Do you regret having babies past 35?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had my children at 19, 21 + 23.

Had regrets when they were younger since I did not get to go to college and financially things were always a struggle.

The trajectory of my entire life changed and I mourned my missed opportunities for higher education, travel as well as social adventures.

Giving up my entire freedom was a bitter pill to swallow - but I knew that I got myself into the position that I was in.

Fast forward, I am now working as a Nanny and have worked for many families.
Sure they live in nicer homes than I did & they have money to buy their kids better toys as well as the option to travel more.
But some of the parents have remarked to me that they envy me because they say working while running after kids in their 30’s is tiring.
They say they envy me that I got to have my forties (+ beyond) carefree and responsibility free.

I personally am relieved that at fifty three, I am not chasing kids or raising teenagers but I will always feel bad that I couldn’t provide better for my own kids.

There are trade offs on both sides I suppose.

Woah a nuanced thoughtful post on the internet. A pink elephant. I'll take a screen cap

[Anonymous]

35?

I can't think of anyone around my age that I know socially that had kids before 35.

[Anonymous]

Totally regret it. I will suck them back into my uterus now

[Anonymous]

My second pregnancy at 36 was an easier recovery for me, I think because I was exercising more and in better shape

[Anonymous]

I had my first when I was young. When I wanted to have another baby it just didn’t happen at the time. We tried for years and nothing. I was surprised to finally be pregnant at 35 and then again at 36. I obviously don’t regret it but wish I had been a little younger because I wanted a large family.