When CIO Doesn't Work...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man I really wonder how some of y’all stay married. Most of these cosleepers probably never have sex, which is precisely why cosleeping is off the table for both my DH and I. OP, he’s not a bad husband for wanting to share a bed and sleep with his wife, depression or not. Hire a sleep consultant. This isn’t hard.

It’s pretty easy to have sex while cosleeping. It’s not that different from having them in a crib or other room except you have to be quieter I guess. With young babies, you can just get them asleep on another part of the bed. With older babies or toddlers, you can get them to sleep then go have sex in another room. I mean, how do you think people had sex for most of human history before separate bedrooms became common?

There’s always time for sex no matter where your child sleeps or how bad a sleeper they are. Even if they wake up every hour, that is still plenty of time to have sex. I know because I’ve been there.

Haha just when I think I am fully liberated I read this and realize how puritanical I really am.

Im very liberated and draw the line at having sex with children in the same room but only because of the idea of consent.. Anyone in the room is not necessarily a participant but a young child may wake up and be scared to say anything but has to listen or hear. I think the previous poster made it seem like they were having sex while in the bed with their children present in the same and I cosleep but do not condone that if that is what she/he meant.

Omg the only time you have sex with the “child” in bed is when they’re like <6 months old. They don’t even know what sex is!! And if they wake up, you can tell - a newborn isn’t awake and quietly staring at you in fear and waiting until you’re done having sex before they start crying….????? And anyway how is it any different from people who have sex while their infant is in a pack n play or bassinet right by their bed?

I’m definitely in the “what did I just read?” camp. Advocating for cosleeping by saying you can have sex with your kid in the bed is…a f***ing choice. But WTF is this silly claim about it only being under 6 months? OP’s kid is 8 months already. Old enough to sit up, crawl, babble. And cosleeping lasts far far longer than 6 months. And then what? No sex at night, in the bed? For like…years? Yeah…good luck with that. Find a good attorney now.

That's just that one poster. If you need a bed, you can just get another bed. One bed goes in the child's room, and that's where the co-sleeping happens. One bed in the parents bedroom for Netflix and chill time while the child sleeps alone for part of the night.

[Anonymous]

OP, is baby hungry. We had to feed ours a meal before bed - usually a puree of a fruit and cereal mix. Also, maybe the reflux is flaring up. We would have that where baby would scream at night but would do better once medication changed or time.