Bad advice / things you wish you’d known

[Anonymous]

Reading all these comments have be stressed out. Due with my first in May 😭

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reading all these comments have be stressed out. Due with my first in May 😭

PP - birth is stressful AND it works out fine, most of the time. Talk to your provider. The Vagina Whisperer has great guidance (from an actual pelvic floor PT, more qualified than any of us posting here): https://thevagwhisperer.com/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reading all these comments have be stressed out. Due with my first in May 😭

Don’t stress about internet comments / in person comments about parenting. One thing about parenting is other parents can sometimes be total downers and try to scare new parents. Especially people who are like a year ahead of you. It’s like HS freshman warning the 8th graders that HS is going to be so hard and the upperclassman are going to be sooo mean and they are going to miss the good old days of MS. When in reality you learn by doing and rise to the challenge.

Let no one else’s experience of c hildbirth and parenting define your own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reading all these comments have be stressed out. Due with my first in May 😭

I don’t think you should feel stressed out. But I do think many of us feel that we were blindsided when we became parents at the costs we were not prepared for of childbirth and motherhood. Especially the birth injuries and issues many of us experience after our babies are born - right now the medical field takes an approach of believing that women do better not to be educated about these risks and bad things that can happen instead thinking they will just deal with them after wards. This approach then blindsides any woman who had postpartum issues and also creates a scenario where these things are wrapped in secrecy and shame. And the whole, “don’t tell expectant moms your bad birth story,” becomes another way to shame and silence women, by basically suggesting your experience was an anomaly and is not worthy of someone’s
Hearing it because your truth might frighten them. It’s really toxic.

I believe the more you know the better decisions you can make. And the less alone you will feel
If something bad happens to you. I just shared everything I wish I had know about birth, preparation, and birth injuries on this thread,
Maybe it will help you. https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1112484.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had zero breast milk.'Breast is best', they kept saying. The baby cried, I cried. Then he was too week to cry. He was starving to death. He got sick and DH told me because I didn't breastfeed.
At two week check-up when the kid was all yellow and wrinkled, the doctor told me to go buy formula. Why did it take so long?! He is a happy healthy teenager now, but I almost lost him.

Doesn't justify bringing formula into a 4-hour newborn's room, sorry!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had zero breast milk.'Breast is best', they kept saying. The baby cried, I cried. Then he was too week to cry. He was starving to death. He got sick and DH told me because I didn't breastfeed.
At two week check-up when the kid was all yellow and wrinkled, the doctor told me to go buy formula. Why did it take so long?! He is a happy healthy teenager now, but I almost lost him.

Doesn't justify bringing formula into a 4-hour newborn's room, sorry!

Actually, it does