schools is intentionally heterogeneous, rich/successful/"c-suite" (gah) people are not a monolithic population - all espousing the same beliefs, living the same minds of lives, wearing the same brands, voting for the same politicians.

This is an immature crap thread.

This began as a thread arguing rich southerners don’t care that their kids go to party schools like Bama.

[Anonymous]

LMAO this is such a cope from the OP. Couldn’t be further from the truth.