Son still peeing in the bed

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Anonymous wrote:Some kids neuro growth happens later than others. Likely his brain is just not waking him up when he needs to pee. Use pull ups to limit cleanup and embarrassment, check with MD on annual exam. Don’t make it your son’s fault, don’t embarrass him over something he cannot control yet.

This. I wish people would accept this instead of suggesting the usual bullsh*t stuff of limiting liquids and waking to pee which do not work. Your kid will grow out of it eventually without intervention.

Waking to be works for my 7 year old 100% of the time. She would rather do that than wear diapers/pull ups(pull ups/diapers are actually an easier solution for us). I am not sure how these work-arounds suggest that we do not accept that she has cannot control this yet.

Waking to pee is disruptive for everyone. And it’s a type of intervention. Sometimes even if I woke my son to pee, his pull up was still wet in the am and his overall sleep was interrupted by the waking to pee. And then your child is relying on an external force (you) to wake up instead of his/her body being developmentally ready to hold their pee all night. It’s not a good habit to get in to.

Do you have any research/ citations to back this up?

Everybody in our household wakes to pee. No one I know habitually holds pee for 10 hours. Waking to pee might be disruptive for everyone, but so is having to convince a 7 year old night after night to wear pull-ups when she does not want to.

Diapers/ pull ups prevent bedwetting. If waking to pee can prevent bedwetting and not make her feel like she is a baby(her words, not ours), then its a plausible solution. It's not a worthy battle to have since either DH or myself are usually still awake at 11pm

I understand that waking to pee does not work for everyone, but nothing really does. I disagree that it is disruptive enough to not be considered in the case of a child who refuses to wear diapers/ pull ups. I do agree that if your child does not mind wearing pull ups, then that us the easiest solution.

When my sisters wet the bed they at this age, they did not wear diapers/ pull ups. They had bed protectors that they had to clean everyday. Many times, they had to put their mattresses out in the morning and change clothes in the middle of the night. That's disruptive as well.

Babies who use cloth diapers will frequently wake when those diapers get wet. That's disruptive as well. Yet these kids and their parents were/ are fine.

It sounds like you need to enforce your daughter to wear pull ups or get her to help change her sheets in the am rather than you having to wake her every night because she won’t wear something she needs overnight.

+1 she either wears pull ups or deals with the consequences the next am. You should not wake her to pee because she refuses to wear something she needs. Ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:Some kids neuro growth happens later than others. Likely his brain is just not waking him up when he needs to pee. Use pull ups to limit cleanup and embarrassment, check with MD on annual exam. Don’t make it your son’s fault, don’t embarrass him over something he cannot control yet.

This. I wish people would accept this instead of suggesting the usual bullsh*t stuff of limiting liquids and waking to pee which do not work. Your kid will grow out of it eventually without intervention.

Waking to be works for my 7 year old 100% of the time. She would rather do that than wear diapers/pull ups(pull ups/diapers are actually an easier solution for us). I am not sure how these work-arounds suggest that we do not accept that she has cannot control this yet.

Waking to pee is disruptive for everyone. And it’s a type of intervention. Sometimes even if I woke my son to pee, his pull up was still wet in the am and his overall sleep was interrupted by the waking to pee. And then your child is relying on an external force (you) to wake up instead of his/her body being developmentally ready to hold their pee all night. It’s not a good habit to get in to.

Do you have any research/ citations to back this up?

Everybody in our household wakes to pee. No one I know habitually holds pee for 10 hours. Waking to pee might be disruptive for everyone, but so is having to convince a 7 year old night after night to wear pull-ups when she does not want to.

Diapers/ pull ups prevent bedwetting. If waking to pee can prevent bedwetting and not make her feel like she is a baby(her words, not ours), then its a plausible solution. It's not a worthy battle to have since either DH or myself are usually still awake at 11pm

I understand that waking to pee does not work for everyone, but nothing really does. I disagree that it is disruptive enough to not be considered in the case of a child who refuses to wear diapers/ pull ups. I do agree that if your child does not mind wearing pull ups, then that us the easiest solution.

When my sisters wet the bed they at this age, they did not wear diapers/ pull ups. They had bed protectors that they had to clean everyday. Many times, they had to put their mattresses out in the morning and change clothes in the middle of the night. That's disruptive as well.

Babies who use cloth diapers will frequently wake when those diapers get wet. That's disruptive as well. Yet these kids and their parents were/ are fine.

No they don’t. They are a management tool so bed doesn’t get wet. My son was in pull ups for years but they don’t prevent bed wetting at all. Bed would still be wet. I highly suggest you read and learn more about bedwetting - the causes and how to deal. Start with your pediatrician.


The babies wear cloth diapers argument is silly and has nothing to do with bedwetting.

Sorry. Wrong use if word. I meant they prevent the bed from getting wet. I think it's silly that you think the cloth diaper argument is silly given that the argument is focused on the child waking up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some kids neuro growth happens later than others. Likely his brain is just not waking him up when he needs to pee. Use pull ups to limit cleanup and embarrassment, check with MD on annual exam. Don’t make it your son’s fault, don’t embarrass him over something he cannot control yet.

This. I wish people would accept this instead of suggesting the usual bullsh*t stuff of limiting liquids and waking to pee which do not work. Your kid will grow out of it eventually without intervention.

Waking to be works for my 7 year old 100% of the time. She would rather do that than wear diapers/pull ups(pull ups/diapers are actually an easier solution for us). I am not sure how these work-arounds suggest that we do not accept that she has cannot control this yet.

Waking to pee is disruptive for everyone. And it’s a type of intervention. Sometimes even if I woke my son to pee, his pull up was still wet in the am and his overall sleep was interrupted by the waking to pee. And then your child is relying on an external force (you) to wake up instead of his/her body being developmentally ready to hold their pee all night. It’s not a good habit to get in to.

Do you have any research/ citations to back this up?

Everybody in our household wakes to pee. No one I know habitually holds pee for 10 hours. Waking to pee might be disruptive for everyone, but so is having to convince a 7 year old night after night to wear pull-ups when she does not want to.

Diapers/ pull ups prevent bedwetting. If waking to pee can prevent bedwetting and not make her feel like she is a baby(her words, not ours), then its a plausible solution. It's not a worthy battle to have since either DH or myself are usually still awake at 11pm

I understand that waking to pee does not work for everyone, but nothing really does. I disagree that it is disruptive enough to not be considered in the case of a child who refuses to wear diapers/ pull ups. I do agree that if your child does not mind wearing pull ups, then that us the easiest solution.

When my sisters wet the bed they at this age, they did not wear diapers/ pull ups. They had bed protectors that they had to clean everyday. Many times, they had to put their mattresses out in the morning and change clothes in the middle of the night. That's disruptive as well.

Babies who use cloth diapers will frequently wake when those diapers get wet. That's disruptive as well. Yet these kids and their parents were/ are fine.

It sounds like you need to enforce your daughter to wear pull ups or get her to help change her sheets in the am rather than you having to wake her every night because she won’t wear something she needs overnight.

+1 she either wears pull ups or deals with the consequences the next am. You should not wake her to pee because she refuses to wear something she needs. Ridiculous.

Not your child, not your decision. If the people waking her up are OK with it, what's your business with consequences? It's ridiculous that you feel so strongly about it!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some kids neuro growth happens later than others. Likely his brain is just not waking him up when he needs to pee. Use pull ups to limit cleanup and embarrassment, check with MD on annual exam. Don’t make it your son’s fault, don’t embarrass him over something he cannot control yet.

This. I wish people would accept this instead of suggesting the usual bullsh*t stuff of limiting liquids and waking to pee which do not work. Your kid will grow out of it eventually without intervention.

Waking to be works for my 7 year old 100% of the time. She would rather do that than wear diapers/pull ups(pull ups/diapers are actually an easier solution for us). I am not sure how these work-arounds suggest that we do not accept that she has cannot control this yet.

Waking to pee is disruptive for everyone. And it’s a type of intervention. Sometimes even if I woke my son to pee, his pull up was still wet in the am and his overall sleep was interrupted by the waking to pee. And then your child is relying on an external force (you) to wake up instead of his/her body being developmentally ready to hold their pee all night. It’s not a good habit to get in to.

Do you have any research/ citations to back this up?

Everybody in our household wakes to pee. No one I know habitually holds pee for 10 hours. Waking to pee might be disruptive for everyone, but so is having to convince a 7 year old night after night to wear pull-ups when she does not want to.

Diapers/ pull ups prevent bedwetting. If waking to pee can prevent bedwetting and not make her feel like she is a baby(her words, not ours), then its a plausible solution. It's not a worthy battle to have since either DH or myself are usually still awake at 11pm

I understand that waking to pee does not work for everyone, but nothing really does. I disagree that it is disruptive enough to not be considered in the case of a child who refuses to wear diapers/ pull ups. I do agree that if your child does not mind wearing pull ups, then that us the easiest solution.

When my sisters wet the bed they at this age, they did not wear diapers/ pull ups. They had bed protectors that they had to clean everyday. Many times, they had to put their mattresses out in the morning and change clothes in the middle of the night. That's disruptive as well.

Babies who use cloth diapers will frequently wake when those diapers get wet. That's disruptive as well. Yet these kids and their parents were/ are fine.

It sounds like you need to enforce your daughter to wear pull ups or get her to help change her sheets in the am rather than you having to wake her every night because she won’t wear something she needs overnight.

It sounds like you have no idea what she needs!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Waking a bedwetter to pee nightly is not a long term solution to bedwetting. It is not recommended. A quick google search will show this.

Pull ups are short term solutions too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You waking yourself up to pee is not an issue. But purposely waking someone else up to pee is different.

I feel like this perception of “waking up” to pee on this thread is a little off. My son is 4 and told us he didn’t want to wear diapers anymore at night a few weeks ago, even though he wasn’t having dry diapers in the morning we decided to give it a go. He goes to sleep with no pants or underwear (that’s what the oh crap lady recommends, who knows), put one of those pads from Amazon down on top of his sheets, and we take him to the bathroom before we go to sleep around 10. I asked if he wanted me to after the first night and he said yes. But he doesn’t even wake up - I carry him in, stand him up, he pees with his eyes still closed, I pick him up and put him back in bed. He’s fast asleep the second his head hits the pillow, just kind of that groggy up to pee while still half asleep thing. It’s actually quite sweet carrying him in and out it’s not like I’m blaring the lights on like TIME TO PEE BUDDY!! Anyway it’s working well for us, he’s only had one accident after that “wake up” so far.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Diapers would be hard for an elementary school kid to put on by him or herself.

Our 9 year old who still occasionally wets the bed wears Ninjamas in the S/M size (for kids 38-65 pounds). Can just pull them on, they don’t have infantile prints, are relatively low profile, and no leaking (in our experience).

There’s thousands of Amazon reviews, so this can not be a rare issue!

It really depends on the kid, I had it figured out by the time i was 6.

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Anonymous wrote:Some kids neuro growth happens later than others. Likely his brain is just not waking him up when he needs to pee. Use pull ups to limit cleanup and embarrassment, check with MD on annual exam. Don’t make it your son’s fault, don’t embarrass him over something he cannot control yet.

This. I wish people would accept this instead of suggesting the usual bullsh*t stuff of limiting liquids and waking to pee which do not work. Your kid will grow out of it eventually without intervention.

Waking to be works for my 7 year old 100% of the time. She would rather do that than wear diapers/pull ups(pull ups/diapers are actually an easier solution for us). I am not sure how these work-arounds suggest that we do not accept that she has cannot control this yet.

Waking to pee is disruptive for everyone. And it’s a type of intervention. Sometimes even if I woke my son to pee, his pull up was still wet in the am and his overall sleep was interrupted by the waking to pee. And then your child is relying on an external force (you) to wake up instead of his/her body being developmentally ready to hold their pee all night. It’s not a good habit to get in to.

Do you have any research/ citations to back this up?

Everybody in our household wakes to pee. No one I know habitually holds pee for 10 hours. Waking to pee might be disruptive for everyone, but so is having to convince a 7 year old night after night to wear pull-ups when she does not want to.

Diapers/ pull ups prevent bedwetting. If waking to pee can prevent bedwetting and not make her feel like she is a baby(her words, not ours), then its a plausible solution. It's not a worthy battle to have since either DH or myself are usually still awake at 11pm

I understand that waking to pee does not work for everyone, but nothing really does. I disagree that it is disruptive enough to not be considered in the case of a child who refuses to wear diapers/ pull ups. I do agree that if your child does not mind wearing pull ups, then that us the easiest solution.

When my sisters wet the bed they at this age, they did not wear diapers/ pull ups. They had bed protectors that they had to clean everyday. Many times, they had to put their mattresses out in the morning and change clothes in the middle of the night. That's disruptive as well.

Babies who use cloth diapers will frequently wake when those diapers get wet. That's disruptive as well. Yet these kids and their parents were/ are fine.

No they don’t. They are a management tool so bed doesn’t get wet. My son was in pull ups for years but they don’t prevent bed wetting at all. Bed would still be wet. I highly suggest you read and learn more about bedwetting - the causes and how to deal. Start with your pediatrician.


The babies wear cloth diapers argument is silly and has nothing to do with bedwetting.

Sorry. Wrong use if word. I meant they prevent the bed from getting wet. I think it's silly that you think the cloth diaper argument is silly given that the argument is focused on the child waking up.

Babies wake for many reasons, including if their diaper needs to be changed. A bedwetter, on the other hand, is actually a very deep sleeper and is not awakened even when their bladder is full. The signal doesn’t wake their brain. It’s a very different phenomenon than a bay waking with a wet diaper. That’s why I suggested you educate yourself more about bedwetting. I’ll stop posting because it’s clear you are ignorant on what causes bedwetting and think it can be simply fixed with an easy solution.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Waking a bedwetter to pee nightly is not a long term solution to bedwetting. It is not recommended. A quick google search will show this.

Pull ups are short term solutions too.

Pull ups are to help control the amount of pee that gets on the bed. They do not actually help with making your child not wet the bed. The only thing that helps is time. It is developmental and something kids grow out of. Talk to your pedi. You don’t need to jump through hoops to try to stop bedwetting. Let your child naturally grow and develop in his or her own time. Just get the bed pads and pull ups and wait for it to go away. It will.

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Anonymous wrote:Some kids neuro growth happens later than others. Likely his brain is just not waking him up when he needs to pee. Use pull ups to limit cleanup and embarrassment, check with MD on annual exam. Don’t make it your son’s fault, don’t embarrass him over something he cannot control yet.

This. I wish people would accept this instead of suggesting the usual bullsh*t stuff of limiting liquids and waking to pee which do not work. Your kid will grow out of it eventually without intervention.

Waking to be works for my 7 year old 100% of the time. She would rather do that than wear diapers/pull ups(pull ups/diapers are actually an easier solution for us). I am not sure how these work-arounds suggest that we do not accept that she has cannot control this yet.

Waking to pee is disruptive for everyone. And it’s a type of intervention. Sometimes even if I woke my son to pee, his pull up was still wet in the am and his overall sleep was interrupted by the waking to pee. And then your child is relying on an external force (you) to wake up instead of his/her body being developmentally ready to hold their pee all night. It’s not a good habit to get in to.

Do you have any research/ citations to back this up?

Everybody in our household wakes to pee. No one I know habitually holds pee for 10 hours. Waking to pee might be disruptive for everyone, but so is having to convince a 7 year old night after night to wear pull-ups when she does not want to.

Diapers/ pull ups prevent bedwetting. If waking to pee can prevent bedwetting and not make her feel like she is a baby(her words, not ours), then its a plausible solution. It's not a worthy battle to have since either DH or myself are usually still awake at 11pm

I understand that waking to pee does not work for everyone, but nothing really does. I disagree that it is disruptive enough to not be considered in the case of a child who refuses to wear diapers/ pull ups. I do agree that if your child does not mind wearing pull ups, then that us the easiest solution.

When my sisters wet the bed they at this age, they did not wear diapers/ pull ups. They had bed protectors that they had to clean everyday. Many times, they had to put their mattresses out in the morning and change clothes in the middle of the night. That's disruptive as well.

Babies who use cloth diapers will frequently wake when those diapers get wet. That's disruptive as well. Yet these kids and their parents were/ are fine.

It sounds like you need to enforce your daughter to wear pull ups or get her to help change her sheets in the am rather than you having to wake her every night because she won’t wear something she needs overnight.

+1 she either wears pull ups or deals with the consequences the next am. You should not wake her to pee because she refuses to wear something she needs. Ridiculous.

Not your child, not your decision. If the people waking her up are OK with it, what's your business with consequences? It's ridiculous that you feel so strongly about it!

Please do a google search on bedwetting and talk to your pedi. Having an adult wake the child to pee nightly is not recommended.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You waking yourself up to pee is not an issue. But purposely waking someone else up to pee is different.

I feel like this perception of “waking up” to pee on this thread is a little off. My son is 4 and told us he didn’t want to wear diapers anymore at night a few weeks ago, even though he wasn’t having dry diapers in the morning we decided to give it a go. He goes to sleep with no pants or underwear (that’s what the oh crap lady recommends, who knows), put one of those pads from Amazon down on top of his sheets, and we take him to the bathroom before we go to sleep around 10. I asked if he wanted me to after the first night and he said yes. But he doesn’t even wake up - I carry him in, stand him up, he pees with his eyes still closed, I pick him up and put him back in bed. He’s fast asleep the second his head hits the pillow, just kind of that groggy up to pee while still half asleep thing. It’s actually quite sweet carrying him in and out it’s not like I’m blaring the lights on like TIME TO PEE BUDDY!! Anyway it’s working well for us, he’s only had one accident after that “wake up” so far.

You carry him to the bathroom every frickin night? Why? This will not “train” him. What are you going to do when he’s 9?

[Anonymous]

Use pull ups and wait it out, if no indication of constipation.

[Anonymous]

With my almost 7 year old, I would wake him up when I went to bed between 10 and 11 and he would be wet again by morning. He is a deep sleep and would have no recollection of me waking him up. He would pretty much sleep right through it. We just have him wear a diaper to bed until he outgrows it. Its less stress on the both of us in the morning that way.

[Anonymous]

Has he gotten any better with it?

[Anonymous]

This thread is FIVE YEARS OLD. Wtf.