Anyone cut family out of your life just because they're 'low'?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a large family. 1/3 of my siblings are what Beltway UMC would describe as flyover losers. It grinds my gears these days as I watch our kids grow up and I'm realizing theirs are clearly going to be losers too. It's depressing to see them grow older and their fate becomes more defined. It was frustrating to see siblings underachieve, but to see their kids achieve nothing either because of their ignorant and lazy parenting decisions is way worse. The worst part is that they just shrug it off! It doesn't even bother them that their kids are unmotivated morons that will achieve nothing.

Get off your high horse. Because I'm pretty sure it's actually a jackass.

[Anonymous]

I don't really have any communication with my sister and her family but it's sort of the reverse. Yes, she and her husband have what people may call "low" jobs (but so did my parents; we were poor). But, that is mostly b/c she was and is lazy and always has been. That's on her. Fine.

But, she has always criticized me for not helping her more, be it with her studies, making the cheerleading team, bringing her out with my friends, whatever . . . she never took accountability for her own life and choices. Then, when I graduated from grad school, she criticized me for "sounding like a lawyer" when I talk. FWIW, I did go to law school but I talk how I talk. This just pecks the surface of all the things she has said over the years along these lines. So, she made her choice. Done.

[Anonymous]

I love all the people in this thread who never in a million years would have anything to do with low-class prole flyover losers scoffing at the OP for saying she wouldn't either. Doesn't make any difference that they're "relatives".

I have several cousins who are total wastes of oxygen. Tattooed, uneducated, unemployed. I have no reason at all to interact with them, so I don't. The object lesson for my kids is, look what happened, Aunt X and Aunt Y both married useless morons and their kids are useless morons, don't let that happen to you.

[Anonymous]

Interesting. My dad's side of the family are typical DC elitest snobs with good breeding, good education, good income. My mom's side are "losers"- rednecks who grew up in a trailer, work blue collar jobs, and don't have enough credits between them for an associates degree.

Dad's side are miserable in their marriages and miserable to be with. They cut off my dad and his kids (including me) from the family because we refused to help them destroy my cousin's wife during their divorce (cousin was VERY abusive towards her during their marriage).

Mom's side isn't perfect but there's a lot of love. Everyone is very close to each other and even when there is conflict, no one loses sight of the fact that we are family. They are more welcoming to my dad (mom and dad divorced 20 years ago) than his own family is. They are the only ones who acknowledged when my DD was born.

Guess which side I respect more?

[Anonymous]

If you have an opportunity to be a good, kind and understanding person, you should take it. Don't mistake your good fortune for your superiority as a person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My trashy family is in denial about how low they are. Trash to them is trailer park and meth. That's the worst form of trash, but there's also plenty of middle class trash whose kids never leave town, community college dummies, dead-end jobs, tattoos, and out-of-wedlock births.

I guarantee you that my service industry, dead end job (that I love and involves helping others), tattooed home has 10x the amount of books, music and love than yours. We know what actually matters in life.

Hell yes. I'm with you. I like the anonymity of these boards but I'm from a small town, that I left for college and law school and came back to. My fiancé and I both have tattoos. He's a cop and I'm a public service lawyer. We haven't had an out of wedlock birth so maybe we're not the lowest of the low to some people. But I love our small, old home with creaky floors. We visit family all the time and we get muddy in the great outdoors. On sundays we go to church and watch football at our local corner bar. It's the best life and it's full of love, laughter, and happiness. Since we make enough to get by, that's all I need.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My trashy family is in denial about how low they are. Trash to them is trailer park and meth. That's the worst form of trash, but there's also plenty of middle class trash whose kids never leave town, community college dummies, dead-end jobs, tattoos, and out-of-wedlock births.

I guarantee you that my service industry, dead end job (that I love and involves helping others), tattooed home has 10x the amount of books, music and love than yours. We know what actually matters in life.

Hell yes. I'm with you. I like the anonymity of these boards but I'm from a small town, that I left for college and law school and came back to. My fiancé and I both have tattoos. He's a cop and I'm a public service lawyer. We haven't had an out of wedlock birth so maybe we're not the lowest of the low to some people. But I love our small, old home with creaky floors. We visit family all the time and we get muddy in the great outdoors. On sundays we go to church and watch football at our local corner bar. It's the best life and it's full of love, laughter, and happiness. Since we make enough to get by, that's all I need.

Wow, PP sounds like she has serious chips all over her shoulders. I would love to live with my family close by! Life didn't work out that way for reasons spanning generations of family and world history, so here I am, thousands of miles away from many people who matter to me. Where is my freaking medal? LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My trashy family is in denial about how low they are. Trash to them is trailer park and meth. That's the worst form of trash, but there's also plenty of middle class trash whose kids never leave town, community college dummies, dead-end jobs, tattoos, and out-of-wedlock births.

I guarantee you that my service industry, dead end job (that I love and involves helping others), tattooed home has 10x the amount of books, music and love than yours. We know what actually matters in life.

Hell yes. I'm with you. I like the anonymity of these boards but I'm from a small town, that I left for college and law school and came back to. My fiancé and I both have tattoos. He's a cop and I'm a public service lawyer. We haven't had an out of wedlock birth so maybe we're not the lowest of the low to some people. But I love our small, old home with creaky floors. We visit family all the time and we get muddy in the great outdoors. On sundays we go to church and watch football at our local corner bar. It's the best life and it's full of love, laughter, and happiness. Since we make enough to get by, that's all I need.

Wow, PP sounds like she has serious chips all over her shoulders. I would love to live with my family close by! Life didn't work out that way for reasons spanning generations of family and world history, so here I am, thousands of miles away from many people who matter to me. Where is my freaking medal? LOL

Good for you. Are you too dense to realize the post was about people who return to their small hometown, or never leave, are low lifes? You've completely missed the point here, genius.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My trashy family is in denial about how low they are. Trash to them is trailer park and meth. That's the worst form of trash, but there's also plenty of middle class trash whose kids never leave town, community college dummies, dead-end jobs, tattoos, and out-of-wedlock births.

I guarantee you that my service industry, dead end job (that I love and involves helping others), tattooed home has 10x the amount of books, music and love than yours. We know what actually matters in life.

Hell yes. I'm with you. I like the anonymity of these boards but I'm from a small town, that I left for college and law school and came back to. My fiancé and I both have tattoos. He's a cop and I'm a public service lawyer. We haven't had an out of wedlock birth so maybe we're not the lowest of the low to some people. But I love our small, old home with creaky floors. We visit family all the time and we get muddy in the great outdoors. On sundays we go to church and watch football at our local corner bar. It's the best life and it's full of love, laughter, and happiness. Since we make enough to get by, that's all I need.

Wow, PP sounds like she has serious chips all over her shoulders. I would love to live with my family close by! Life didn't work out that way for reasons spanning generations of family and world history, so here I am, thousands of miles away from many people who matter to me. Where is my freaking medal? LOL

Good for you. Are you too dense to realize the post was about people who return to their small hometown, or never leave, are low lifes? You've completely missed the point here, genius.

Apparently, my point was way too vague for some native speakers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Good for you. Are you too dense to realize the post was about people who return to their small hometown, or never leave, are low lifes? You've completely missed the point here, genius.

People who never leave abandoned nobody towns are losers. You can try to be politically correct, but let's be real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Good for you. Are you too dense to realize the post was about people who return to their small hometown, or never leave, are low lifes? You've completely missed the point here, genius.

People who never leave abandoned nobody towns are losers. You can try to be politically correct, but let's be real.

No they aren't, some people want to reinvest in their corner of the world. Your world view is very narrow, like "redneck" narrow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Good for you. Are you too dense to realize the post was about people who return to their small hometown, or never leave, are low lifes? You've completely missed the point here, genius.

People who never leave abandoned nobody towns are losers. You can try to be politically correct, but let's be real.

Bless your heart.