Kid’s girlfriend/boyfriend Holiday Invite

[Anonymous]

They can come for dinner, but if they aren’t married, they aren’t staying over. Same for trips.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m confused. Is 18 Yo Couples Pajama mom have the 18 yo daughter that dropped out of high school, is suicidal, and now has a boyfriend?

Sounds like the Marry Her Off strategy mom is front running.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They can come for dinner, but if they aren’t married, they aren’t staying over. Same for trips.

Good luck with them traveling to you.

[Anonymous]

I would let my kids invite whoever they wanted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They can come for dinner, but if they aren’t married, they aren’t staying over. Same for trips.

We let them stay over, but they sleep in the guest room. We can revisit this when all of my kids are adults.

[Anonymous]

My family always invited my boyfriends once I was in college, and I got invited to many of their homes. I appreciated being welcomed in. Even when those relationships ended, I remember the kindness of their families to include me. And I appreciated my own families kindness and willingness to get to know the people in my life.

Looking back, it also prepared me for marriage, like another level of dating and knowing what I was hoping for in a man's family - seeing how he treats them, learning different dynamics etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
They can come for dinner, but if they aren’t married, they aren’t staying over. Same for trips.


We let them stay over, but they sleep in the guest room. We can revisit this when all of my kids are adults.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DD is 18 and dating a boy the same age. I just asked her questions about him today because I'm going to buy them matching holiday pajama pants. Yes, he's invited.

Am I slightly uncomfortable that my wittle baby girl is in a semi-adult relationship? Yes. But do I want to drive her away by saying someone she feels strongly about is not welcome? No. I want to get to know him. So come on over. Tell me everything!

They are 18 and adults.

No, they are just 18. She's not an adult. She's just an 18 yr old.

Whatever. We and the law disagree with infantilizing your adult child. -NP

Whatever indeed. She dropped out of high school due to debilitatingly severe anxiety and a raging eating disorder and hasn't done anything but various therapies for well over a year. I assure you, she is NOT qualified to vote or defend our country or buy a gun. I will continue to meet her where she is and very gently support her efforts to move her life forward. But yay for you, for assuming you know my "adult" kid better than I do.

NP. Adults have eating disorders and anxiety too. Just sayin’
That’s nice you are supportive and got matching PJ’s - good call!