Cash Compensation for Good Grades in High School

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you paying her to be a contributing member of the family team? When we all painted out entire house this year, the kids didn’t get paid.

Why wouldn’t we? Many kids get allowances. We’re not poor. We’re not strapped for cash. People all over the world receive compensation for the work that they do. We push our kids above and beyond; they deliver every time and in every category. Painting is about as challenging as vacuuming. Running electric requires skill, knowledge of the NEC, and required operating on an entirely different level, especially for a teenager.

It’s not the skill involved that’s important. It’s teaching your children that some things are more important than money and they shouldn’t expect to be compensated for everything. Like doing their best in school or contributing to family projects or volunteering in their community. Do your children expect to be paid when they volunteer?

BTW, how would you react if your child got a C?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The HS student trolls are active today.

Troll = The derogatory characterization imparted upon a precocious and transcendent individual by a particularly benighted member of an intellectually inferior caste.

You’re likely both unaccomplished and unemployable, so I wouldn’t expect a response much more enlightening than the one you struggled so hard to produce.

I’m a proud SAHM that was smart enough to marry a DH with 7 figure HHI. Whose unaccomplished and unemployable now? Your a little dimwit wishing you could be in my cast. LOL.

But not smart enough, apparently, to use correct grammar…LOL.

Your correct pronoun is “who,” not “that,” because you are a person, not a thing. “Whose” -> “Who’s.” “Your” -> “You’re.”

OMG. Are we writing essays for the SAT now? Whom do you you think you’re talking to!?! I attended a T10 SLAC. And, besides, this is social media. Get a life. I’m aware of grammar rules. Jeez.

I think I’m talking to someone who is happy to dish out criticism, but not happy to receive it. And you’ve proven me right! Signed, Person with a life

DP - what does that mean?

Np Who is ever happy to receive criticism? You may take it better and more mature than others but, no one likes getting it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids get $10 for straight As starting 1st quarter in 7th grade. Each subsequent quarter with straight As, add $10. This continues til the end of high school. If at anytime grades drop below straight As, they start over. However, if end of the year final report card is all As, then they get the money.
So far, my oldest is starting junior year, still all As. She received $160 for last report card. My thinking is straight As may actually save us money if it results in scholarship money for college.
Otherwise, we don’t give allowances, as all family members are expected to contribute to chores. DD uses her money to eat out/hang out with friends and never asks for spending money from us.

We do almost the same thing. They get $20 for an A per quarter and nothing for anything else. They don't have typical jobs and they don't get allowances. They are expected to do chores around the house and they don't get paid for it. They use the money on things I would normally pay for. You would be surprised at how differently they handle their "A" fund money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not the skill involved that’s important. It’s teaching your children that some things are more important than money and they shouldn’t expect to be compensated for everything. Like doing their best in school or contributing to family projects or volunteering in their community. Do your children expect to be paid when they volunteer?

BTW, how would you react if your child got a C?

What makes you think OP has to compensate her kids for everything? She’s choosing to acknowledge and reward exceptional achievement. What is wrong with that? Getting straight A’s in honors and AP classes is exceptional. Having kids that are able to do that while also embracing skilled, manual labor is doubly exceptional.

Seems to me the only people that would have a problem with this philosophy are the ones with unexceptional children. You wish your kids were this amazing, but the only way you can imagine it happening is through bribery and coercion. What you probably fail to realize is that both you and your children have always been mediocre and – only now – are you coming to grips with your insurmountable lack of accomplishment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not the skill involved that’s important. It’s teaching your children that some things are more important than money and they shouldn’t expect to be compensated for everything. Like doing their best in school or contributing to family projects or volunteering in their community. Do your children expect to be paid when they volunteer?

BTW, how would you react if your child got a C?

What makes you think OP has to compensate her kids for everything? She’s choosing to acknowledge and reward exceptional achievement. What is wrong with that? Getting straight A’s in honors and AP classes is exceptional. Having kids that are able to do that while also embracing skilled, manual labor is doubly exceptional.

Seems to me the only people that would have a problem with this philosophy are the ones with unexceptional children. You wish your kids were this amazing, but the only way you can imagine it happening is through bribery and coercion. What you probably fail to realize is that both you and your children have always been mediocre and – only now – are you coming to grips with your insurmountable lack of accomplishment.

You are one of those DCUM posters who can see through your screen right into another posters house! And you can read minds! Amazing! Exceptional!

Are your parents paying you for all this wonderfulness or are you doing it all for free? For free? OP’s kids are smarter than you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not the skill involved that’s important. It’s teaching your children that some things are more important than money and they shouldn’t expect to be compensated for everything. Like doing their best in school or contributing to family projects or volunteering in their community. Do your children expect to be paid when they volunteer?

BTW, how would you react if your child got a C?

What makes you think OP has to compensate her kids for everything? She’s choosing to acknowledge and reward exceptional achievement. What is wrong with that? Getting straight A’s in honors and AP classes is exceptional. Having kids that are able to do that while also embracing skilled, manual labor is doubly exceptional.

Seems to me the only people that would have a problem with this philosophy are the ones with unexceptional children. You wish your kids were this amazing, but the only way you can imagine it happening is through bribery and coercion. What you probably fail to realize is that both you and your children have always been mediocre and – only now – are you coming to grips with your insurmountable lack of accomplishment.

You are one of those DCUM posters who can see through your screen right into another posters house! And you can read minds! Amazing! Exceptional!

Are your parents paying you for all this wonderfulness or are you doing it all for free? For free? OP’s kids are smarter than you.

Are you drunk?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The HS student trolls are active today.

Troll = The derogatory characterization imparted upon a precocious and transcendent individual by a particularly benighted member of an intellectually inferior caste.

You’re likely both unaccomplished and unemployable, so I wouldn’t expect a response much more enlightening than the one you struggled so hard to produce.

I’m a proud SAHM that was smart enough to marry a DH with 7 figure HHI. Whose unaccomplished and unemployable now? Your a little dimwit wishing you could be in my cast. LOL.

I don't know PP. On DCUM, who doesn't make a 7 figure? Also, I'd be more impressed if YOU were making a 7 figure HHI. But you are not.

- np

I could easily make a 7 figure income, but I choose to take the harder path and stay at home. It is way more difficult and mentally demanding then a typical office job. I’m an enabler and a leader for the family. Everything runs smooth due to my efforts and DH’s 7 figure income would be more like 5 figure if I didn’t facilitate his success.

As a working mom who has made 7 figures, after working my a$$ off 20 years to get there, I can tell you that you are delusional. And having been a also been SAHM, I can also tell you there is NOTHING mentally demanding about diapers, playdates, dinner and dishes. You live in lalaland.

I love the fact that PP sadi she could "easily" make 7 figures... I don't even know how much is a 7 figure salary

- dp

OMG people. It means I could easily make more than $1,000,000 per year!?! 7 figures…duh! Of course I could too. I have lots of ideas for starting my own business, but I’m waiting for the right time. When I pull the trigger, tho, DH will be able to retire and we’ll be raking in the $$. I studied entrepreneurship at W&M and have my MBA, so I def know my way around the board room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not the skill involved that’s important. It’s teaching your children that some things are more important than money and they shouldn’t expect to be compensated for everything. Like doing their best in school or contributing to family projects or volunteering in their community. Do your children expect to be paid when they volunteer?

BTW, how would you react if your child got a C?

What makes you think OP has to compensate her kids for everything? She’s choosing to acknowledge and reward exceptional achievement. What is wrong with that? Getting straight A’s in honors and AP classes is exceptional. Having kids that are able to do that while also embracing skilled, manual labor is doubly exceptional.

Seems to me the only people that would have a problem with this philosophy are the ones with unexceptional children. You wish your kids were this amazing, but the only way you can imagine it happening is through bribery and coercion. What you probably fail to realize is that both you and your children have always been mediocre and – only now – are you coming to grips with your insurmountable lack of accomplishment.

Is anyone else thinking that the level of vitriol in this post gives away that it was written by OP herself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At the end of each year, we tally up all our kids’ grades and give them money that varies as a function of grade received. Here’s the mapping we use:

C = $200*(G - 3.0), where G is the weighted grade point score received in a particular class and is C is the cash they receive.

So, if DC gets an A in a regular class, that maps to a 4.0 and is worth $200. An A in an AP class maps to a 5.0 and is worth $400. Anything below a B in a regular class maps to negative dollars and DC owes us money.

My rising senior received straight A’s in 7 classes, all AP and honors. We paid him something like $2,650 for good grades in his Junior year. Is this excessive, normal, or skimpy?

This is crazy! My kids get 50 dollars if all As to spend on video games. If no straight As, no gaming money.

[Anonymous]

Honest question: OP, what was the point of this post?

The consensus seems to be that the compensation you’re giving your children is higher than most believe appropriate. But it also seems like you’ve locked yourselves into that system - that is, if you changed it now, it would be unfair to your younger kid(s).

And when others have voiced disagreement with your approach, you’ve responded with name-calling and personal attacks (I know, typical for DCUM) - suggesting that you don’t actually want feedback on your system, like your post requested.

Some things you might reflect on: Did you post because you were hoping others would think your formulaic approach was smart and want to copy it? Or because you wanted to brag about your child’s straight A’s? Why is your impulse to call people names / say they’re less than you when they disagree with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The HS student trolls are active today.

Troll = The derogatory characterization imparted upon a precocious and transcendent individual by a particularly benighted member of an intellectually inferior caste.

You’re likely both unaccomplished and unemployable, so I wouldn’t expect a response much more enlightening than the one you struggled so hard to produce.

I’m a proud SAHM that was smart enough to marry a DH with 7 figure HHI. Whose unaccomplished and unemployable now? Your a little dimwit wishing you could be in my cast. LOL.

I don't know PP. On DCUM, who doesn't make a 7 figure? Also, I'd be more impressed if YOU were making a 7 figure HHI. But you are not.

- np

I could easily make a 7 figure income, but I choose to take the harder path and stay at home. It is way more difficult and mentally demanding then a typical office job. I’m an enabler and a leader for the family. Everything runs smooth due to my efforts and DH’s 7 figure income would be more like 5 figure if I didn’t facilitate his success.

As a working mom who has made 7 figures, after working my a$$ off 20 years to get there, I can tell you that you are delusional. And having been a also been SAHM, I can also tell you there is NOTHING mentally demanding about diapers, playdates, dinner and dishes. You live in lalaland.

I love the fact that PP sadi she could "easily" make 7 figures... I don't even know how much is a 7 figure salary

- dp

OMG people. It means I could easily make more than $1,000,000 per year!?! 7 figures…duh! Of course I could too. I have lots of ideas for starting my own business, but I’m waiting for the right time. When I pull the trigger, tho, DH will be able to retire and we’ll be raking in the $$. I studied entrepreneurship at W&M and have my MBA, so I def know my way around the board room.

Which board room? Not some hypothetical, but what actual board do you know your way around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At the end of each year, we tally up all our kids’ grades and give them money that varies as a function of grade received. Here’s the mapping we use:

C = $200*(G - 3.0), where G is the weighted grade point score received in a particular class and is C is the cash they receive.

So, if DC gets an A in a regular class, that maps to a 4.0 and is worth $200. An A in an AP class maps to a 5.0 and is worth $400. Anything below a B in a regular class maps to negative dollars and DC owes us money.

My rising senior received straight A’s in 7 classes, all AP and honors. We paid him something like $2,650 for good grades in his Junior year. Is this excessive, normal, or skimpy?

This is crazy! My kids get 50 dollars if all As to spend on video games. If no straight As, no gaming money.

My kids get 10k for straight As. They invest nearly all of it.

[Anonymous]

My kids both get straight A’s and all they get is a compliment from us and their favorite dinner out.

Getting straight A’s is it’s own self reinforcement. Once you know you can do it and consider yourself “smart” you want it for yourself.