Why do I like it when people feel sorry for me?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I understand the yearning for attention. But I can't imagine wanting to be pitied. Sympathy is nice because it shows me there are caring people in my life... But only for deaths in the family or maybe some other tragedy. I don't want sympathy for regular life events.

Op, an acquaintance of mine recently expressed to me that I should have offered her sympathy when her husband had Covid and she stayed in a hotel for 2 nights to quarantine. It was a lightbulb moment for me that told me who she was: a victim. Is this you? Do you feel like a victim?

OP here. Yes, I actually do feel like a victim; I believe that my low socioeconomic background deprived me of love and social advancement opportunities. I have done well for myself though and am trying to focus on the present and help myself stop projecting to the world that I’m a victim who is constantly looking for a mother figure to help her.

Just reading this, I can tell that you have major issues. Your friends needed to step up and tell you the truth about you a while ago. Personally, I wouldn’t have the time to care about any of your problems with your attention-seeking behavior. Time to grow up.

Agreed. And OP is just perpetuating the victim/"pity me" narrative in her quoted post. OP, do you think manipulative people admit to being manipulative? You need to grow up, get help, and stop.

OP here. Came back to check this thread and am surprised people think posting here is attention seeking—I don’t know any of you! So attention from you is worthless. Regardless, I got some good ideas about narcissism and my need for attention and will figure out therapy one way or another. I know the thoughts I posted here would send any man running for the hills, that’s why I am working so hard on dealing with them while I’m still young. Will not be checking this thread again so thanks everyone.

[Anonymous]

Not sure why this thread went sideways like it did. I think ALL woman at times want to hear/feel compassion from each other at times OP knows she has an issue it wasn't right of any of you women to attack her like that. Shame on all of you. There isn't a person here that hasn't been through some thing horrendous that didn't want attention and compassion from it you ladies have a catty, mob/gang mentality, why not read up on that and change that? At least OP sees she has a problem you all don't.