Anyone cut family out of your life just because they're 'low'?

[Anonymous]

I have a large family. 1/3 of my siblings are what Beltway UMC would describe as flyover losers. It grinds my gears these days as I watch our kids grow up and I'm realizing theirs are clearly going to be losers too. It's depressing to see them grow older and their fate becomes more defined. It was frustrating to see siblings underachieve, but to see their kids achieve nothing either because of their ignorant and lazy parenting decisions is way worse. The worst part is that they just shrug it off! It doesn't even bother them that their kids are unmotivated morons that will achieve nothing.

[Anonymous]

I really hope you are a troll.

If not, get help. And, move out of the DMV area. You have officially become an elitist snob.

[Anonymous]

You should distance yourself from them, for THEIR sake. You're insufferable.

[Anonymous]

Just opened facebook and I can't believe the gap between my kids and theirs. Not gloating. It saddens me. I didn't think parenting ambitious normal college-ready kids was terribly difficult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should distance yourself from them, for THEIR sake. You're insufferable.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a large family. 1/3 of my siblings are what Beltway UMC would describe as flyover losers. It grinds my gears these days as I watch our kids grow up and I'm realizing theirs are clearly going to be losers too. It's depressing to see them grow older and their fate becomes more defined. It was frustrating to see siblings underachieve, but to see their kids achieve nothing either because of their ignorant and lazy parenting decisions is way worse. The worst part is that they just shrug it off! It doesn't even bother them that their kids are unmotivated morons that will achieve nothing.

I can hear the pain in your voice, OP. Did you forget to add the part where you're going to cut out said nieces and nephews for being undereducated morons?

[Anonymous]

I've seen too many of my rich but crass, hoity-toity, nose-in-the-air family members cut off other family members because they were too poor, too dumb, too this, too that. Through no fault of their own.

I would never do this in a million years.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes you need friends in low places. Just like Garth.

[Anonymous]

Are you the same person who keeps making threads about your sister and BIL not preparing their kids for college?

Mind your own yard

[Anonymous]

Just Wow! One of them may surprise you and really to cut people off for that? Perhaps you can loosen up and let your hair down around them? Have fun?

[Anonymous]

I have parts of my extended family like this. While I don't "cut" them out, I also don't go out of my way to do things with them. We just don't have much in common except grandparents. When you cut out conversations about politics and religion - because those topics are certainly off-limits now - there isn't much to discuss. Everyone is polite but we just don't click. It was different when we were kids so I do have some very fond memories of them.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry that some people have no idea what you're talking about but I can totally relate. My husbands family are rednecks to the max. Hubby is first college grad from his side of the family (certainly can be successful without that, I know!) but his family just drives me up the freaking wall. We haven't cut them off yet but TBH I wish he just would.
No, it's not the college/no college thing.
His sister is 2 months younger than me, loving the fact that she "only has to work two days a week but the government gives me enough money that it's like I work five days a week! And I get almost free childcare!"
The constant "I hate black people and f*gs" coming from his dad in front of his kids and grandkids.
His 16 year old sister (half sister...many years apart) screaming the n bomb if she doesn't get her way.
I look at the way SIL's kid vs ours is going to grow up and let's just say it's different. I literally hate spending any time with them.
So yes, I can sympathize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes you need friends in low places. Just like Garth.

To be dragged into their drama, financial troubles, depressing lives?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you the same person who keeps making threads about your sister and BIL not preparing their kids for college?

No.

[Anonymous]

Some of my family are ivy league educated (multiple people), rocket scientist, almost Nobel prize winner, etc. Others are welfare mother of eight, factory worker, failed plumber turned taxi driver, unemployed, disabled, drunk. Then others are in between -- hairdresser, accountant, legal secretary.

Family is family, stop being a douche.