Do you wear lingerie for DH?

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Anonymous wrote:Oprah Winfrey used to say "frump a dump," so it's not just men who use that term. Frumpy is a style choice that has nothing to do with weight or how many children you birthed.

Ding Ding

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I did in the past but he never seemed particularly into it. It seemed silly to keep accumulating items that only get worn for a few minutes ahead of sex, so I stopped buying it.

I have some slightly prettier matching bra/underwear sets for date night and stuff, but I don't think that's what we're talking about.

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Anonymous wrote:What do you wear for her? Do you have fun underwear? Do you dress stylish or just wear T-shirts and shorts/jeans all the time?

I wear nice boxers and I get no complaints. When she wears lingerie they don’t stay on very long.

What brand of boxers do you wear? DH may need to upgrade.

Hanes Comfortsoft boxers. Nothing special but very comfortable.

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I mostly wear cotton nightgowns purely for comfort but I do have a few sexy nightgowns. When I wear one and my husband sees it he will stop whatever he is doing. After 34 years of marriage I’m quite happy that his reaction hasn’t changed.

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Dh likes me best in one of his white Hanes v neck t shirts and a boy shorts or a thong...works for me!

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Anonymous wrote:I wear these every night in different colors and designs.

I have a few matching kimonos.

However, an ex boyfriend once told me these are frumpy.

I am a 32D and size 4/6, so I am not really frumpy.

He preferred thongs, and I find those uncomfortable.

https://www.victoriassecret.com/us/vs/sleepwear-and-lingerie-catalog/5000006021

Do satin spaghetti strap slip-style nighties count as lingerie?

I don't find wearing a t-shirt or anything with sleeves comfortable for sleeping.

I am slowly accumulating these type of nightgowns as well. They are very comfortable to me and my DH thinks they are sexy so it’s a win win.

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Anonymous wrote:I mostly wear cotton nightgowns purely for comfort but I do have a few sexy nightgowns. When I wear one and my husband sees it he will stop whatever he is doing. After 34 years of marriage I’m quite happy that his reaction hasn’t changed.

As a former marketer I can assure you that packaging is very important!

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Anonymous wrote:I bought lingerie for my beautiful wife years ago as one of several gifts for her birthday. When I asked her why she never wore it, she told me she found the gift rude because it was a gift for me, not her.

You can imagine how our sex life is

I mean you did buy it for you if she didn’t express wanting one. You could have bought it at another time (not a birthday) if that is what you wanted to buy her. This is on you.

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Anonymous wrote:Man here. No longer married and these posts have convinced me to never marry again. I'm glad the women I date don't think like you frumpy housewives.

Thank you pp! Please don't marry again! I would rather be frumpy than be with a guy like you. You are doing us a big favor by not marrying.

Happy days are here again!!

I am a woman and agree with this guy.

Good than YOU marry him! Just because you agree than it doesn't make me wrong. Who gives a flying fig if you are a woman? As we all know there are plenty of women hating women.

I would rather be frumpy than with you or him.

Why are you so angry? Never said you were wrong just said I agree with him. I don't hate woman.

What you wrote was implied. "I am a woman and I agree" so therefore you are the "crazy angry women" Btw, I don't get women like you who choose to side with men who get everything. We aren't even treated like humans with basic rights to privacy.

Not all men are bad. I understand where the guy was coming from, he is entitled to his opinion. I see plenty of guys in jorts, high tops and ribbed tank tops (formally known as wife beaters). For me, I view those guys probably in the same light some men view woman as frumpy.

Not my preference, just like frumpy is not some men’s preference.

Sure not all men but a good majority. Notice how women are mostly likely to be killed and raped by men. This guy was a jerk not in his preferences but how he stated them.

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Anonymous wrote:Oprah Winfrey used to say "frump a dump," so it's not just men who use that term. Frumpy is a style choice that has nothing to do with weight or how many children you birthed.

Ding Ding

I prefer to call it comfort.

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Anonymous wrote:I bought lingerie for my beautiful wife years ago as one of several gifts for her birthday. When I asked her why she never wore it, she told me she found the gift rude because it was a gift for me, not her.

You can imagine how our sex life is

I mean you did buy it for you if she didn’t express wanting one. You could have bought it at another time (not a birthday) if that is what you wanted to buy her. This is on you.

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Man here - if I bought lingerie for my wife she’d think I was buying it for me so I don’t. She will buy a very nice nightgown once in awhile and I know she’s doing it for me and I’m very appreciative. It might be different if you’re newlyweds!

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Just a sample of my collection.

https://www.wickedtemptations.com/standard-sizes/sexy-lingerie-3/crotchless/luv-lace-teddy.html?swatchid=option-label-color-92-item-97

https://www.wickedtemptations.com/standard-sizes/sexy-lingerie-3/crotchless/cobalt-blue-mesh-cupless-babydoll-crotchless-panty-w-open-butt.html?swatchid=option-label-color-92-item-320

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Yes. Over 40, 3 kids, married over 15 years and wear lingerie once in a while. DH likes it but is not super into it (I’d do it more often if he were more into it). It is fun and he appreciates it at least as a cue if nothing else. I don’t have a closet dull (no need) but a few things I like and he does too.

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Anonymous wrote:What do you wear for her? Do you have fun underwear? Do you dress stylish or just wear T-shirts and shorts/jeans all the time?

NP - she asks me to be "standing at attention" when she gets into bed or to see my "salute" when I undress for her. and there's is nothing special she's ever asked me to wear to bed - outside of the bedroom yes, and I do wear particular shirts/pants/formal outfits that she likes to see me in.

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Anonymous wrote:Man here. No longer married and these posts have convinced me to never marry again. I'm glad the women I date don't think like you frumpy housewives.

We are not your Barbie dolls, that you get to dress up for entertainment.

You should choose a life partner for something far deeper than whether she shops at Victoria’s Secret!

But enjoy the single life Peter Pan.