In child custody dispute, breastfeeding mom is ordered to use bottle

[Anonymous]

My attorney advised me the same in 2020 when I found out I was pregnant 3 weeks after being granted a protective order against my abusive husband.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m disgusted that this is being twisted into a custody tactic.

Let the mother make her own choices about her body. Can’t some of you see how these legal rulings will be used against women?

Nobody is trying to force her to do anything with her body she does not want to do. Stop using women’s rights as a weapon, it just hurts all of us.

She cannot pump and make choice about her and her family’s health.

She CAN pump or use formula. Simple. He has equal rights to make health decisions for his child.

It’s not a health decision because his prior child was breastfed to two, and before the divorce he wanted this child breastfed.

Just own it— he wants to pay less child support for four months. What a winner.

How in the world are you connecting this to a child support determination?

Child support determinations are based on nights with each parent. He’s pushing for more nights sooner so he will pay less.

[Anonymous]

Unless the child is staying home with mom, she's already taking a bottle from SOMEONE.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m disgusted that this is being twisted into a custody tactic.

Let the mother make her own choices about her body. Can’t some of you see how these legal rulings will be used against women?

Nobody is trying to force her to do anything with her body she does not want to do. Stop using women’s rights as a weapon, it just hurts all of us.

She cannot pump and make choice about her and her family’s health.

She CAN pump or use formula. Simple. He has equal rights to make health decisions for his child.

It’s not a health decision because his prior child was breastfed to two, and before the divorce he wanted this child breastfed.

Just own it— he wants to pay less child support for four months. What a winner.

How in the world are you connecting this to a child support determination?

Child support determinations are based on nights with each parent. He’s pushing for more nights sooner so he will pay less.

Or, you know, he's pushing for more nights because he wants to spend time with his child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m disgusted that this is being twisted into a custody tactic.

Let the mother make her own choices about her body. Can’t some of you see how these legal rulings will be used against women?

Nobody is trying to force her to do anything with her body she does not want to do. Stop using women’s rights as a weapon, it just hurts all of us.

They are trying to force her to pump. Which plenty of women in functional marriages hate too.

They can also use formula, but she is the one insisting on EBF.

Her husband wanted the child breastfed when they were married, and their older child was breastfed to two. Now she’s the one insisting because she wants to do what they jointly decided was best eight months ago?

[Anonymous]

It’s kind of gross how the mother and her attorney ran to WaPo with this private dispute when the court ruling didn’t go their way.

[Anonymous]

The best thing about this is anyone who dates this man and googles him will find this article.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m disgusted that this is being twisted into a custody tactic.

Let the mother make her own choices about her body. Can’t some of you see how these legal rulings will be used against women?

Nobody is trying to force her to do anything with her body she does not want to do. Stop using women’s rights as a weapon, it just hurts all of us.

She cannot pump and make choice about her and her family’s health.

She CAN pump or use formula. Simple. He has equal rights to make health decisions for his child.

It’s not a health decision because his prior child was breastfed to two, and before the divorce he wanted this child breastfed.

Just own it— he wants to pay less child support for four months. What a winner.

How in the world are you connecting this to a child support determination?

Child support determinations are based on nights with each parent. He’s pushing for more nights sooner so he will pay less.

You are completely making this up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m disgusted that this is being twisted into a custody tactic.

Let the mother make her own choices about her body. Can’t some of you see how these legal rulings will be used against women?

Nobody is trying to force her to do anything with her body she does not want to do. Stop using women’s rights as a weapon, it just hurts all of us.

They are trying to force her to pump. Which plenty of women in functional marriages hate too.

They can also use formula, but she is the one insisting on EBF.

Her husband wanted the child breastfed when they were married, and their older child was breastfed to two. Now she’s the one insisting because she wants to do what they jointly decided was best eight months ago?

He isn’t her husband. They were never married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The best thing about this is anyone who dates this man and googles him will find this article.

And will know he’s an engaged parent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m disgusted that this is being twisted into a custody tactic.

Let the mother make her own choices about her body. Can’t some of you see how these legal rulings will be used against women?

Nobody is trying to force her to do anything with her body she does not want to do. Stop using women’s rights as a weapon, it just hurts all of us.

They are trying to force her to pump. Which plenty of women in functional marriages hate too.

They can also use formula, but she is the one insisting on EBF.

Her husband wanted the child breastfed when they were married, and their older child was breastfed to two. Now she’s the one insisting because she wants to do what they jointly decided was best eight months ago?

Divorce changes things.

[Anonymous]

Why is the mom the one who is expected to feed the baby with a bottle? Why cant she breastfeed, and then dad can bottle feed?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The best thing about this is anyone who dates this man and googles him will find this article.

And will know he’s an engaged parent.

I was thinking “know he is a selfish and controlling man”.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m disgusted that this is being twisted into a custody tactic.

Let the mother make her own choices about her body. Can’t some of you see how these legal rulings will be used against women?

Nobody is trying to force her to do anything with her body she does not want to do. Stop using women’s rights as a weapon, it just hurts all of us.

They are trying to force her to pump. Which plenty of women in functional marriages hate too.

They can also use formula, but she is the one insisting on EBF.

Her husband wanted the child breastfed when they were married, and their older child was breastfed to two. Now she’s the one insisting because she wants to do what they jointly decided was best eight months ago?

I wanted my child breastfed. If my choices were to have my child breastfeed or see my child, I would have happily agreed to formula. If you couldn't breastfeed, would you send your kid off to live with someone who could? Or would you realize that obviously your bond with your child is more important than breastmilk?

Let's just do a thought experiment. Woman and man get married. They agree that woman will breastfeed, but then it turns out that the woman can't. So, the man gets a new girlfriend who can breastfeed. How many of the people arguing that breastmilk is more important than parents would say "of course the child should live with Dad. Mom can visit for periods of less than an hour in Dad's house! That's totally reasonable! Breastmilk is the most important thing!" No one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is the mom the one who is expected to feed the baby with a bottle? Why cant she breastfeed, and then dad can bottle feed?

Because mom isn't letting him have any time with the baby.