Poll: Right this moment, would you leave your fully-accessible phone for your SO for an entire day?

[Anonymous]

Seems like there are a lot of faithful relationships on here. Good!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, or no?

What's something you'd worry about them seeing?

Yes. The only thing I would ‘worry’ about is my notes where I put birthday and Christmas ideas.

[Anonymous]

Yes. We know each other's passwords...they're the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, or no?

What's something you'd worry about them seeing?

I would have no problems with it. He has my password and I've left my phone with him lots of times. He can also log into my account on the computer and see texts as they come in. I can do the same on his account.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. I have nothing to hide, but it’s still a private space. Like a journal. I keep a lot of notes and chat with good friends archived. It’s not anything I wouldn’t talk with him about, but it’s personal. I don’t think he’d feel comfortable either. We use one another’s phones in a pinch, but they’re quickly returned. I don’t wear his shoes either.

This. Having some mystery and privacy is very important to maintaining a healthy relationship.

If you’re going through each other’s phones that is a symptom of a much bigger problem. Either you don’t trust your partner, or you are too insecure to be happy in the relationship, or both.

Well OP asked if you would be okay with them having access. Didn't ask if you thought they'd use that access.

One reason I have zero problem with my DH having access to my phone is that I trust him not to go snooping. He would never go looking through my chats or emails with friends or something. So it would be no big deal for him to have access to it. And if for some reason he did have to go searching through it (I don't know, say I went missing and he was looking for clues), I wouldn't worry about what he'd find. Even if normally it would be something I'd keep private because I do have a life separate and private from him. I'm not trashing him in those chats or emails, for instance, or conducting an affair.

I agree some mystery and privacy is good for a relationship, but you don't establish that by hiding your phone from your husband. You establish it by having a trust and respect for one another's boundaries.

+1. I'd be mad if I knew he were snooping, even though I know there's nothing to find. The snooping is what would set me off.

[Anonymous]

My only objection would be that I would then be without it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, the worst thing on my phone is dcum in the browsing history.

Oh, I missed this comment. Yes, same exactly!

Same!

[Anonymous]

Sure if she would let me see hers. DW knows my password and has been in my phone. She would find something to question Im sure. I have no clue what her password is and she's pretty protective of it which makes me curious

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, the worst thing on my phone is dcum in the browsing history.

Oh, I missed this comment. Yes, same exactly!

Same!

Same although my DH absolutely knows how much time I spend on here already. No need to confirm it with actual number or anything though. I don't even want to know.

[Anonymous]

I mean, it's happened before. He works at home and I don't. I do occasionally forget to bring my with me to work. First of all, he would not be interested enough to look through it, and there is nothing exciting for him to find anyway.

[Anonymous]

No. I’ve never deleted my late husband’s text thread or photos. He doesn’t need access to that.

[Anonymous]

Sure. He can see everything on my phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, the worst thing on my phone is dcum in the browsing history.

Oh, I missed this comment. Yes, same exactly!

Same!

Same although my DH absolutely knows how much time I spend on here already. No need to confirm it with actual number or anything though. I don't even want to know.

Same here. Yes I would leave it behind. Same comment about DCUM!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, or no?

What's something you'd worry about them seeing?

I would have no problems with it. He has my password and I've left my phone with him lots of times. He can also log into my account on the computer and see texts as they come in. I can do the same on his account.

+1
Nothing to hide here.

[Anonymous]

Yes - echoing many above - my husband knows my phone password - I would be embarrassed about my time on dcum, my following of celebrities on twitter/IG, and texts to my sister that complain about my in laws or my husband not mowing the lawn, etc.