In child custody dispute, breastfeeding mom is ordered to use bottle

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ok, and what is wrong with this. It's not ok to deny parenting time over breastfeeding. Mom can pump, breastfeed and occasionally use a bottle to get baby ready for dad or other caretakers.

One of my kids wouldn’t take a bottle until she was almost 6 months old. We had a lot of motivation and tried 15 bottle types, but she was stubborn. She would have been dangerously dehydrated on this judge’s parenting plan.

According to the article, that's not at all what happened here. Mom is trying to say she can't pump enough, etc. and that ex can visit the baby while she's there to bf. Ex is saying she won't believe the relationship is over and is using bf as an excuse to try to make him spend time with her and not give him alone time with the baby. As another pp mentioned, the baby is old enough for some solids so this all is really a non issue at this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see why the mom has to do anything. If she wants breastmilk, she can provide it and dad can use a bottle. And a feeding schedule? Baby should be sttn but feeding on demand still.

As a breastfeeding mom I wouldn't want to pump and feed a bottle during my time with the baby. Plus, none of my kids would take a bottle from me, but took it from nanny.

Since he has less time with the baby I think judge wants mom to introduce bottle or have bottle introduced so that its not completely miserable.

[Anonymous]

I know someone who tried to employ this tactic for sole custody too.
She also coslept to make it seem like the baby couldn’t be without her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He can enjoy hearing his child screaming until she vomits while refusing a bottle. What a horrific parent I wouldn’t leave this man in charge of a dog.

Oh pipe down drama llama. This isn't a 2 month old infant. Insisting on exclusively breastfeeding an 8 month old is ridiculous and not a reason to deny dad visitation.

A parent who would rather listen to their child scream in hunger than accommodate a nursing schedule should have no custody whatsoever.

Oh, is that how it works in Fantasyland?

No, in Fantasyland men live up to their commitments, and this guy wanted the baby nursed when it was financially advantageous to himself. Now that it isn’t, he wants his kid fed crap so he can pay less child support by having more custody. He sounds like an appalling father, and this poor little girl will know that soon enough.

Newsflash— the baby doesn’t care about her dads feelings or finances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see why the mom has to do anything. If she wants breastmilk, she can provide it and dad can use a bottle. And a feeding schedule? Baby should be sttn but feeding on demand still.

As a breastfeeding mom I wouldn't want to pump and feed a bottle during my time with the baby. Plus, none of my kids would take a bottle from me, but took it from nanny.

Since he has less time with the baby I think judge wants mom to introduce bottle or have bottle introduced so that its not completely miserable.

Many babies will accept a bottle from anyone else other than the breastfeeding mother. If mom is away and dad is there with the bottle the baby will eventually accept it. Many people go through this struggle when other caregivers have to feed a nursing infant. It's hardly uncharted territory and they all get through it. Mom can say she tried and failed but that doesn't mean dad won't have more success.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see why the mom has to do anything. If she wants breastmilk, she can provide it and dad can use a bottle. And a feeding schedule? Baby should be sttn but feeding on demand still.

As a breastfeeding mom I wouldn't want to pump and feed a bottle during my time with the baby. Plus, none of my kids would take a bottle from me, but took it from nanny.

Since he has less time with the baby I think judge wants mom to introduce bottle or have bottle introduced so that its not completely miserable.

If the judge looked at any of the data for nursed babies many of them will not accept a bottle from a nursing mother— mine certainly didn’t— and plenty of people struggle to get enough milk when pumping even under less stressful circumstances than the article described.

The recommendation is to exclusively breastfeed to one. Dad would suck it up for four more months if his priority was his kid, which it clearly isn’t.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He can enjoy hearing his child screaming until she vomits while refusing a bottle. What a horrific parent I wouldn’t leave this man in charge of a dog.

Oh pipe down drama llama. This isn't a 2 month old infant. Insisting on exclusively breastfeeding an 8 month old is ridiculous and not a reason to deny dad visitation.

A parent who would rather listen to their child scream in hunger than accommodate a nursing schedule should have no custody whatsoever.

Oh, is that how it works in Fantasyland?

No, in Fantasyland men live up to their commitments, and this guy wanted the baby nursed when it was financially advantageous to himself. Now that it isn’t, he wants his kid fed crap so he can pay less child support by having more custody. He sounds like an appalling father, and this poor little girl will know that soon enough.

Newsflash— the baby doesn’t care about her dads feelings or finances.

The baby is ready for solids and other foods. The breastfeeding point is moot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, and what is wrong with this. It's not ok to deny parenting time over breastfeeding. Mom can pump, breastfeed and occasionally use a bottle to get baby ready for dad or other caretakers.

One of my kids wouldn’t take a bottle until she was almost 6 months old. We had a lot of motivation and tried 15 bottle types, but she was stubborn. She would have been dangerously dehydrated on this judge’s parenting plan.

The judge’s plan says mother will try.

My kids were breastfed and had a father. Breastfeeding has some benefits but very few compared to the benefits of two parents. There is no comparison. If you had lost the ability to breastfeed would you have been OK with your child being sent away to a woman who could?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see why the mom has to do anything. If she wants breastmilk, she can provide it and dad can use a bottle. And a feeding schedule? Baby should be sttn but feeding on demand still.

As a breastfeeding mom I wouldn't want to pump and feed a bottle during my time with the baby. Plus, none of my kids would take a bottle from me, but took it from nanny.

Since he has less time with the baby I think judge wants mom to introduce bottle or have bottle introduced so that its not completely miserable.

If the judge looked at any of the data for nursed babies many of them will not accept a bottle from a nursing mother— mine certainly didn’t— and plenty of people struggle to get enough milk when pumping even under less stressful circumstances than the article described.

The recommendation is to exclusively breastfeed to one. Dad would suck it up for four more months if his priority was his kid, which it clearly isn’t.

The recommendation is 6 months not 1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, and what is wrong with this. It's not ok to deny parenting time over breastfeeding. Mom can pump, breastfeed and occasionally use a bottle to get baby ready for dad or other caretakers.

+1 I have zero issues with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He can enjoy hearing his child screaming until she vomits while refusing a bottle. What a horrific parent I wouldn’t leave this man in charge of a dog.

He is a good father for wanting a relationship with his child. Mom is selfish blocking it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see why the mom has to do anything. If she wants breastmilk, she can provide it and dad can use a bottle. And a feeding schedule? Baby should be sttn but feeding on demand still.

As a breastfeeding mom I wouldn't want to pump and feed a bottle during my time with the baby. Plus, none of my kids would take a bottle from me, but took it from nanny.

Since he has less time with the baby I think judge wants mom to introduce bottle or have bottle introduced so that its not completely miserable.

If the judge looked at any of the data for nursed babies many of them will not accept a bottle from a nursing mother— mine certainly didn’t— and plenty of people struggle to get enough milk when pumping even under less stressful circumstances than the article described.

The recommendation is to exclusively breastfeed to one. Dad would suck it up for four more months if his priority was his kid, which it clearly isn’t.

The recommendation is 6 months not 1.

And breast milk comes in bottles.

If the mom ‘prioritizes her child’ she will pump and send breast milk with the baby if the father is willing to use it - which he isn’t required to do b

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see why the mom has to do anything. If she wants breastmilk, she can provide it and dad can use a bottle. And a feeding schedule? Baby should be sttn but feeding on demand still.

As a breastfeeding mom I wouldn't want to pump and feed a bottle during my time with the baby. Plus, none of my kids would take a bottle from me, but took it from nanny.

Since he has less time with the baby I think judge wants mom to introduce bottle or have bottle introduced so that its not completely miserable.

If the judge looked at any of the data for nursed babies many of them will not accept a bottle from a nursing mother— mine certainly didn’t— and plenty of people struggle to get enough milk when pumping even under less stressful circumstances than the article described.

The recommendation is to exclusively breastfeed to one. Dad would suck it up for four more months if his priority was his kid, which it clearly isn’t.

Recommendation by who for this particular child? The WHO recommends it as in many areas/countries there is not access to formula, clean drinking water and things like breast pumps.

Dad should not have to suck it up. Mom should work with the child on a bottle. If she works or leaves the child with anyone else, child has to use a bottle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He can enjoy hearing his child screaming until she vomits while refusing a bottle. What a horrific parent I wouldn’t leave this man in charge of a dog.

Oh pipe down drama llama. This isn't a 2 month old infant. Insisting on exclusively breastfeeding an 8 month old is ridiculous and not a reason to deny dad visitation.

A parent who would rather listen to their child scream in hunger than accommodate a nursing schedule should have no custody whatsoever.

Oh, is that how it works in Fantasyland?

No, in Fantasyland men live up to their commitments, and this guy wanted the baby nursed when it was financially advantageous to himself. Now that it isn’t, he wants his kid fed crap so he can pay less child support by having more custody. He sounds like an appalling father, and this poor little girl will know that soon enough.

Newsflash— the baby doesn’t care about her dads feelings or finances.

Dad wants a relationship with his child and to parent his child. He is supportive of breastfeeding and pumped milk. Mom can pump. Maybe she doesn't want him to have visits because she doesn't want to work and want child support. It goes both ways. Its appalling to keep a father away from the child.

[Anonymous]

Its funny the same women who scream that the dad's don't want to be involved do non-sense like this to keep the dad's away and still find ways to blame dad.