My sister pretends she is retired

[Anonymous]

Was her previous job something with a mandatory retirement age?

[Anonymous]

It was weird watching her lie about being bored becaude she retired and she lied about how she fills her day. Either discuss work or do don't. Its weird to pretend she is bored at home....why tell HALF a story?

"Sister, it was so strange that you told people you aren't working when you are. You're lying about what's going on for your retirement. I don't want to intrude on your privacy, but I'm curious about why you don't want to be honest with people about how you are spending your time."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My sister retired from a job. She worked there for 35 years, same job. It's the only job she ever had. She retired and got another FT job right away. She has told everyone she retired but has not told anyone that she got another job. I watched her tell a group of people how retirement is good, but boring.

Why lie about this? I asked her when she is going to tell people and she said soon. She makes up lies when she is working and unable to attend family functions.

I just think it's weird. Why lie?

Because she has some reason she feels it is important to keep it private. I'm wondering why you as her sister approach this as "it's weird" rather than discussing it with her with compassion and curiosity.

This. OP, please consider this perspective.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister retired from a job. She worked there for 35 years, same job. It's the only job she ever had. She retired and got another FT job right away. She has told everyone she retired but has not told anyone that she got another job. I watched her tell a group of people how retirement is good, but boring.

Why lie about this? I asked her when she is going to tell people and she said soon. She makes up lies when she is working and unable to attend family functions.

I just think it's weird. Why lie?

I think what is more weird is that not only do you care, you went out of your way to post about it.

It was weird watching her lie about being bored becaude she retired and she lied about how she fills her day. Either discuss work or do don't. Its weird to pretend she is bored at home....why tell HALF a story?

What is her new job? Is it the "bagging groceries" type, or big-bucks consulting type?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My sister retired from a job. She worked there for 35 years, same job. It's the only job she ever had. She retired and got another FT job right away. She has told everyone she retired but has not told anyone that she got another job. I watched her tell a group of people how retirement is good, but boring.

Why lie about this? I asked her when she is going to tell people and she said soon. She makes up lies when she is working and unable to attend family functions.

I just think it's weird. Why lie?

I think what is more weird is that not only do you care, you went out of your way to post about it.

It was weird watching her lie about being bored becaude she retired and she lied about how she fills her day. Either discuss work or do don't. Its weird to pretend she is bored at home....why tell HALF a story?

It could be because it's too complex to explain. It sounds like this happens when people know she retired from her long term job and then they'll have 20 questions about why she's working again and it gets annoying having to explain why 50 times. I'm sure there are also people like op who will try to imply something bad. Lots of people in my dh's industry do exactly this. They retire then consult. They make good money and generally don't have to be involved in the work that is on fire and requires a ton of overtime every week.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My H retired and works and says he is retired. If people probe he says yea I have a retirement job to keep me out of trouble. But he is retired.

He has a job? Then honey, he is not retired. I would also think he is a liar if it came out only after probing.

He is retired and gets $8000/mth after tax pension plus subsidized healthcare.

He will always Piddle around with some little job.

Enlisted/20 years get around $1K a month. $8K would be fantastic. Only high level officers get that much. You clearly don't get the difference from enlisted and officers and 20 vs. 30 years. You get a pension off your salary which doesn't include the housing and other allowances so its very low.

He doesn't have a little job. He has a real job that he does very well with. It wasn't worth staying in the military longer.

Oh it's you again. I always recognize your posts because you have such a chip on your shoulder about the whole officer/enlisted thing. It must make your husband feel terrible.

[Anonymous]

I think your sister was "forced" to retire...she screwed up or was just getting too slow, and she was given the option to retire so she could save face. Unfortunately she wasn't ready financially to retire, so she still needs income. She's embarrassed, and if she tells people she has another full time job after "retiring" they will ask why she didn't just stick with her old job and she'll have to explain whatever it was that happened (the screw up.)

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Anonymous wrote:I have to tell you this. Brace yourself...
Your sister is having an affair with her supervisor. She also has a drug problem which she is hiding.

Please feel free to reach out to me if you have any other question about your family and/or your life.

- anonymous

Laughed out loud

Really? I didn’t get it. Weird response.

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Anonymous wrote:I think your sister was "forced" to retire...she screwed up or was just getting too slow, and she was given the option to retire so she could save face. Unfortunately she wasn't ready financially to retire, so she still needs income. She's embarrassed, and if she tells people she has another full time job after "retiring" they will ask why she didn't just stick with her old job and she'll have to explain whatever it was that happened (the screw up.)

+1. I bet this is it. Or the drugs. 😂

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Anonymous wrote:I think your sister was "forced" to retire...she screwed up or was just getting too slow, and she was given the option to retire so she could save face. Unfortunately she wasn't ready financially to retire, so she still needs income. She's embarrassed, and if she tells people she has another full time job after "retiring" they will ask why she didn't just stick with her old job and she'll have to explain whatever it was that happened (the screw up.)

This..it doesn't ev n have to be a "screw up."

One of my older friends worked for a small company for 20 years; she loved her job and needed to keep working until 70, but once people turned 60 and their health insurance costs started to go up, the manager would start harassing the older employee to get them to retire faster. She lasted longer than most, to Medicare age but had to find another job after "retirement." But she didn't care who she bad mouthed her old company to, they did deserve it.

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Anonymous wrote:I think your sister was "forced" to retire...she screwed up or was just getting too slow, and she was given the option to retire so she could save face. Unfortunately she wasn't ready financially to retire, so she still needs income. She's embarrassed, and if she tells people she has another full time job after "retiring" they will ask why she didn't just stick with her old job and she'll have to explain whatever it was that happened (the screw up.)

This..it doesn't ev n have to be a "screw up."

One of my older friends worked for a small company for 20 years; she loved her job and needed to keep working until 70, but once people turned 60 and their health insurance costs started to go up, the manager would start harassing the older employee to get them to retire faster. She lasted longer than most, to Medicare age but had to find another job after "retirement." But she didn't care who she bad mouthed her old company to, they did deserve it.

Older employees are often forced out constructively for cost savings. They are usually earning on the top end of their brackets, they have earned the top end of vacation time and are tapped out on tenure based rewards (to the expense of the employer). Also, because they’re not usually interested in further advancement or changes in position, they block the mobility of other younger employees.

But, that’s something for the Jobs Forum.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My sister retired from a job. She worked there for 35 years, same job. It's the only job she ever had. She retired and got another FT job right away. She has told everyone she retired but has not told anyone that she got another job. I watched her tell a group of people how retirement is good, but boring.

Why lie about this? I asked her when she is going to tell people and she said soon. She makes up lies when she is working and unable to attend family functions.

I just think it's weird. Why lie?

I think what is more weird is that not only do you care, you went out of your way to post about it.

It was weird watching her lie about being bored becaude she retired and she lied about how she fills her day. Either discuss work or do don't. Its weird to pretend she is bored at home....why tell HALF a story?

What is her new job? Is it the "bagging groceries" type, or big-bucks consulting type?

Lower end.she makes around $20 hourly

[Anonymous]

Is she former military or foreign service, etc.? Because it always confuses me, too, but I have heard many say they are "retired" when they have a new job. But they mean they are retired from their main career/job and are just using the lexacon of their former industries.

[Anonymous]

Some people stop doing the high-pressure careers in their 60s but can't yet fully retire because they don't qualify for Medicare. So they'll take a smaller/lesser job to get healthcare for the intervening years.

God bless America and bring on the universal healthcare.