How Does a 45 YO Married Male Know He is Attractive

[Anonymous]

After certain age and wisdom plus experience that come with it, no men look attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. This week, at a work event I had my boss’s boss tell me that I looked good and a 20 something comment on my looks as well, both within an hour of each other. I’m hapily married and not interested but it was nice getting complements.

Aww!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have kids (or a dog), women chatting you up when you’re at the park with them is a pretty reliable sign. Or chatting at the gym (assuming you are not wearing a mask- I find it’s very hard to tell someone’s facial features while they have one on).

I take my kids to the park a lot so I end up chatting with plenty of women but I’m 99.9% of them are just being friendly. You can pretty quickly tell if someone is actually trying to flirt with you ( longer than usual eye contact, lots of smiles, “random” physical contact and curiosity about your relationship status.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care? Seriously. I understand this is a concern when you’re on the dating market, but you’re married. Does your wife find you attractive? As long as that’s a yes, what does it matter if you’re generally seen as attractive?

I have spent exactly zero time thinking about whether I’m conventionally attractive since I got married. Who cares?

Me and my wife have sex about 2 times a year. It hurts and yes it makes me feel unattractive. I think any spouse in that situation craves some kind of validation so a random person flirting with me gives a huge burst of self confidence, like well someone thinks I’m attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. This week, at a work event I had my boss’s boss tell me that I looked good and a 20 something comment on my looks as well, both within an hour of each other. I’m hapily married and not interested but it was nice getting complements.

Aww!

Yeah, that made my day for sure. Both were attractive women. Its nice to know that you’ve still got it, especially when for a good chunk of your youth you didn’t know you had it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care? Seriously. I understand this is a concern when you’re on the dating market, but you’re married. Does your wife find you attractive? As long as that’s a yes, what does it matter if you’re generally seen as attractive?

I have spent exactly zero time thinking about whether I’m conventionally attractive since I got married. Who cares?

Me and my wife have sex about 2 times a year. It hurts and yes it makes me feel unattractive. I think any spouse in that situation craves some kind of validation so a random person flirting with me gives a huge burst of self confidence, like well someone thinks I’m attractive.

You are me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care? Seriously. I understand this is a concern when you’re on the dating market, but you’re married. Does your wife find you attractive? As long as that’s a yes, what does it matter if you’re generally seen as attractive?

I have spent exactly zero time thinking about whether I’m conventionally attractive since I got married. Who cares?

Me and my wife have sex about 2 times a year. It hurts and yes it makes me feel unattractive. I think any spouse in that situation craves some kind of validation so a random person flirting with me gives a huge burst of self confidence, like well someone thinks I’m attractive.

You are me.

Yes, also me. It's the danger of neglecting your spouse, someone comes along and is even nice to you and you feel like a new person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care? Seriously. I understand this is a concern when you’re on the dating market, but you’re married. Does your wife find you attractive? As long as that’s a yes, what does it matter if you’re generally seen as attractive?

I have spent exactly zero time thinking about whether I’m conventionally attractive since I got married. Who cares?

Me and my wife have sex about 2 times a year. It hurts and yes it makes me feel unattractive. I think any spouse in that situation craves some kind of validation so a random person flirting with me gives a huge burst of self confidence, like well someone thinks I’m attractive.

Ditto, from a neglected wife