Would you send your kids to spend the week with grandparents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No do not force a 12 and 13 year old to spend their last week of summer at the grandparents house. They don’t want to go. It’s not a treasured experience.

Okay, then this is the answer. They don’t need childcare, have recently seen the grandparents, don’t want to go, and will likely be bored. Not worth the hassle.

[Anonymous]

If the kids wanted to, sure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kids are 12 and 13 and want to stay home too.

This for me is the key. 12 and 13 year olds should have some say in how they spend their last week of summer vacation. If they have already spent plenty of time with the grandparents this summer and do not want to go I would not make them.

+1 And childcare is a non-issue. 12 & 13 should be able to stay home without a sitter for a week.

+2

I adored my maternal grandparents, so would have loved to spend a week with them at that age. But if these kids don't, they shouldn't be forced to.

[Anonymous]

What’s the concern here? That it is right before school starts, that they will be away, that the grandparents can’t properly care for the child?

I would. My kids’ grandparents are wonderful and I personally grew up spending two weeks per summer with my grandparents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would, sure. What is the issue for the person who is disagreeing? You haven’t mentioned that the grandparents can’t take care of the child, which of course changes everything. What is special about the week before school starts?

The issue is they have already seen their grandparents for two weeks in July and I don’t see the point of going to see them again during the hectic week before school starts. DH and I both woh and there’s still a lot to do for the kids before they start school.

Also in-laws won’t take them anywhere except McDonald’s and they will be bored out of their mind. But yes, they can take care of them.

Like what?

I’d say no since the kids themselves don’t want to go, but I agree with this sentiment. We always go to the beach the week before school starts. It’s really not an issue that it’s right before school. For us, it’s a last blast of summer. Not hectic at all. We order the school supplies before we go, and generally do dentist and other doctor appointments on breaks like Columbus Day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If they’ve already been for 2 weeks in July then probably not.

Dh is saying they need to spend time at the in-laws home now since those two weeks in July took place at our home and also a family vacation to the outer banks. Doesn’t make any sense to me.

Why is he insisting? Does he want a kid-free week?

Nothing wrong with that if that’s his reasoning!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would, sure. What is the issue for the person who is disagreeing? You haven’t mentioned that the grandparents can’t take care of the child, which of course changes everything. What is special about the week before school starts?

The issue is they have already seen their grandparents for two weeks in July and I don’t see the point of going to see them again during the hectic week before school starts. DH and I both woh and there’s still a lot to do for the kids before they start school.

Also in-laws won’t take them anywhere except McDonald’s and they will be bored out of their mind. But yes, they can take care of them.

Can you take 2-3 days off work and go somewhere just the two of you, like a hotel on the beach or NYC? You have free childcare - considering using it!

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a no to me. Kids don’t want to go, there is lots of stuff going on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would, sure. What is the issue for the person who is disagreeing? You haven’t mentioned that the grandparents can’t take care of the child, which of course changes everything. What is special about the week before school starts?

The issue is they have already seen their grandparents for two weeks in July and I don’t see the point of going to see them again during the hectic week before school starts. DH and I both woh and there’s still a lot to do for the kids before they start school.

Also in-laws won’t take them anywhere except McDonald’s and they will be bored out of their mind. But yes, they can take care of them.

HA HA I just KNEW you would be talking about your in laws and not your own parents. In laws - especially in law grandparents - NEVER get cut a friggin break on DCUM. Ever.

You say that all they’re gonna be doing that week is going to McDonald’s? If that’s the case, then God Bless. All they’re gonna be doing that week in your house is running around like chickens without heads while their two parents are both working and stressing about school starting and being ZERO fun.

If you were the kids, which door would you prefer to take?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would, sure. What is the issue for the person who is disagreeing? You haven’t mentioned that the grandparents can’t take care of the child, which of course changes everything. What is special about the week before school starts?

The issue is they have already seen their grandparents for two weeks in July and I don’t see the point of going to see them again during the hectic week before school starts. DH and I both woh and there’s still a lot to do for the kids before they start school.

Also in-laws won’t take them anywhere except McDonald’s and they will be bored out of their mind. But yes, they can take care of them.

HA HA I just KNEW you would be talking about your in laws and not your own parents. In laws - especially in law grandparents - NEVER get cut a friggin break on DCUM. Ever.

You say that all they’re gonna be doing that week is going to McDonald’s? If that’s the case, then God Bless. All they’re gonna be doing that week in your house is running around like chickens without heads while their two parents are both working and stressing about school starting and being ZERO fun.

If you were the kids, which door would you prefer to take?

My kids want to stay home. I asked them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would, sure. What is the issue for the person who is disagreeing? You haven’t mentioned that the grandparents can’t take care of the child, which of course changes everything. What is special about the week before school starts?

The issue is they have already seen their grandparents for two weeks in July and I don’t see the point of going to see them again during the hectic week before school starts. DH and I both woh and there’s still a lot to do for the kids before they start school.

Also in-laws won’t take them anywhere except McDonald’s and they will be bored out of their mind. But yes, they can take care of them.

HA HA I just KNEW you would be talking about your in laws and not your own parents. In laws - especially in law grandparents - NEVER get cut a friggin break on DCUM. Ever.

You say that all they’re gonna be doing that week is going to McDonald’s? If that’s the case, then God Bless. All they’re gonna be doing that week in your house is running around like chickens without heads while their two parents are both working and stressing about school starting and being ZERO fun.

If you were the kids, which door would you prefer to take?

My kids want to stay home. I asked them.

It’s all in the presentation. I’m sure they said no because you have been making your feelings perfectly clear and they want to please or at least not ruffle the feathers of their (unpleasant) mother.

[Anonymous]

In laws yes, my parents no

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the kids don’t want to go then a definite no!

Very true, but I blame OP for them not wanting to go. She could easily have them wanting to go if she wanted them to go. What a shrew. She might want to google all the threads where DCUM moms complain about absent grandparents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would, sure. What is the issue for the person who is disagreeing? You haven’t mentioned that the grandparents can’t take care of the child, which of course changes everything. What is special about the week before school starts?

The issue is they have already seen their grandparents for two weeks in July and I don’t see the point of going to see them again during the hectic week before school starts. DH and I both woh and there’s still a lot to do for the kids before they start school.

Also in-laws won’t take them anywhere except McDonald’s and they will be bored out of their mind. But yes, they can take care of them.

HA HA I just KNEW you would be talking about your in laws and not your own parents. In laws - especially in law grandparents - NEVER get cut a friggin break on DCUM. Ever.

You say that all they’re gonna be doing that week is going to McDonald’s? If that’s the case, then God Bless. All they’re gonna be doing that week in your house is running around like chickens without heads while their two parents are both working and stressing about school starting and being ZERO fun.

If you were the kids, which door would you prefer to take?

My kids want to stay home. I asked them.

It’s all in the presentation. I’m sure they said no because you have been making your feelings perfectly clear and they want to please or at least not ruffle the feathers of their (unpleasant) mother.

You know OP’s kids better than their own mother?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would, sure. What is the issue for the person who is disagreeing? You haven’t mentioned that the grandparents can’t take care of the child, which of course changes everything. What is special about the week before school starts?

The issue is they have already seen their grandparents for two weeks in July and I don’t see the point of going to see them again during the hectic week before school starts. DH and I both woh and there’s still a lot to do for the kids before they start school.

Also in-laws won’t take them anywhere except McDonald’s and they will be bored out of their mind. But yes, they can take care of them.

HA HA I just KNEW you would be talking about your in laws and not your own parents. In laws - especially in law grandparents - NEVER get cut a friggin break on DCUM. Ever.

You say that all they’re gonna be doing that week is going to McDonald’s? If that’s the case, then God Bless. All they’re gonna be doing that week in your house is running around like chickens without heads while their two parents are both working and stressing about school starting and being ZERO fun.

If you were the kids, which door would you prefer to take?

My kids want to stay home. I asked them.

It’s all in the presentation. I’m sure they said no because you have been making your feelings perfectly clear and they want to please or at least not ruffle the feathers of their (unpleasant) mother.

DP, but you're easily the most unpleasant person on this thread. What's your damage?