If your kid hit you would you ever hit him back?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my DH thinks I am a terrible mom when I do that (I am French, there may be a cultural difference here). I never hit my kids as a punishment or out of irritation but if they hit me (which is exceedingly rare, can probably count the occasions on one hand and they are 6 and 8) I tend to hit back. I remember even when my daughter was probably 18 months she hit me because she was upset and I hit back. She was stunned and furious and I was not sorry … (I didn’t hurt her fwiw it was just a swat, she hit me harder)

You literally hit a baby? WTF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my DH thinks I am a terrible mom when I do that (I am French, there may be a cultural difference here). I never hit my kids as a punishment or out of irritation but if they hit me (which is exceedingly rare, can probably count the occasions on one hand and they are 6 and 8) I tend to hit back. I remember even when my daughter was probably 18 months she hit me because she was upset and I hit back. She was stunned and furious and I was not sorry … (I didn’t hurt her fwiw it was just a swat, she hit me harder)

You literally hit a baby? WTF.

AND you weren’t sorry because the baby hit you harder?? Double WTF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Why would your kid believe hitting is wrong if they see you do it???

I don’t think hitting is always wrong. We never spanked or hotbed our kids but I definitely want them to know self-defense and that they can hit back if someone hit them.

A parent is a trusted and safe person and should never hit their child. Of course you can hit a random attacker.

[Anonymous]

I don't have a problem with what she said. While I never hit my kids, I'm a master of the arm grab. I'm not about going for the face, but if you use your hand to strike I will immobilize that hand with a quickness and get in your face about how inappropriate and unacceptable that is. Squirm all you want, but I've got that hand and won't let go until you chill out and learn to NEVER, ever do it again. Hitting back seems like you're meeting them on their level, but immobilizing them and making them chill out I find ok. Call me an abuser, I don't care. By 10 especially they need to learn this lesson.