Not every kid wants to discuss their family's religious background. It's ok if student offers that information but no one should pry as it might make kid uncomfortable or highlight 'otherness'. Some kids may want to share that their family is agnostic or atheist and no one should pry about that either. |
| Jesus, OP. Oops. sorry. |
yup. My Christian kid came home with a dreidel in Kindergarten. I didn't make a big deal. |
Weird response to my comment, which was about the question whether we should avoid discussing other holidays in class because some kids might get upset that they don't celebrate that holiday as well. Nobody said anything about forcing your kids to talk about their religion. Teachers certainly shouldn't call on kids individually asking them to share anything because they know the child is of a certain faith or ethnic background, or "pry" about their family's religion or lack thereof. This whole discussion makes me so glad my family is not religious and doesn't get worked up about any of this, even though we are an ethnic minority as well. |
What meaning "presents for eight nights" has nothing to do with Hanukkah - and is a pretty ignorant thing to say, actually. |
Right? That's why there were so many pogroms on Easter - they were just trying to get the kiddos to participate in Easter egg hunts. Also to the person pretending to be Jewish above - there is no such thing as a "Passover weekend" that occurs "every year" - you gotta invest more in your fake identity. |
Teacher or classmate provided? I'm assuming the latter. As a Jew I can tell you all about being encouraged to performatively 'share' a tradition like this when it's as much a license to normalize other Christian holiday symbolism without overtly excluding others. Nothing wrong with it, but why the fascination with Hanukah? Is it the most relatable to other commercialized celebrations? From experience, there is very little effort to share non- Judeo-Christian traditions. I'd love to hear a teacher engage with my kid why the Jewish New Year in celebrated in September and why it's significant instead of marking an unexcused absence even after receiving advanced notice. I'd love for my kid to learn more about El Eid or Diwali if others wished to share. |
The egg thing is about renewal. It’s pagan but merged into Easter for obvious reasons. Not very different from how Halloween is religious. It’s not a big deal. You objectors are the ones making it about religion. It’s like considering candles religious. Meanwhile, tons of non-religious organizations host egg hunts, while many churches don’t. I fail to see how anyone’s religious freedom is tarnished by a egg hunt. |
Your child is 4 so you haven't had a lot of in-school experience yet, but there will be discussions among the kids about holidays regardless of what the school does or doesn't do. Conversations about Christmas, Hanukah, Ramadan - whatever the holiday - it's all going to come out at some point. And managing your own child's reaction to those discussions is part of parenting kids in a diverse community. My oldest was upset when several of his Jewish friends told him that Santa wasn't real and talked about getting presents for 8 days in a row. The discussion happened in the classroom. What can you do? Kids are going to be kids. School is the time when kids start to learn and appreciate that other families are different from their own. I am not sure discouraging those conversations is a good thing. I will also add that there are lot of community egg hunts in public parks around this area - there's even an Easter Egg Roll at the White House - so it's certainly not a religious celebration. That said, you can always have your child opt out or miss school that day if you are uncomfortable. |
I didn’t say anything about presents for eight nights, so you are arguing with the wrong person. Maybe you can take it up with the first PP‘s school, who was teaching their kid wrongly about Hanukkah. |
Passover and Easter coincide. We do the egg hunt for the kids on the Saturday during Passover week (ie., the day before Easter Sunday) - hence why I used the term "Passover weekend." It's not a big deal, it's a mixed religious family tho we are more observant of Judaism. |
Exactly - during Halloween - our teacher said "the Jews have a Halloween called Prumim [sic]" It's like not necessary for young children. There is no way to nuance it. Do with older kids. |
OP, if you are determined to send your kids to gentrifying schools in DCPS you are going to have to relax. If this is the worse thing that happens to your kid in a DCPS you will be very lucky. Unless YOU are going to volunteer to lead the passover and ramadan celebrations at school, I wouldn't bring this up to the teacher. You will quickly be identifying yourself as one of the parents who is moving on after free preK. They do not care. |
I completely agree with this. I was not raised Christian, while DH's family is evangelical. As a result, we've had to introduce the concept that "different families believe different things, and that's okay. Your job is to be KIND and respectful, even if you don't think they're right" very early. It's easier and better to start having these conversations when they're young. We live in a diverse urban area, you just can't shield your child from differing beliefs, even if you wanted to. My DCPS kids also learned about Hanukah, Kwanzaa, etc. in school. It may vary by school, but DCPS as a whole makes an effort to be inclusive. I think it's a great idea to send a note if you haven't heard about other celebrations from your child. But ask for information, don't start off by assuming and judging. |
You guys are way over reacting about the presents for 8 nights comment. My kid (who is not jewish) learned about the meaning behind Hanukah but of course the main thing they take away is that their Jewish friends get presents 8 nights in a row. The schools aren't teaching it like that but kids are kids. |