Moving - what if I just don’t update my address?

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Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? If you only need to hold up this charade for 1-2 years, maybe. But if you have a kid in K, 1 or 2, I'd just transfer schools.

Kids are in 3rd grade. If they were younger, I’d move them. Lots of trauma this last year - divorce and then death by suicide. It’s one thing to have to move home (not what I want but I have to move), it’s another to switch their schools.

Poster above here. Just saw this, and I'm so sorry. I think if you talk to principal or apply for COSA based on this, it will be fine.

I agree, request a COSA to stay at the school.

And to other posters, yes, schools do investigate fraudulent addresses, they might not prosecute but you won’t be able to send your child to a school if you don’t live within the boundaries. I’ve seen it happen multiple times.

Yeah, don't put a kid who has already been through this in the position of having to cover up where they live. It's the wrong thing to do to the child.

I'm usually a rule follower, but given the situation I think OP should let the kid stay in their stable situation through ES and then go to the local school for MS. OP-- you mentioned the new house being TWO blocks from current one--would the MS be the same? If so, then I'd definitely go for stability now and then you will soon grow into the right boundaries again, anyway.

Also, what's this talk about having the kid lie? No one will think anything of it if the kid is only 2 blocks away from old house. Everyone will assume that is within boundaries (I mean... two blocks?) And otherwise assume they have permission.

You could follow PP's advice and get a COSA. I think if the kid were in 4th it would be pretty much automatically allowed to stay in boundaries, but I don't know why I think that... vague memory of hearing that. Either way, I think it would be awarded, but the problem is that if it somehow isn't, then you've outed yourself.

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I did this last year for my DC due to very similar reasons such as yours, and my current place is zoned to a "better" school. However, for emotional stability, I wanted to keep DC at the current school due to so many changes at once.

We were caught in the spring, because USPS kicked mail back to the school, so the attendance secretary caught on. For some reason, she called my XH to verify address, and he lied about it too. SMH.

I guess when you do the mail forwarding thing, to make sure your child's name is forwarded as well.

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Anonymous wrote:I did this last year for my DC due to very similar reasons such as yours, and my current place is zoned to a "better" school. However, for emotional stability, I wanted to keep DC at the current school due to so many changes at once.

We were caught in the spring, because USPS kicked mail back to the school, so the attendance secretary caught on. For some reason, she called my XH to verify address, and he lied about it too. SMH.

I guess when you do the mail forwarding thing, to make sure your child's name is forwarded as well.

Also, XH had promised to stay in bounds, but lied about that too. I had already signed the lease on my new place before I found out that he backed out.