Why Was My Son Deferred from Duke ED?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t understand why a parent would provide so much identifying information about their child on here.

Not really identifying as sounds like many kids. Also may not be from this area and may be a DD and not a DS. All of the details may not be factual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your son sounds amazing so congrats on the great options so far! But you have to remember Duke has like a 4% acceptance rate and that includes the hundreds of athletes, legacies, and big donors who have a backdoor into Duke each year. People like Jamie Dimon, Jerry Seinfeld, etc. are notorious for having paid large sums in the past to get their kids into Duke, so you can expect similar situations happened this year too. Also Duke is known to take deferrals seriously unlike some other schools so your son still has a decent chance!

DP. Any links for the bolded? I had never heard that before.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your son sounds fantastic - but, as I tell my kid, there are 10,000 other fantastic kids also applying. I also think the DMV is more saturated with those kids than most other areas, and these schools are also looking for geographic diversity.

I'm curious what scholarship your son received already from UNC? I was under the impression that they have disclosed financial aid awards, but no merit scholarships yet.

It was just called “Carolina Scholarship” and it came with the acceptance. We didn’t even know it existed and he said he didn’t apply specially for it, he just received it

Carolina Covenant is a need-based scholarship given to outstanding kids and includes a work study component etc. I believe you have to be 200% below poverty line.

UNC merit-based scholarships are not “full rides” except for Morehead Cain and Robertson. We asked on the tour.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is he a white male from this area? If so, he's a dime a dozen. It's a bummer but it sounds like he has a lot of good choices.

Yes we are white but our son is adopted and is ethnically Chinese

WTF kind of answer is that? PP asked if he's white and YOU SAID YES. He's not white though. He's Chinese American. Wow, I feel so sorry for your son.

I think this may be bunk. Given the well documented preference for male children in China, it seems highly unlikely that a healthy, non-disabled male child would be given up for adoption to a white US couple. Similarly, Asian Americans rarely give up children for adoption. Perhaps the comment about giving away too much information spooked the OP and s/he is trying to obfuscate the facts to conceal her child's identity.

Some people on here are so weird, always trying to find something wrong or some conspiracy. Ever heard of the one-child policy in China? Many kids were given up for adoption between 1980s and 2010s. Sure males were preferred, but there were a large number of variables causing many males to go up for adoption too. And OP, congrats to your son and thank you for adopting someone

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your son sounds fantastic - but, as I tell my kid, there are 10,000 other fantastic kids also applying. I also think the DMV is more saturated with those kids than most other areas, and these schools are also looking for geographic diversity.

I'm curious what scholarship your son received already from UNC? I was under the impression that they have disclosed financial aid awards, but no merit scholarships yet.

It was just called “Carolina Scholarship” and it came with the acceptance. We didn’t even know it existed and he said he didn’t apply specially for it, he just received it

Carolina Covenant is a need-based scholarship given to outstanding kids and includes a work study component etc. I believe you have to be 200% below poverty line.

UNC merit-based scholarships are not “full rides” except for Morehead Cain and Robertson. We asked on the tour.

UNC parent here. UNC has a lot of scholarships. The generic one is Carolina Scholars which comes with pre-approval to be considered for Honors Carolina. Carolina Scholars comes with a wide range of $$ offers, Carolina Covenant is different. Morehead Cain and Robertson are run separately and have their own interview processes. OP look hard at Carolina with the scholarship, your kid might love it there if he liked Duke. Also you can cross-register at Duke if you’re at Carolina, which might be worth considering!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your son sounds amazing so congrats on the great options so far! But you have to remember Duke has like a 4% acceptance rate and that includes the hundreds of athletes, legacies, and big donors who have a backdoor into Duke each year. People like Jamie Dimon, Jerry Seinfeld, etc. are notorious for having paid large sums in the past to get their kids into Duke, so you can expect similar situations happened this year too. Also Duke is known to take deferrals seriously unlike some other schools so your son still has a decent chance!

DP. Any links for the bolded? I had never heard that before.

NP but some quick googling got me: https://www.vanityfair.com/news/business/2012/11/jamie-dimon-tom-brady-hang-in-there
https://www.businessinsider.com/2008/7/jamie-dimon-gave-away-1-8-million-more-than-you-made-last-year?amp

Also Seinfeld was all over the news for like 5 months because media kept spotting him at Duke games, and it’s no coincidence his kids go there. Dimon and Seinfeld probably spent hundreds of thousands if not millions to buy the acceptances, most of it not publicized or made common knowledge

[Anonymous]

Not good enough for Duke

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your son sounds amazing so congrats on the great options so far! But you have to remember Duke has like a 4% acceptance rate and that includes the hundreds of athletes, legacies, and big donors who have a backdoor into Duke each year. People like Jamie Dimon, Jerry Seinfeld, etc. are notorious for having paid large sums in the past to get their kids into Duke, so you can expect similar situations happened this year too. Also Duke is known to take deferrals seriously unlike some other schools so your son still has a decent chance!

DP. Any links for the bolded? I had never heard that before.

NP but some quick googling got me: https://www.vanityfair.com/news/business/2012/11/jamie-dimon-tom-brady-hang-in-there
https://www.businessinsider.com/2008/7/jamie-dimon-gave-away-1-8-million-more-than-you-made-last-year?amp

Also Seinfeld was all over the news for like 5 months because media kept spotting him at Duke games, and it’s no coincidence his kids go there. Dimon and Seinfeld probably spent hundreds of thousands if not millions to buy the acceptances, most of it not publicized or made common knowledge

Is it possible Seinfeld’s and Dimon’s kids got in on academic merit? It’s not a guarantee that they had to buy their way in

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t understand why a parent would provide so much identifying information about their child on here.

I did not try to reveal his identity, I think only people who know him in real life would be able to identify him from this information

That's what the PP is trying to say...

I’m sure anyone who knows him well enough to identify him knows he’s not been accepted.

And is he ok with you posting about him online and are you ok with other families knowing you are posting? If so, no problem... PP was pointing out is that some people feel fully anonymous here but with the info you have given out - you may not be anonymous to people who know you or your child. Again - if you are ok with that it's fine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is he a white male from this area? If so, he's a dime a dozen. It's a bummer but it sounds like he has a lot of good choices.

Yes we are white but our son is adopted and is ethnically Chinese

WTF kind of answer is that? PP asked if he's white and YOU SAID YES. He's not white though. He's Chinese American. Wow, I feel so sorry for your son.

I think this may be bunk. Given the well documented preference for male children in China, it seems highly unlikely that a healthy, non-disabled male child would be given up for adoption to a white US couple. Similarly, Asian Americans rarely give up children for adoption. Perhaps the comment about giving away too much information spooked the OP and s/he is trying to obfuscate the facts to conceal her child's identity.

OMG can you leave this poor parent in peace? Are you honestly doubting that any Chinese male has ever been adopted? And did they ever say the baby was adopted FROM China? One can be of Chinese decent and not come directly from China! Jeepers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your son sounds amazing so congrats on the great options so far! But you have to remember Duke has like a 4% acceptance rate and that includes the hundreds of athletes, legacies, and big donors who have a backdoor into Duke each year. People like Jamie Dimon, Jerry Seinfeld, etc. are notorious for having paid large sums in the past to get their kids into Duke, so you can expect similar situations happened this year too. Also Duke is known to take deferrals seriously unlike some other schools so your son still has a decent chance!

DP. Any links for the bolded? I had never heard that before.

NP but some quick googling got me: https://www.vanityfair.com/news/business/2012/11/jamie-dimon-tom-brady-hang-in-there
https://www.businessinsider.com/2008/7/jamie-dimon-gave-away-1-8-million-more-than-you-made-last-year?amp

Also Seinfeld was all over the news for like 5 months because media kept spotting him at Duke games, and it’s no coincidence his kids go there. Dimon and Seinfeld probably spent hundreds of thousands if not millions to buy the acceptances, most of it not publicized or made common knowledge

But no proof of that. Neither of those links provided any proof either. I think it's irresponsible to spread misinformation like that, don't you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your son sounds fantastic - but, as I tell my kid, there are 10,000 other fantastic kids also applying. I also think the DMV is more saturated with those kids than most other areas, and these schools are also looking for geographic diversity.

I'm curious what scholarship your son received already from UNC? I was under the impression that they have disclosed financial aid awards, but no merit scholarships yet.

It was just called “Carolina Scholarship” and it came with the acceptance. We didn’t even know it existed and he said he didn’t apply specially for it, he just received it

Carolina Covenant is a need-based scholarship given to outstanding kids and includes a work study component etc. I believe you have to be 200% below poverty line.

UNC merit-based scholarships are not “full rides” except for Morehead Cain and Robertson. We asked on the tour.

UNC parent here. UNC has a lot of scholarships. The generic one is Carolina Scholars which comes with pre-approval to be considered for Honors Carolina. Carolina Scholars comes with a wide range of $$ offers, Carolina Covenant is different. Morehead Cain and Robertson are run separately and have their own interview processes. OP look hard at Carolina with the scholarship, your kid might love it there if he liked Duke. Also you can cross-register at Duke if you’re at Carolina, which might be worth considering!

This is worth noting - especially for your son's interests. My DC was looking at Duke for IR and Duke-UNC jointly run an IR program with cross registration and joint events.

[Anonymous]

Chapel Hill is a much nicer place for undergrads to hang out than Durham. Duke has a beautiful campus but Chapel Hill is a better college town.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Chapel Hill is a much nicer place for undergrads to hang out than Durham. Duke has a beautiful campus but Chapel Hill is a better college town.

+1 And honestly, I've never been in a place with soooo much college gear on people walking around town. They must love their school!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your son sounds amazing so congrats on the great options so far! But you have to remember Duke has like a 4% acceptance rate and that includes the hundreds of athletes, legacies, and big donors who have a backdoor into Duke each year. People like Jamie Dimon, Jerry Seinfeld, etc. are notorious for having paid large sums in the past to get their kids into Duke, so you can expect similar situations happened this year too. Also Duke is known to take deferrals seriously unlike some other schools so your son still has a decent chance!

DP. Any links for the bolded? I had never heard that before.

Not the PP. I don't have a link, but I know pretty much first hand about one of the individuals listed here as well as another not listed, but in the same cohort.