When did divorces start happening in your circle?

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[Post New]10/12/2016 00:20
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Anonymous
Age, years of marriage, age of kids?
[Post New]10/12/2016 00:42
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Anonymous
For my parents circle...about 8 years into the marriage and 5 years or so into having kids. People started realizing its not all roses and happy times. Kids go from screaming babies to terrible twos and then asshole teens. Money is stretched thin and (sorry to say it was mostly men) the men realized they could get a hotter model and drop the constant headache right around the age they go into their middle-life crisis. For the women it was a lot of vacations and 'self-care' with prescription medication (god so many SAHMS drink and pop pills) but the guys checked out entirely.

At least that was what I observed. Funny thing is the women ended up being sane and stable in their 60s but all the men that left (with or without APs) are alone, pot-bellied and still crabby.
[Post New]10/12/2016 00:45
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Anonymous
in 40s kids were teenagers and DW's stopped having sex. most divorces clustered around this
[Post New]10/12/2016 00:46
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:For my parents circle...about 8 years into the marriage and 5 years or so into having kids. People started realizing its not all roses and happy times. Kids go from screaming babies to terrible twos and then asshole teens. Money is stretched thin and (sorry to say it was mostly men) the men realized they could get a hotter model and drop the constant headache right around the age they go into their middle-life crisis. For the women it was a lot of vacations and 'self-care' with prescription medication (god so many SAHMS drink and pop pills) but the guys checked out entirely.

At least that was what I observed. Funny thing is the women ended up being sane and stable in their 60s but all the men that left (with or without APs) are alone, pot-bellied and still crabby.


Ach, I am eight years into marriage and 5.5 years into having kids.
[Post New]10/12/2016 02:21
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Anonymous
We've actually had no divorces in our group of ten couples. No one rushed into marriage and we all got married after completing our graduate education. Interestingly, we all had parents that never divorced.
[Post New]10/12/2016 05:19
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:in 40s kids were teenagers and DW's stopped having sex. most divorces clustered around this


Hmmmm, i know only two divorced couples.

1. The DH was completely uninterested in sex. She is mid 40s very very fit and would parade naked in front of him. After no sex for 2 years, she finally left him.
2. Other friend is mid 30s and divorced. Her DH couldn't hold down a job. He'd get fired from job after job. He also stopped wanting to have sex. It did a real number on her self esteem. She didnt leave him over thr lack of sex, but because of the financial instability. Shes very high drive. Being single and without sex drove her nuts.
[Post New]10/12/2016 05:37
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Anonymous
So far none yet. Everyone we know has been married for 10-20 years. Some a bit longer but not many. It makes me suspicious it's going to be me since it's not any of them
[Post New]10/12/2016 06:11
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Anonymous
Some of my friends had quickie first marriages (before I knew them, mostly) and have since married and had kids and are in for about 15-20 years at this point. No post-kids divorces in my immediate circle. Although I can point to a few that SHOULD consider it ...
[Post New]10/12/2016 06:13
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Anonymous wrote:in 40s kids were teenagers and DW's stopped having sex. most divorces clustered around this


Women initiate 70% of divorces, therfore take the lead in walking away from marriage. You think women leave their husbands because the women stop having sex? I think women might stop having sex because they are unhappy in their marriages.
[Post New]10/12/2016 06:14
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Anonymous wrote:Some of my friends had quickie first marriages (before I knew them, mostly) and have since married and had kids and are in for about 15-20 years at this point. No post-kids divorces in my immediate circle. Although I can point to a few that SHOULD consider it ...


So true!
[Post New]10/12/2016 06:37
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Anonymous
No waves of divorces here. We have been married 20+ years and are in our early and mid 50's. We have had casual friends here and there divorce, but no more than a handful. In our college group that meets every three years and where we were the last to marry, there have been none.
[Post New]10/12/2016 06:39
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Anonymous wrote:in 40s kids were teenagers and DW's stopped having sex. most divorces clustered around this


Women initiate 70% of divorces, therfore take the lead in walking away from marriage. You think women leave their husbands because the women stop having sex? I think women might stop having sex because they are unhappy in their marriages.


This.
[Post New]10/12/2016 06:39
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:in 40s kids were teenagers and DW's stopped having sex. most divorces clustered around this


Women initiate 70% of divorces, therfore take the lead in walking away from marriage. You think women leave their husbands because the women stop having sex? I think women might stop having sex because they are unhappy in their marriages.
From my experience. menopause doesn't help matter either.
[Post New]10/12/2016 06:44
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Anonymous
Dw here. I'll be divorcing if he doesn't start having sex at least once a week. Or if I catch him cheating and lying again.
[Post New]10/12/2016 07:09
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Anonymous
There were a few starter marriages that didn't endure, but other than that, there have been none. Mid-forties.
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