Mom Told DD about 9/11

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You knowingly sent your child to a house where you KNOW “they have the news on, like 24/7,” PER YOUR OWN WORDS.

So let’s review, moron. That’s like sending a kid to Disneyland and then being upset that they were “exposed” to Mickey Mouse.

Dp. Was it really necessary ti call op a moron? Does it make you feel superior? Because to everyone reading your comment think you are the moron. You could try to be better person pp but doubt you are going yo change.

It is reasonable to assume that mom wouldnt be so blunt about 911.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You knowingly sent your child to a house where you KNOW “they have the news on, like 24/7,” PER YOUR OWN WORDS.

So let’s review, moron. That’s like sending a kid to Disneyland and then being upset that they were “exposed” to Mickey Mouse.

Dp. Was it really necessary ti call op a moron? Does it make you feel superior? Because to everyone reading your comment think you are the moron. You could try to be better person pp but doubt you are going yo change.

It is reasonable to assume that mom wouldnt be so blunt about 911.

If you're going to call me a moron, use proper spelling and punctuation. And no, it's not just "typing on my phone," because you don't know how to use commas.

[Anonymous]

I *was* a kid, a little older than that, during 9/11, and I'm glad my parents talked to me about it. My dad is military so I was terrified he'd be shipped off. They kept it simple and age-appropriate ("a bad guy tried to hurt America by taking over an airplane and many people died" etc.), there was no talk of gory details, but I felt respected because they leveled with me about what was happening.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You knowingly sent your child to a house where you KNOW “they have the news on, like 24/7,” PER YOUR OWN WORDS.

So let’s review, moron. That’s like sending a kid to Disneyland and then being upset that they were “exposed” to Mickey Mouse.

Dp. Was it really necessary ti call op a moron? Does it make you feel superior? Because to everyone reading your comment think you are the moron. You could try to be better person pp but doubt you are going yo change.

It is reasonable to assume that mom wouldnt be so blunt about 911.

So what would be the "less blunt" version? She didn't go into more than 30k ft. view details. What's the script you think would have been so much better?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You knowingly sent your child to a house where you KNOW “they have the news on, like 24/7,” PER YOUR OWN WORDS.

So let’s review, moron. That’s like sending a kid to Disneyland and then being upset that they were “exposed” to Mickey Mouse.

Dp. Was it really necessary ti call op a moron? Does it make you feel superior? Because to everyone reading your comment think you are the moron. You could try to be better person pp but doubt you are going yo change.

It is reasonable to assume that mom wouldnt be so blunt about 911.

If you're going to call me a moron, use proper spelling and punctuation. And no, it's not just "typing on my phone," because you don't know how to use commas.

NP. You’re not a moron but I sure did think poorly of you when I read your post to OP. If you’d communicate your opinion without being a jerk, people would focus more on your opinion than what a jerk you are.

[Anonymous]

There’s a difference between telling your kid about it and letting them watch that traumatizing news coverage. I’d answer her questions truthfully and without much detail. And moving forward ask your mom to limit news coverage. I also tried to shield my kids from the gory stuff too. 9/11 is the stuff of nightmares. Focus on how we have worked very hard to keep people safe. Watch the helpers, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She's 6. It's time to introduce the topic.

And remember, it traumatized you far more because you were alive. Your child will have as much connection to it as you do to WW2.

OP here, very true and good point.

For those saying she will learn about it in school ... of course ... but not in kindergarten, right? Or even 1st grade? I was thinking that was more a 3rd grade thing. She and I did have a good conversation about it after she asked me to change the channel, so I'm not upset that she knows, I just thought maybe we had another year or so. Also, she's just a bit of an anxious kid and the pandemic has been plenty for her without talking about global terrorism.

Definitely taught in K. My 2 youngest (born in 2006) were in private (girl) and public (boy) K and learned about it there.

I used to teach K. I've had kid build two towers of blocks int eh block corner and throw pencils at them till they fall down.

Your kid needs to hear about it from you before they start school. Same with slavery and sex. These are not things you set up your kid to learn from strangers where you have no control.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You knowingly sent your child to a house where you KNOW “they have the news on, like 24/7,” PER YOUR OWN WORDS.

So let’s review, moron. That’s like sending a kid to Disneyland and then being upset that they were “exposed” to Mickey Mouse.

OP here. WOW. Just FYI, I've asked them to not have the news on when my daughter is there. Apparently they didn't listen.

Their house, their lives, their rules, their preferences. You are brining your child to their preferred environment, and not the other way around. Want to control what your kid is exposed to? Watch your kid.

We had three same problem at MIL’s house when the kids were little. She always said she wouldn’t have it on but did. Her description of 9-11 was appropriate. The issues we had with our kids were when they heard about the scary local stuff. Break ins, murders, death, abductions, rape… that was worse for our kid than hearing about something that happened before they were born. There were a few nightmares and then ongoing follow up discussions with the relatives.

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Anonymous wrote:She's 6. It's time to introduce the topic.

And remember, it traumatized you far more because you were alive. Your child will have as much connection to it as you do to WW2.

OP here, very true and good point.

For those saying she will learn about it in school ... of course ... but not in kindergarten, right? Or even 1st grade? I was thinking that was more a 3rd grade thing. She and I did have a good conversation about it after she asked me to change the channel, so I'm not upset that she knows, I just thought maybe we had another year or so. Also, she's just a bit of an anxious kid and the pandemic has been plenty for her without talking about global terrorism.

Come on OP. Your daughter has active shooter drills at school. That’s a lot more scary than hearing about something bad that happened in ancient history—and for a 6 year old 9/11 IS ancient history. It was a long time ago. Your kid is not as fragile as you think.

Ahem, those are tornado drills. You just need to get in the coat closet and be very quiet so the tornado can’t find you.

Exactly. My DD thinks they are tornado drills. She has no concept that they are for an active shooter. Schools do shelter younger kids from that (as they should).

Umm, what school is telling them they are tornado drills. Our FCPS has never done that, ever. And I had a kid in kinder when they started, and another one after that.

also, OP, your child might not learn it in school from a teacher, but you will see that she and her friends will discuss all sorts of things (wait until FLE LOL) You can opt out of FLE, but you can't opt out of lunch table convos about it, which I don't think people understand. I'd rather my kids learn that stuff from me, and 2ndly their teacher, not from Johnny or Larla

Our private refers to them as tornado drills, and they’ve had them since preschool. I’m fine with the teachers not telling my 4 year old that they’re practicing to not be shot to death.

Trust that any of the kids with older siblings have already told the other kids the truth, and probably in worse ways.

Or so you hope, eh?

Okay, you are nuts and have no experience with kids, so your opinion is irrelevant.

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Anonymous wrote:These replies are insane. Kids do not need to know this stuff. I would let it go with your mom- not a big deal in the grand scheme. But do not go out of your way to teach your kids about the horrors of the world or age inappropriate things! Do you guys show them porn and smoke around them bc they are going to get exposed to it anyway when they are older?

You are the insane one.

+1. Unless you hide your kids under a rock, they could very well see a cover of TIME or a newspaper in the pediatric dentist's office with a 9/11 cover. Or an image of the Holocaust. Etc.

Kids do, indeed, need to know about this stuff. In part so that it doesn't happen again. I'm glad that my parents taught me, in age-appropriate ways, about D-Day, WWII, the Holocaust, etc.

Even if you try to sing-song your way through childhood, the Challenger can still blow up while you're watching the happy event of a teacher going to space in school. Ask me how I know.

And you know what? When the Challenger blew up as we watched, our teachers and our parents talked to us about it. It was tragic, and horrible, but we talked through the fact that...sometimes life is tragic and horrible. And we also talked about bravery and heroism.

+1. Mr. Rogers understood this, and it was part of what made his show so healthy and helpful for children.

[Anonymous]

Stop babying your kid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You knowingly sent your child to a house where you KNOW “they have the news on, like 24/7,” PER YOUR OWN WORDS.

So let’s review, moron. That’s like sending a kid to Disneyland and then being upset that they were “exposed” to Mickey Mouse.

Dp. Was it really necessary ti call op a moron? Does it make you feel superior? Because to everyone reading your comment think you are the moron. You could try to be better person pp but doubt you are going yo change.

It is reasonable to assume that mom wouldnt be so blunt about 911.

If you're going to call me a moron, use proper spelling and punctuation. And no, it's not just "typing on my phone," because you don't know how to use commas.

NP. You’re not a moron but I sure did think poorly of you when I read your post to OP. If you’d communicate your opinion without being a jerk, people would focus more on your opinion than what a jerk you are.

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[Anonymous]

In this case I think your mom’s explanation of 9/11 was fine and age-appropriate. But going forward I would ask your parents to turn off the news because I don’t think it’s healthy for kids (or adults) to watch news channels all day. It’s a waste of time and leads to anxiety.