Cash Compensation for Good Grades in High School

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've taught my high stats kid not to accept bribes. So far, so good.

Probably this will work until they have to get real jobs and decide to decline paychecks, bonuses, and pay raises because you’ve taught them that receiving compensation that increases with the quality of work products is either unimportant or underhanded.

OMG. THAT.IS.SUCH.A.STUPID.COMMENT.

-np

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you doing that?

To quantify and reinforce the importance of working hard in school.

If your kid is old enough to take AP classes and still doesn't understand the importance of working hard, you have a bigger problem.

You seem to be inferring causality where none exists. What makes you think OP needs to incentivize hard work? Fast forward ten years. If your kid is old enough to have a job and still doesn’t understand the importance of working hard, you have a bigger problem. Employees across the planet who work hard and produce exceptional results receive recognition and increased merit-based compensation from their employers. Should this practice stop? Should everyone just receive participation awards for demonstrating mediocrity?

[Anonymous]

My mom flat out told me before ninth grade that I wasn’t going to a private university unless it was top notch. There was no cash compensation for good grades, only a penalty for poor ones. Tutoring where I needed it. Worked out well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you doing that?

To quantify and reinforce the importance of working hard in school.

If your kid is old enough to take AP classes and still doesn't understand the importance of working hard, you have a bigger problem.

You seem to be inferring causality where none exists. What makes you think OP needs to incentivize hard work? Fast forward ten years. If your kid is old enough to have a job and still doesn’t understand the importance of working hard, you have a bigger problem. Employees across the planet who work hard and produce exceptional results receive recognition and increased merit-based compensation from their employers. Should this practice stop? Should everyone just receive participation awards for demonstrating mediocrity?

You do have a bigger problem.

[Anonymous]

The HS student trolls are active today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've taught my high stats kid not to accept bribes. So far, so good.

Luckily, your alleged high stats kid will have no chance of ever competing head-to-head with mine. While your DC is desperately scratching their way into the likes of GMU or UVA, mine will be sailing effortlessly into MIT and Harvard.

[Anonymous]

I think it's damaging to pay kids for things they should be doing anyway, which is their best effort for chores and academics. Know your child, their potential and reward the effort. It takes a lot more socio-emotional acuity on a parent's part to recognize an individual child's effort rather than lazily reward visible achievement. Visible achievement should be its own reward. It's the work ethic you want to foster. It's also not fair, in a sibling group with different abilities, to tacitly compare them by reward achievement.

That being said, my MIL used to give money to her all her grandkids for good grades. I didn't say anything, since it made her happy, but I would never do this myself. She's from a different era, and also was a war refugee, so I understand she has a different relationship with money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've taught my high stats kid not to accept bribes. So far, so good.

Luckily, your alleged high stats kid will have no chance of ever competing head-to-head with mine. While your DC is desperately scratching their way into the likes of GMU or UVA, mine will be sailing effortlessly into MIT and Harvard.

So funny..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The HS student trolls are active today.

Troll = The derogatory characterization imparted upon a precocious and transcendent individual by a particularly benighted member of an intellectually inferior caste.

You’re likely both unaccomplished and unemployable, so I wouldn’t expect a response much more enlightening than the one you struggled so hard to produce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The HS student trolls are active today.

Troll = The derogatory characterization imparted upon a precocious and transcendent individual by a particularly benighted member of an intellectually inferior caste.

You’re likely both unaccomplished and unemployable, so I wouldn’t expect a response much more enlightening than the one you struggled so hard to produce.

I’m a proud SAHM that was smart enough to marry a DH with 7 figure HHI. Whose unaccomplished and unemployable now? Your a little dimwit wishing you could be in my cast. LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've taught my high stats kid not to accept bribes. So far, so good.

Probably this will work until they have to get real jobs and decide to decline paychecks, bonuses, and pay raises because you’ve taught them that receiving compensation that increases with the quality of work products is either unimportant or underhanded.

Tell me you don't know what a bribe is without telling me you don't know what a bribe is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The HS student trolls are active today.

Troll = The derogatory characterization imparted upon a precocious and transcendent individual by a particularly benighted member of an intellectually inferior caste.

You’re likely both unaccomplished and unemployable, so I wouldn’t expect a response much more enlightening than the one you struggled so hard to produce.

I’m a proud SAHM that was smart enough to marry a DH with 7 figure HHI. Whose unaccomplished and unemployable now? Your a little dimwit wishing you could be in my cast. LOL.

I don't know PP. On DCUM, who doesn't make a 7 figure? Also, I'd be more impressed if YOU were making a 7 figure HHI. But you are not.

- np

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've taught my high stats kid not to accept bribes. So far, so good.

Luckily, your alleged high stats kid will have no chance of ever competing head-to-head with mine. While your DC is desperately scratching their way into the likes of GMU or UVA, mine will be sailing effortlessly into MIT and Harvard.

Thanks for the LOL! I'm sure HYPSM is full of kids whose parents bribed them to get good grades.

[Anonymous]

If your kids can earn high grades in rigorous courses, they should be satisfied with their education and where it will take them. A great college is the next stop. I doubt the kids are really working for this money. Hopefully, they understand that their long-term future is much more important and worthwhile. What you’re doing is akin to paying your kids to be moral. They should be that for its own sake, not your bribe.

[Anonymous]

Has to be a troll or a nutcase. My parents always used the carrot and the stick approach. Good grades would get me into a good college. Bad grades meant fewer hours I could devote to sports. Both were effective motivators.