Cash Compensation for Good Grades in High School

[Anonymous]

Wow. My parents fed me. I thought that was pretty cool.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The HS student trolls are active today.

Troll = The derogatory characterization imparted upon a precocious and transcendent individual by a particularly benighted member of an intellectually inferior caste.

You’re likely both unaccomplished and unemployable, so I wouldn’t expect a response much more enlightening than the one you struggled so hard to produce.

I’m a proud SAHM that was smart enough to marry a DH with 7 figure HHI. Whose unaccomplished and unemployable now? Your a little dimwit wishing you could be in my cast. LOL.

I don't know PP. On DCUM, who doesn't make a 7 figure? Also, I'd be more impressed if YOU were making a 7 figure HHI. But you are not.

- np

I could easily make a 7 figure income, but I choose to take the harder path and stay at home. It is way more difficult and mentally demanding then a typical office job. I’m an enabler and a leader for the family. Everything runs smooth due to my efforts and DH’s 7 figure income would be more like 5 figure if I didn’t facilitate his success.

Oh please. I’m a working mom. While I contend that it’s far more tedious to be at home, it’s not inherently harder, certainly not harder than a seven figure career in finance, biglaw, exclusive ranks of medicine, or grueling entrepreneurship. It’s much more mindless - there is nothing intellectually stimulating about taking your kid to the park, making them lunch, or watching them at soccer after school. Furthermore, yes, you are an asset to your husbands career, but the most demanding of all is having two working parents. Neither you nor your dh are on the truly most demanding path.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The HS student trolls are active today.

Troll = The derogatory characterization imparted upon a precocious and transcendent individual by a particularly benighted member of an intellectually inferior caste.

You’re likely both unaccomplished and unemployable, so I wouldn’t expect a response much more enlightening than the one you struggled so hard to produce.

I’m a proud SAHM that was smart enough to marry a DH with 7 figure HHI. Whose unaccomplished and unemployable now? Your a little dimwit wishing you could be in my cast. LOL.

I don't know PP. On DCUM, who doesn't make a 7 figure? Also, I'd be more impressed if YOU were making a 7 figure HHI. But you are not.

- np

I could easily make a 7 figure income, but I choose to take the harder path and stay at home. It is way more difficult and mentally demanding then a typical office job. I’m an enabler and a leader for the family. Everything runs smooth due to my efforts and DH’s 7 figure income would be more like 5 figure if I didn’t facilitate his success.

Oh please. I’m a working mom. While I contend that it’s far more tedious to be at home, it’s not inherently harder, certainly not harder than a seven figure career in finance, biglaw, exclusive ranks of medicine, or grueling entrepreneurship. It’s much more mindless - there is nothing intellectually stimulating about taking your kid to the park, making them lunch, or watching them at soccer after school. Furthermore, yes, you are an asset to your husbands career, but the most demanding of all is having two working parents. Neither you nor your dh are on the truly most demanding path.

Also not diminishing the benefits of a stay at home parent. I think it’s a wonderful thing for a kid. But you sound obnoxiously defensive about it and your self worth.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The HS student trolls are active today.

Troll = The derogatory characterization imparted upon a precocious and transcendent individual by a particularly benighted member of an intellectually inferior caste.

You’re likely both unaccomplished and unemployable, so I wouldn’t expect a response much more enlightening than the one you struggled so hard to produce.

I’m a proud SAHM that was smart enough to marry a DH with 7 figure HHI. Whose unaccomplished and unemployable now? Your a little dimwit wishing you could be in my cast. LOL.

I don't know PP. On DCUM, who doesn't make a 7 figure? Also, I'd be more impressed if YOU were making a 7 figure HHI. But you are not.

- np

I could easily make a 7 figure income, but I choose to take the harder path and stay at home. It is way more difficult and mentally demanding then a typical office job. I’m an enabler and a leader for the family. Everything runs smooth due to my efforts and DH’s 7 figure income would be more like 5 figure if I didn’t facilitate his success.

As a working mom who has made 7 figures, after working my a$$ off 20 years to get there, I can tell you that you are delusional. And having been a also been SAHM, I can also tell you there is NOTHING mentally demanding about diapers, playdates, dinner and dishes. You live in lalaland.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The HS student trolls are active today.

Troll = The derogatory characterization imparted upon a precocious and transcendent individual by a particularly benighted member of an intellectually inferior caste.

You’re likely both unaccomplished and unemployable, so I wouldn’t expect a response much more enlightening than the one you struggled so hard to produce.

I’m a proud SAHM that was smart enough to marry a DH with 7 figure HHI. Whose unaccomplished and unemployable now? Your a little dimwit wishing you could be in my cast. LOL.

I don't know PP. On DCUM, who doesn't make a 7 figure? Also, I'd be more impressed if YOU were making a 7 figure HHI. But you are not.

- np

I could easily make a 7 figure income, but I choose to take the harder path and stay at home. It is way more difficult and mentally demanding then a typical office job. I’m an enabler and a leader for the family. Everything runs smooth due to my efforts and DH’s 7 figure income would be more like 5 figure if I didn’t facilitate his success.

As a working mom who has made 7 figures, after working my a$$ off 20 years to get there, I can tell you that you are delusional. And having been a also been SAHM, I can also tell you there is NOTHING mentally demanding about diapers, playdates, dinner and dishes. You live in lalaland.

I love the fact that PP sadi she could "easily" make 7 figures... I don't even know how much is a 7 figure salary

- dp

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The HS student trolls are active today.

Troll = The derogatory characterization imparted upon a precocious and transcendent individual by a particularly benighted member of an intellectually inferior caste.

You’re likely both unaccomplished and unemployable, so I wouldn’t expect a response much more enlightening than the one you struggled so hard to produce.

I’m a proud SAHM that was smart enough to marry a DH with 7 figure HHI. Whose unaccomplished and unemployable now? Your a little dimwit wishing you could be in my cast. LOL.

But not smart enough, apparently, to use correct grammar…LOL.

Your correct pronoun is “who,” not “that,” because you are a person, not a thing. “Whose” -> “Who’s.” “Your” -> “You’re.”

OMG. Are we writing essays for the SAT now? Whom do you you think you’re talking to!?! I attended a T10 SLAC. And, besides, this is social media. Get a life. I’m aware of grammar rules. Jeez.

I think I’m talking to someone who is happy to dish out criticism, but not happy to receive it. And you’ve proven me right! Signed, Person with a life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The HS student trolls are active today.

Troll = The derogatory characterization imparted upon a precocious and transcendent individual by a particularly benighted member of an intellectually inferior caste.

You’re likely both unaccomplished and unemployable, so I wouldn’t expect a response much more enlightening than the one you struggled so hard to produce.

I’m a proud SAHM that was smart enough to marry a DH with 7 figure HHI. Whose unaccomplished and unemployable now? Your a little dimwit wishing you could be in my cast. LOL.

But not smart enough, apparently, to use correct grammar…LOL.

Your correct pronoun is “who,” not “that,” because you are a person, not a thing. “Whose” -> “Who’s.” “Your” -> “You’re.”

OMG. Are we writing essays for the SAT now? Whom do you you think you’re talking to!?! I attended a T10 SLAC. And, besides, this is social media. Get a life. I’m aware of grammar rules. Jeez.

I think I’m talking to someone who is happy to dish out criticism, but not happy to receive it. And you’ve proven me right! Signed, Person with a life

DP - what does that mean?

[Anonymous]

how about get good grades or suffer the natural consequences like a normal person? don't pay kids for doing things where someone else wouldn't pay them money for doing those things. they'll develop an unrealistic view of how the world works. This coming from someone who was coddled and paid money for good grades...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you doing that?

To quantify and reinforce the importance of working hard in school.

Why not just teach them intrinsic motivation? I never got below a B+ in any class (and can count on 1 hand the number of B+’s I received). My parents never once paid me for good grades.

+1. My parents paid me nothing for good grades, and I still got better grades than the kids whose parents bribed them. I can see how wanting to motivate your kids comes from a good place, though it makes me wonder what happens when the kids are older and haven’t learned intrinsic motivation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you doing that?

To quantify and reinforce the importance of working hard in school.

Why not just teach them intrinsic motivation? I never got below a B+ in any class (and can count on 1 hand the number of B+’s I received). My parents never once paid me for good grades.

+1. My parents paid me nothing for good grades, and I still got better grades than the kids whose parents bribed them. I can see how wanting to motivate your kids comes from a good place, though it makes me wonder what happens when the kids are older and haven’t learned intrinsic motivation.

OP here. So weird that everyone sees this as a bribe. Speaks volumes to the fragile relationship that most of you apparently have with your own kids. As I type this, my 15 year old daughter is in her upstairs bedroom installing R-49 batt insulation in the ceiling by herself after having helped demolish the previous ceiling and bag the old blown-in insulation. She is measuring, cutting, and stapling with no hand-holding whatsoever. Last weekend she worked with DH to run new electric, install recessed can lighting, a junction box for a ceiling fan, and configure interconnected hardwired smoke detectors as part of our upstairs renovation.

She’s not complaining or pushing back and happily agreed to do this for free…but we’re giving her $$$ anyway, because we would have paid a contractor an arm and a leg to do a worse job than we’re doing ourselves. The experience is valuable and empowering for both our kids. Everyone in our family is a contributor and we’ve turned this into somewhat of a construction camp for them. But I suppose all the DCs in the DMV area have the intrinsic motivation to renovate their own homes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you doing that?

To quantify and reinforce the importance of working hard in school.

Why not just teach them intrinsic motivation? I never got below a B+ in any class (and can count on 1 hand the number of B+’s I received). My parents never once paid me for good grades.

+1. My parents paid me nothing for good grades, and I still got better grades than the kids whose parents bribed them. I can see how wanting to motivate your kids comes from a good place, though it makes me wonder what happens when the kids are older and haven’t learned intrinsic motivation.

OP here. So weird that everyone sees this as a bribe. Speaks volumes to the fragile relationship that most of you apparently have with your own kids. As I type this, my 15 year old daughter is in her upstairs bedroom installing R-49 batt insulation in the ceiling by herself after having helped demolish the previous ceiling and bag the old blown-in insulation. She is measuring, cutting, and stapling with no hand-holding whatsoever. Last weekend she worked with DH to run new electric, install recessed can lighting, a junction box for a ceiling fan, and configure interconnected hardwired smoke detectors as part of our upstairs renovation.

She’s not complaining or pushing back and happily agreed to do this for free…but we’re giving her $$$ anyway, because we would have paid a contractor an arm and a leg to do a worse job than we’re doing ourselves. The experience is valuable and empowering for both our kids. Everyone in our family is a contributor and we’ve turned this into somewhat of a construction camp for them. But I suppose all the DCs in the DMV area have the intrinsic motivation to renovate their own homes?

your bs-ing has gone too far

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you doing that?

To quantify and reinforce the importance of working hard in school.

Why not just teach them intrinsic motivation? I never got below a B+ in any class (and can count on 1 hand the number of B+’s I received). My parents never once paid me for good grades.

+1. My parents paid me nothing for good grades, and I still got better grades than the kids whose parents bribed them. I can see how wanting to motivate your kids comes from a good place, though it makes me wonder what happens when the kids are older and haven’t learned intrinsic motivation.

OP here. So weird that everyone sees this as a bribe. Speaks volumes to the fragile relationship that most of you apparently have with your own kids. As I type this, my 15 year old daughter is in her upstairs bedroom installing R-49 batt insulation in the ceiling by herself after having helped demolish the previous ceiling and bag the old blown-in insulation. She is measuring, cutting, and stapling with no hand-holding whatsoever. Last weekend she worked with DH to run new electric, install recessed can lighting, a junction box for a ceiling fan, and configure interconnected hardwired smoke detectors as part of our upstairs renovation.

She’s not complaining or pushing back and happily agreed to do this for free…but we’re giving her $$$ anyway, because we would have paid a contractor an arm and a leg to do a worse job than we’re doing ourselves. The experience is valuable and empowering for both our kids. Everyone in our family is a contributor and we’ve turned this into somewhat of a construction camp for them. But I suppose all the DCs in the DMV area have the intrinsic motivation to renovate their own homes?

This level of productivity and achievement is totally lost on the DCUM crowd. Your kids are acquiring skills and producing results that most adults will never even know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you doing that?

To quantify and reinforce the importance of working hard in school.

Why not just teach them intrinsic motivation? I never got below a B+ in any class (and can count on 1 hand the number of B+’s I received). My parents never once paid me for good grades.

+1. My parents paid me nothing for good grades, and I still got better grades than the kids whose parents bribed them. I can see how wanting to motivate your kids comes from a good place, though it makes me wonder what happens when the kids are older and haven’t learned intrinsic motivation.

OP here. So weird that everyone sees this as a bribe. Speaks volumes to the fragile relationship that most of you apparently have with your own kids. As I type this, my 15 year old daughter is in her upstairs bedroom installing R-49 batt insulation in the ceiling by herself after having helped demolish the previous ceiling and bag the old blown-in insulation. She is measuring, cutting, and stapling with no hand-holding whatsoever. Last weekend she worked with DH to run new electric, install recessed can lighting, a junction box for a ceiling fan, and configure interconnected hardwired smoke detectors as part of our upstairs renovation.

She’s not complaining or pushing back and happily agreed to do this for free…but we’re giving her $$$ anyway, because we would have paid a contractor an arm and a leg to do a worse job than we’re doing ourselves. The experience is valuable and empowering for both our kids. Everyone in our family is a contributor and we’ve turned this into somewhat of a construction camp for them. But I suppose all the DCs in the DMV area have the intrinsic motivation to renovate their own homes?

Why are you paying her to be a contributing member of the family team? When we all painted out entire house this year, the kids didn’t get paid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you doing that?

To quantify and reinforce the importance of working hard in school.

Why not just teach them intrinsic motivation? I never got below a B+ in any class (and can count on 1 hand the number of B+’s I received). My parents never once paid me for good grades.

+1. My parents paid me nothing for good grades, and I still got better grades than the kids whose parents bribed them. I can see how wanting to motivate your kids comes from a good place, though it makes me wonder what happens when the kids are older and haven’t learned intrinsic motivation.

OP here. So weird that everyone sees this as a bribe. Speaks volumes to the fragile relationship that most of you apparently have with your own kids. As I type this, my 15 year old daughter is in her upstairs bedroom installing R-49 batt insulation in the ceiling by herself after having helped demolish the previous ceiling and bag the old blown-in insulation. She is measuring, cutting, and stapling with no hand-holding whatsoever. Last weekend she worked with DH to run new electric, install recessed can lighting, a junction box for a ceiling fan, and configure interconnected hardwired smoke detectors as part of our upstairs renovation.

She’s not complaining or pushing back and happily agreed to do this for free…but we’re giving her $$$ anyway, because we would have paid a contractor an arm and a leg to do a worse job than we’re doing ourselves. The experience is valuable and empowering for both our kids. Everyone in our family is a contributor and we’ve turned this into somewhat of a construction camp for them. But I suppose all the DCs in the DMV area have the intrinsic motivation to renovate their own homes?

your bs-ing has gone too far

Truly depressing for you and your family that you think this must be BS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you paying her to be a contributing member of the family team? When we all painted out entire house this year, the kids didn’t get paid.

Why wouldn’t we? Many kids get allowances. We’re not poor. We’re not strapped for cash. People all over the world receive compensation for the work that they do. We push our kids above and beyond; they deliver every time and in every category. Painting is about as challenging as vacuuming. Running electric requires skill, knowledge of the NEC, and required operating on an entirely different level, especially for a teenager.