Can a man and a woman really be just friends?

[Anonymous]

Women are crappy friends. They expect all the benefits of being a GF without having to provide any sex. In fact she won't even provide any of the benefits that a guy friend would. Just ask her to do anything mildly inconvenient to her, and you'll get an instant nope. She will expect you to help her move, but good luck getting her to help you move lmao. Every man who has been friend-zoned knows this. Female friends are not worth your time.

[Anonymous]

i have lots of male friends and plently who stay on the platonic side, but if we end up getting too close (emotional intimacies shared) then an attraction grows. feels mutual. That shift is palpable. Then it becomes confusing and i try to keep my distance.

[Anonymous]

Yep. I have a BFF from grad school that is male. We are both married to other people. Never dated. Never had any sexual tension. Just really great friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not all men are Neanderthals, many are capable of having friendships with women without wanting sex.

I think "friend" is a very vague noun. No man actively seeks out and puts energy into a 1:1 relationship with a woman for the sake of being "friends"

This is so gross because it implies there is nothing worth knowing a woman for other than what is between her legs.

[Anonymous]

Yes, if there's no *unresolved* sexual tension.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've had true friendships with women without a sexual thought under the following conditions:
1. She's a gf or DW of one of my friends
2. I'm in a relationship with someone more attractive
3. She's not attractive at all

Otherwise, I was pretending to be a decent person.

Man here, this is 100% accurate.

And to add, I have absolutely had true female friendships and still do, with attractive women but I want to have sex with them and probably would if they were down

PP... agreed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not all men are Neanderthals, many are capable of having friendships with women without wanting sex.

I’m assuming you are a woman?

[Anonymous]

Women will drop friends as soon as they date or get married. When that goes bad they come running back. They are not really good friends more of about using you when they need something.

Oh and they do not play nice with others. They always seem to talking bad about someone or trying to exclude someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women are crappy friends. They expect all the benefits of being a GF without having to provide any sex. In fact she won't even provide any of the benefits that a guy friend would. Just ask her to do anything mildly inconvenient to her, and you'll get an instant nope. She will expect you to help her move, but good luck getting her to help you move lmao. Every man who has been friend-zoned knows this. Female friends are not worth your time.

It sounds like you have had bad friends. You deserve better.

As for the general question, of course they can. I have some very good guy friends, and I really value their perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women are crappy friends. They expect all the benefits of being a GF without having to provide any sex. In fact she won't even provide any of the benefits that a guy friend would. Just ask her to do anything mildly inconvenient to her, and you'll get an instant nope. She will expect you to help her move, but good luck getting her to help you move lmao. Every man who has been friend-zoned knows this. Female friends are not worth your time.

:thumbs up emoji:

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not all men are Neanderthals, many are capable of having friendships with women without wanting sex.

I think "friend" is a very vague noun. No man actively seeks out and puts energy into a 1:1 relationship with a woman for the sake of being "friends"

This is so gross because it implies there is nothing worth knowing a woman for other than what is between her legs.

sorry you think it gross, but if the shoe fits...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not all men are Neanderthals, many are capable of having friendships with women without wanting sex.

I think "friend" is a very vague noun. No man actively seeks out and puts energy into a 1:1 relationship with a woman for the sake of being "friends"

This is so gross because it implies there is nothing worth knowing a woman for other than what is between her legs.

sorry you think it gross, but if the shoe fits...

Both sexes do the same thing. Women are not seeking out male to be friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women are crappy friends. They expect all the benefits of being a GF without having to provide any sex. In fact she won't even provide any of the benefits that a guy friend would. Just ask her to do anything mildly inconvenient to her, and you'll get an instant nope. She will expect you to help her move, but good luck getting her to help you move lmao. Every man who has been friend-zoned knows this. Female friends are not worth your time.

Woman here, and you know what? I can totally respect this because there is truth to it, lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not all men are Neanderthals, many are capable of having friendships with women without wanting sex.

I think "friend" is a very vague noun. No man actively seeks out and puts energy into a 1:1 relationship with a woman for the sake of being "friends"

This is so gross because it implies there is nothing worth knowing a woman for other than what is between her legs.

sorry you think it gross, but if the shoe fits...

Both sexes do the same thing. Women are not seeking out male to be friends.

I do. If they’re interested in the same things I am.

[Anonymous]

absolutely
two of my oldest friends are men & we've never had any romance. we've been there through the births, deaths, highs, lows of the whole rollercoaster

one i am so close to, i talked to his mom regularly when i was pregnant bc my mothinlaw is utterly insufferable.

in fact i spoke to one last week & the other wrote me a lovely message