My husband does this one small thing that is so rude

[Anonymous]

It just drives me crazy and I've told him a million times.

If the sink is empty, put your dish in the dishwasher. You know, that thing that is RIGHT next to the sink. It's fine if we've all eaten and there is a sink full of dishes. Ok, go ahead and add one more, no problem. But if I emptied the sink after dinner, don't put your late night snack dishes into my clean sink! It is like walking with muddy shoes on the floor someone just mopped when you can easily go around. I HATE emptying the sink and coming down the next morning to find dishes in it.

I know, I know, it's a small thing. However, it means I start off the morning irritated with him. The house is in a constant state of chaos due to the four people who live in it. Please, can you just give me the morning with a clean sink, for the love of God.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It just drives me crazy and I've told him a million times.

If the sink is empty, put your dish in the dishwasher. You know, that thing that is RIGHT next to the sink. It's fine if we've all eaten and there is a sink full of dishes. Ok, go ahead and add one more, no problem. But if I emptied the sink after dinner, don't put your late night snack dishes into my clean sink! It is like walking with muddy shoes on the floor someone just mopped when you can easily go around. I HATE emptying the sink and coming down the next morning to find dishes in it.

I know, I know, it's a small thing. However, it means I start off the morning irritated with him. The house is in a constant state of chaos due to the four people who live in it. Please, can you just give me the morning with a clean sink, for the love of God.

Yep, he should do that. BUT. Can you just let it go and do it for him? Because. It is just one dish. The dishwasher (also named DW) is right there.

[Anonymous]

My DH does this with DS's breakfast dishes. I make DS's breakfast and then go upstairs to get ready and DH takes DS to daycare after breakfast. Every morning I come downstairs to find DS's dishes next to the sink. DH puts his own dishes in the dishwasher if it's empty but just leaves DS's there next to the sink unrinsed. It's annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It just drives me crazy and I've told him a million times.

If the sink is empty, put your dish in the dishwasher. You know, that thing that is RIGHT next to the sink. It's fine if we've all eaten and there is a sink full of dishes. Ok, go ahead and add one more, no problem. But if I emptied the sink after dinner, don't put your late night snack dishes into my clean sink! It is like walking with muddy shoes on the floor someone just mopped when you can easily go around. I HATE emptying the sink and coming down the next morning to find dishes in it.

I know, I know, it's a small thing. However, it means I start off the morning irritated with him. The house is in a constant state of chaos due to the four people who live in it. Please, can you just give me the morning with a clean sink, for the love of God.

Yep, he should do that. BUT. Can you just let it go and do it for him? Because. It is just one dish. The dishwasher (also named DW) is right there.

This is OP, and that's kind of funny. However, I do plenty of things for him. I'm sure he does this because he never empties the sink (or the dishwasher, for that matter) so he has no idea how maddening it is. So I've already cleaned up after dinner - for all of us, including him. Just don't mess up my work!

[Anonymous]

I cold be written your post. We have the exact same issue!

[Anonymous]

This. Is one of the first in a long list of issues that is leading to our divorce. I have asked him to put the damn dishes in the dish washer, but his new game is to rinse all the dishes and leave them next to the sink, this while I have communicated to pu them in the dishwasher and it is empty.

At least DH doesn't leave moldy food all over the house for our DD to get into. I am not his mother, but I will protect my daughter.

[Anonymous]

My DH takes the dishes and literally tosses them into the dishwasher without a thought about how it should be placed inside to maximize the number of dishes washed. Last night he put a cookie sheet on the top rack. Just laid it there horizontally. WTF?

But...he's really charming. And I kind of find it all adorable.

[Anonymous]

Are you all done whining about nothing now?

[Anonymous]

My ex-AP's wife shared this with him. Or vice versa. I don't know.

This issue can lead to divorce.

https://mustbethistalltoride.com/2016/01/14/she-divorced-me-because-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink/

[Anonymous]

Oh my gosh my husband did this last night. Drives me over the edge. I just don't get it. If I yell, he will use the dishwasher for about 3 days.

[Anonymous]

If that is the only thing, you are lucky

[Anonymous]

Oh I totally enable my DH around these little things. A couple of socks on the floor. A dish in the sink. Pajamas slung over a chair instead of the hamper.

I don't mind really because when I really need help or want him to take on a big project, I think the good will makes him cooperative. That and he's always super sweet to me, which I like.

[Anonymous]

DH does it too. But he also does the dinner dishes and empties the dishwasher. So frankly I suck it up and figure I do annoying shit too... and figure it's the cost of admission.

If this is my only compromise after 10 years, I figure we are doing pretty well and score keeping won't do us any favors. Or our kids.

[Anonymous]

Yeah.

There far worse things my husband does, so if he wants his dirty dishes in the sink at all hours, that's fine.

I just wish he would clean up his act in all the other, more heinous, categories!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If that is the only thing, you are lucky

Of course it's not the only thing. But its such a small thing to fix. I used to take the garbage cans to the curb and then leave them there all day until he came home. Who cares? He does. He told me that he doesn't like them sitting out there. So I now bring them in after the trash is picked up. It takes a couple of seconds. Why can't he do that?