Would you send your kids to spend the week with grandparents

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Well, my kids are at grandparents this week, and school starts Monday. The "hectic last week of summer" isn't really a thing for us, we don't have a huge back-to-school routine or anything. I do try to get everyone home on Saturday, though, so that they have a day or two to settle into the morning schedule.

So the deciding factor for me wouldn't be the last week of summer issue, but rather the fact that the kids don't actually want to go. Mine (12 & 14) were actually excited to see the grandparents, so it was an easy call for us. If they had other plans at home with friends or

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Anonymous wrote:I would, sure. What is the issue for the person who is disagreeing? You haven’t mentioned that the grandparents can’t take care of the child, which of course changes everything. What is special about the week before school starts?

The issue is they have already seen their grandparents for two weeks in July and I don’t see the point of going to see them again during the hectic week before school starts. DH and I both woh and there’s still a lot to do for the kids before they start school.

Also in-laws won’t take them anywhere except McDonald’s and they will be bored out of their mind. But yes, they can take care of them.

HA HA I just KNEW you would be talking about your in laws and not your own parents. In laws - especially in law grandparents - NEVER get cut a friggin break on DCUM. Ever.

You say that all they’re gonna be doing that week is going to McDonald’s? If that’s the case, then God Bless. All they’re gonna be doing that week in your house is running around like chickens without heads while their two parents are both working and stressing about school starting and being ZERO fun.

If you were the kids, which door would you prefer to take?

My kids want to stay home. I asked them.

It’s all in the presentation. I’m sure they said no because you have been making your feelings perfectly clear and they want to please or at least not ruffle the feathers of their (unpleasant) mother.

You know OP’s kids better than their own mother?

No. But you’re an idiot if you think that OP played it close to the vest and did nothing to influence her kids’ leanings on this one.

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Anonymous wrote:If they’ve already been for 2 weeks in July then probably not.

Dh is saying they need to spend time at the in-laws home now since those two weeks in July took place at our home and also a family vacation to the outer banks. Doesn’t make any sense to me.

There definitely is a difference in the grandparents being at your house with you guys around and the kids going to the grandparents themselves at their house. I treasured the time I spent alone at my grandparents as a kid.

Unless there's something else you aren't sharing, I'm not sure why you would prevent the kids from doing this.

Even when you were 12 and 13?

I’m a DP but at 12 and 13 I absolutely would have stayed with my maternal grandparents for a week and loved it. They were “young” grandparents (just about 60 when I was 12 and 13) and they were so much fun. They had a pool, we did night swimming, late night bacon and eggs, went to the movies, etc. My paternal grandparents were older and there would have been very little to do at their house for a week. I still loved them but a week straight at their house would have been so boring at that age.

Yeah, my in-laws do none of these things. They do go to McDonald’s though!

See, and this is why I call BS on the OP. Let’s be honest: what 12 or 13 year old wouldn’t want to be at a place where they can just sit on the butts and do what they please and be treated to McDonald’s? NONE. That’s what every kid that age would want to do if they had the chance. It’s not the kids who don’t want to go - it’s OP who doesn’t want them to go. Shrew.

Be honest, OP: have you expressed any annoyance about your in laws to your husband in front of your kids? What do you think they think your feelings about your in laws are?

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Glad that this forum is anonymous.

Son visited grandparents for a couple of weeks during the summer. He was 10 years old.

His Grandpa taught him how to mix drinks, shoot a rifle at a groundhog from a seated position while at the backyard pool, how to bet the ponies live at the racetrack, and how to tip generously.

Along with a summer spent at Harvard, son claims it was the best summer of his life thus far.

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Anonymous wrote:If they’ve already been for 2 weeks in July then probably not.

Dh is saying they need to spend time at the in-laws home now since those two weeks in July took place at our home and also a family vacation to the outer banks. Doesn’t make any sense to me.

There definitely is a difference in the grandparents being at your house with you guys around and the kids going to the grandparents themselves at their house. I treasured the time I spent alone at my grandparents as a kid.

Unless there's something else you aren't sharing, I'm not sure why you would prevent the kids from doing this.

Even when you were 12 and 13?

I’m a DP but at 12 and 13 I absolutely would have stayed with my maternal grandparents for a week and loved it. They were “young” grandparents (just about 60 when I was 12 and 13) and they were so much fun. They had a pool, we did night swimming, late night bacon and eggs, went to the movies, etc. My paternal grandparents were older and there would have been very little to do at their house for a week. I still loved them but a week straight at their house would have been so boring at that age.

Yeah, my in-laws do none of these things. They do go to McDonald’s though!

See, and this is why I call BS on the OP. Let’s be honest: what 12 or 13 year old wouldn’t want to be at a place where they can just sit on the butts and do what they please and be treated to McDonald’s? NONE. That’s what every kid that age would want to do if they had the chance. It’s not the kids who don’t want to go - it’s OP who doesn’t want them to go. Shrew.

Be honest, OP: have you expressed any annoyance about your in laws to your husband in front of your kids? What do you think they think your feelings about your in laws are?

So have you started on meds yet for your anger issues? If not, it’s time.

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Anonymous wrote:Glad that this forum is anonymous.

Son visited grandparents for a couple of weeks during the summer. He was 10 years old.

His Grandpa taught him how to mix drinks, shoot a rifle at a groundhog from a seated position while at the backyard pool, how to bet the ponies live at the racetrack, and how to tip generously.

Along with a summer spent at Harvard, son claims it was the best summer of his life thus far.

Who are you, JD Vance? You must be so proud.

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Anonymous wrote:If they’ve already been for 2 weeks in July then probably not.

Dh is saying they need to spend time at the in-laws home now since those two weeks in July took place at our home and also a family vacation to the outer banks. Doesn’t make any sense to me.

There definitely is a difference in the grandparents being at your house with you guys around and the kids going to the grandparents themselves at their house. I treasured the time I spent alone at my grandparents as a kid.

Unless there's something else you aren't sharing, I'm not sure why you would prevent the kids from doing this.

Even when you were 12 and 13?

I’m a DP but at 12 and 13 I absolutely would have stayed with my maternal grandparents for a week and loved it. They were “young” grandparents (just about 60 when I was 12 and 13) and they were so much fun. They had a pool, we did night swimming, late night bacon and eggs, went to the movies, etc. My paternal grandparents were older and there would have been very little to do at their house for a week. I still loved them but a week straight at their house would have been so boring at that age.

Yeah, my in-laws do none of these things. They do go to McDonald’s though!

See, and this is why I call BS on the OP. Let’s be honest: what 12 or 13 year old wouldn’t want to be at a place where they can just sit on the butts and do what they please and be treated to McDonald’s? NONE. That’s what every kid that age would want to do if they had the chance. It’s not the kids who don’t want to go - it’s OP who doesn’t want them to go. Shrew.

Be honest, OP: have you expressed any annoyance about your in laws to your husband in front of your kids? What do you think they think your feelings about your in laws are?

So have you started on meds yet for your anger issues? If not, it’s time.

I’m not angry. I’m just calling out an obviously gaslighting OP. Somebody has to do it. Call me the Liz Cheney of DCUM.

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Anonymous wrote:Glad that this forum is anonymous.

Son visited grandparents for a couple of weeks during the summer. He was 10 years old.

His Grandpa taught him how to mix drinks, shoot a rifle at a groundhog from a seated position while at the backyard pool, how to bet the ponies live at the racetrack, and how to tip generously.

Along with a summer spent at Harvard, son claims it was the best summer of his life thus far.

So, yes, I would send the kids to spend the week with grandparents.

P.S. Over the course of the entire summer, they never were able to get that groundhog. And the drinks had nothing to do with it. Just a darn clever groundhog.

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Anonymous wrote:If they’ve already been for 2 weeks in July then probably not.

Dh is saying they need to spend time at the in-laws home now since those two weeks in July took place at our home and also a family vacation to the outer banks. Doesn’t make any sense to me.

There definitely is a difference in the grandparents being at your house with you guys around and the kids going to the grandparents themselves at their house. I treasured the time I spent alone at my grandparents as a kid.

Unless there's something else you aren't sharing, I'm not sure why you would prevent the kids from doing this.

Even when you were 12 and 13?

I’m a DP but at 12 and 13 I absolutely would have stayed with my maternal grandparents for a week and loved it. They were “young” grandparents (just about 60 when I was 12 and 13) and they were so much fun. They had a pool, we did night swimming, late night bacon and eggs, went to the movies, etc. My paternal grandparents were older and there would have been very little to do at their house for a week. I still loved them but a week straight at their house would have been so boring at that age.

Yeah, my in-laws do none of these things. They do go to McDonald’s though!

See, and this is why I call BS on the OP. Let’s be honest: what 12 or 13 year old wouldn’t want to be at a place where they can just sit on the butts and do what they please and be treated to McDonald’s? NONE. That’s what every kid that age would want to do if they had the chance. It’s not the kids who don’t want to go - it’s OP who doesn’t want them to go. Shrew.

Be honest, OP: have you expressed any annoyance about your in laws to your husband in front of your kids? What do you think they think your feelings about your in laws are?

So have you started on meds yet for your anger issues? If not, it’s time.

Agree PP is a raging boomer. 12 and 13 year olds want to hang out with their friends, have access to their gaming server if they are into that or hang out at their home. A week at grandmas is like grass grow.

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Anonymous wrote:If they’ve already been for 2 weeks in July then probably not.

Dh is saying they need to spend time at the in-laws home now since those two weeks in July took place at our home and also a family vacation to the outer banks. Doesn’t make any sense to me.

There definitely is a difference in the grandparents being at your house with you guys around and the kids going to the grandparents themselves at their house. I treasured the time I spent alone at my grandparents as a kid.

Unless there's something else you aren't sharing, I'm not sure why you would prevent the kids from doing this.

Even when you were 12 and 13?

I’m a DP but at 12 and 13 I absolutely would have stayed with my maternal grandparents for a week and loved it. They were “young” grandparents (just about 60 when I was 12 and 13) and they were so much fun. They had a pool, we did night swimming, late night bacon and eggs, went to the movies, etc. My paternal grandparents were older and there would have been very little to do at their house for a week. I still loved them but a week straight at their house would have been so boring at that age.

Yeah, my in-laws do none of these things. They do go to McDonald’s though!

See, and this is why I call BS on the OP. Let’s be honest: what 12 or 13 year old wouldn’t want to be at a place where they can just sit on the butts and do what they please and be treated to McDonald’s? NONE. That’s what every kid that age would want to do if they had the chance. It’s not the kids who don’t want to go - it’s OP who doesn’t want them to go. Shrew.

Be honest, OP: have you expressed any annoyance about your in laws to your husband in front of your kids? What do you think they think your feelings about your in laws are?

So have you started on meds yet for your anger issues? If not, it’s time.

I’m not angry. I’m just calling out an obviously gaslighting OP. Somebody has to do it. Call me the Liz Cheney of DCUM.

They have already spent 2 weeks with these grandparents this summer. It’s not like they are really relying on OP to know what the grandparents are like. My kids enjoy both sets of grandparents but need more activity than either set could provide for a week with out a parent present. It’s different than not wanting to see them.

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Anonymous wrote:If they’ve already been for 2 weeks in July then probably not.

Dh is saying they need to spend time at the in-laws home now since those two weeks in July took place at our home and also a family vacation to the outer banks. Doesn’t make any sense to me.

There definitely is a difference in the grandparents being at your house with you guys around and the kids going to the grandparents themselves at their house. I treasured the time I spent alone at my grandparents as a kid.

Unless there's something else you aren't sharing, I'm not sure why you would prevent the kids from doing this.

Even when you were 12 and 13?

I’m a DP but at 12 and 13 I absolutely would have stayed with my maternal grandparents for a week and loved it. They were “young” grandparents (just about 60 when I was 12 and 13) and they were so much fun. They had a pool, we did night swimming, late night bacon and eggs, went to the movies, etc. My paternal grandparents were older and there would have been very little to do at their house for a week. I still loved them but a week straight at their house would have been so boring at that age.

Yeah, my in-laws do none of these things. They do go to McDonald’s though!

See, and this is why I call BS on the OP. Let’s be honest: what 12 or 13 year old wouldn’t want to be at a place where they can just sit on the butts and do what they please and be treated to McDonald’s? NONE. That’s what every kid that age would want to do if they had the chance. It’s not the kids who don’t want to go - it’s OP who doesn’t want them to go. Shrew.

Be honest, OP: have you expressed any annoyance about your in laws to your husband in front of your kids? What do you think they think your feelings about your in laws are?

So have you started on meds yet for your anger issues? If not, it’s time.

Agree PP is a raging boomer. 12 and 13 year olds want to hang out with their friends, have access to their gaming server if they are into that or hang out at their home. A week at grandmas is like grass grow.

Ah it’s the Poster Who Hates Boomers rearing her ugly head once again. And I have no doubt that it’s ugly indeed . . .

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Anonymous wrote:If they’ve already been for 2 weeks in July then probably not.

Dh is saying they need to spend time at the in-laws home now since those two weeks in July took place at our home and also a family vacation to the outer banks. Doesn’t make any sense to me.

There definitely is a difference in the grandparents being at your house with you guys around and the kids going to the grandparents themselves at their house. I treasured the time I spent alone at my grandparents as a kid.

Unless there's something else you aren't sharing, I'm not sure why you would prevent the kids from doing this.

Even when you were 12 and 13?

I’m a DP but at 12 and 13 I absolutely would have stayed with my maternal grandparents for a week and loved it. They were “young” grandparents (just about 60 when I was 12 and 13) and they were so much fun. They had a pool, we did night swimming, late night bacon and eggs, went to the movies, etc. My paternal grandparents were older and there would have been very little to do at their house for a week. I still loved them but a week straight at their house would have been so boring at that age.

Yeah, my in-laws do none of these things. They do go to McDonald’s though!

See, and this is why I call BS on the OP. Let’s be honest: what 12 or 13 year old wouldn’t want to be at a place where they can just sit on the butts and do what they please and be treated to McDonald’s? NONE. That’s what every kid that age would want to do if they had the chance. It’s not the kids who don’t want to go - it’s OP who doesn’t want them to go. Shrew.

Be honest, OP: have you expressed any annoyance about your in laws to your husband in front of your kids? What do you think they think your feelings about your in laws are?

So have you started on meds yet for your anger issues? If not, it’s time.

I’m not angry. I’m just calling out an obviously gaslighting OP. Somebody has to do it. Call me the Liz Cheney of DCUM.

They have already spent 2 weeks with these grandparents this summer. It’s not like they are really relying on OP to know what the grandparents are like. My kids enjoy both sets of grandparents but need more activity than either set could provide for a week with out a parent present. It’s different than not wanting to see them.

Yea, well, then tell the grandparents that it’s not gonna work and be done with it. You’ve crowd sourced until you’ve gotten enough internet strangers to agree with you, so have at it.

Pathetic that you had to do that. Real mature of you.

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Anonymous wrote:If they’ve already been for 2 weeks in July then probably not.

Dh is saying they need to spend time at the in-laws home now since those two weeks in July took place at our home and also a family vacation to the outer banks. Doesn’t make any sense to me.

There definitely is a difference in the grandparents being at your house with you guys around and the kids going to the grandparents themselves at their house. I treasured the time I spent alone at my grandparents as a kid.

Unless there's something else you aren't sharing, I'm not sure why you would prevent the kids from doing this.

Even when you were 12 and 13?

I’m a DP but at 12 and 13 I absolutely would have stayed with my maternal grandparents for a week and loved it. They were “young” grandparents (just about 60 when I was 12 and 13) and they were so much fun. They had a pool, we did night swimming, late night bacon and eggs, went to the movies, etc. My paternal grandparents were older and there would have been very little to do at their house for a week. I still loved them but a week straight at their house would have been so boring at that age.

Yeah, my in-laws do none of these things. They do go to McDonald’s though!

See, and this is why I call BS on the OP. Let’s be honest: what 12 or 13 year old wouldn’t want to be at a place where they can just sit on the butts and do what they please and be treated to McDonald’s? NONE. That’s what every kid that age would want to do if they had the chance. It’s not the kids who don’t want to go - it’s OP who doesn’t want them to go. Shrew.

Be honest, OP: have you expressed any annoyance about your in laws to your husband in front of your kids? What do you think they think your feelings about your in laws are?

So have you started on meds yet for your anger issues? If not, it’s time.

I’m not angry. I’m just calling out an obviously gaslighting OP. Somebody has to do it. Call me the Liz Cheney of DCUM.

They have already spent 2 weeks with these grandparents this summer. It’s not like they are really relying on OP to know what the grandparents are like. My kids enjoy both sets of grandparents but need more activity than either set could provide for a week with out a parent present. It’s different than not wanting to see them.

Yea, well, then tell the grandparents that it’s not gonna work and be done with it. You’ve crowd sourced until you’ve gotten enough internet strangers to agree with you, so have at it.

Pathetic that you had to do that. Real mature of you.

I’m the PP that you are responding to, I’m not the OP. Sorry for confusing wording.

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Anonymous wrote:If they’ve already been for 2 weeks in July then probably not.

Dh is saying they need to spend time at the in-laws home now since those two weeks in July took place at our home and also a family vacation to the outer banks. Doesn’t make any sense to me.

There definitely is a difference in the grandparents being at your house with you guys around and the kids going to the grandparents themselves at their house. I treasured the time I spent alone at my grandparents as a kid.

Unless there's something else you aren't sharing, I'm not sure why you would prevent the kids from doing this.

Even when you were 12 and 13?

I’m a DP but at 12 and 13 I absolutely would have stayed with my maternal grandparents for a week and loved it. They were “young” grandparents (just about 60 when I was 12 and 13) and they were so much fun. They had a pool, we did night swimming, late night bacon and eggs, went to the movies, etc. My paternal grandparents were older and there would have been very little to do at their house for a week. I still loved them but a week straight at their house would have been so boring at that age.

Yeah, my in-laws do none of these things. They do go to McDonald’s though!

See, and this is why I call BS on the OP. Let’s be honest: what 12 or 13 year old wouldn’t want to be at a place where they can just sit on the butts and do what they please and be treated to McDonald’s? NONE. That’s what every kid that age would want to do if they had the chance. It’s not the kids who don’t want to go - it’s OP who doesn’t want them to go. Shrew.

Be honest, OP: have you expressed any annoyance about your in laws to your husband in front of your kids? What do you think they think your feelings about your in laws are?

So have you started on meds yet for your anger issues? If not, it’s time.

Agree PP is a raging boomer. 12 and 13 year olds want to hang out with their friends, have access to their gaming server if they are into that or hang out at their home. A week at grandmas is like grass grow.

Ah it’s the Poster Who Hates Boomers rearing her ugly head once again. And I have no doubt that it’s ugly indeed . . .

Raging granny alert!

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Anonymous wrote:I would, sure. What is the issue for the person who is disagreeing? You haven’t mentioned that the grandparents can’t take care of the child, which of course changes everything. What is special about the week before school starts?

The issue is they have already seen their grandparents for two weeks in July and I don’t see the point of going to see them again during the hectic week before school starts. DH and I both woh and there’s still a lot to do for the kids before they start school.

Also in-laws won’t take them anywhere except McDonald’s and they will be bored out of their mind. But yes, they can take care of them.

DP. If those are the only objections, then, yes, we would certainly do it. We want our kids to spend as much time with their grandparents as possible, they won't be missing anything, and they get a little away time. We would do this in a heartbeat.