White mom and POC dad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Yep, I’m the child of a white mom, black father and I have no real connection with African American culture to the point that my (1/4 black) elementary school aged children were surprised to learn they had African heritage, because it honestly just never came up until then."

Does the child not look Black at all? Not know their father? How are your kids 1/4 Black if their dad is Black?

Presumably PP married a white person, nto black, so the kids are only 1/4 because there is only 1 black grandparent.

[Anonymous]

What am I missing here? How could a black grandfather and white grandmother produce a white father?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:because moms do most of the work in a house, like cooking, child rearing, and vacation planning.

Another one to agree that it's this. Moms tend to be the "culture bearers." It's not just among poc either. Women generally raise their children with their own family traditions.

And as the others have also noted, this isn't always true. Plenty of families keep the Dad's cultural traditions alive, especially if the Dad has strong ties to his culture.

I'm in a multicultural family and both of us try to incorporate our cultural backgrounds, but our kids only speak DH's language. I'm not fluent enough in my ethnic language to pass it down.

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+1 I'm south Asian and among my social circle, if the mom is Indian, then they have an Indian wedding, kids have Indian names, etc. If it's an Indian guy married to a white woman, they follow her lead.

Agree with others this is about gender.

I had a SA wedding and am a white female married to a SA guy. I honestly think SA guys hate the stiff SA clothing. When the girl is white, and the husband is Muslim, they usually follow his culture. We go to parties, and my husband wants to wear western clothes, and the kids and I are wearing SA. It's hilarious 😆 I love wearing south asian dresses. It's enjoyable traveling abroad and dressing up every day. Women rarely wear pants in Bangladesh, so I stand out less if I wear south asian clothing. Lots of his family abroad do not know I wear pants. My husband said it's better not to tell them because they won't think highly of me if they find out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What am I missing here? How could a black grandfather and white grandmother produce a white father?

Yes, you are missing everything. The person posting is biracial (white mom, black dad). She had kids with a white guy. Those kids are 25% black and have a black grandfather.