Jen Hatmaker
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Anonymous
| wth is wrong with her bottom lip? it looks like 4x puffier than normal |
Anonymous
| What happened to her accesnt? it's like all on Texas twang |
Anonymous
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I can confirm that a long term marriage with infidelity is a targedy-but she acts like this was so unqique and extra devastating and now she's learned so much.
Her situation: Older kids and nearly empty nesting Supportive parents and siblings all nearby Supportive friends Self employment that allows her to not go in somewhere and be dependent on a boss A nice amount of money to begin-she wasn't broke and left with no money (clearly with her spending) Her tragedy is only bad bc her life has been so protected and precious that a common plight, "took her out". I'm so tired of hearing her still talk about this 3 years later as if she was the most devastated and self made her way back up top. Please. She stumbled--didn't go crashing down until she turned her self employment into a ridiculous circus by abandoning her only discernible skill (preaching and teaching bible) |
Anonymous
I disagree with this. I think this takes you out for years, and the best possible terrible situation is still a terrible situation. If anything, I think the problem is she didn't take *enough* time. This generally takes years of recovering and regaining your sense of self, your ability to trust others, your confidence in your gut, the rewriting of your memories. She acted like she had skipped through all that and was Fierce Free and Fabulous within a year. |
Anonymous
Based on unfortunate personal experience, I also disagree. Betrayal trauma can take a very long time to heal. No one is living their best life like Jen after a year. She totally skipped the hard work and launched into glittertown. |
Anonymous
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My first marriage wasn't a betrayal by infidelity but it was still a very searing and painful experience where I very much felt like I was going to be torn asunder. And it took my 5 years or so to really 'recover' from it to where I could truly move forward and imagine a new possibility with a new partner and that's still with an asterix in that two kids are still involved in the clean-up and the mess.
I highly doubt Jen is truly healed from her marriage. She just has to always be Girl Bossing everything. It's all a show. Inside, she's still grieving. Of course, she is. |
Anonymous
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I can't help but feel her hyperarousal. The fidgeting, hair grabbing, outfit smoothing, and above all - the urgency. The tone and feel of her words on the Sherri show are so, so urgent. As though everybody is a hot second away from a crisis and she can save them with her wisdom.
I think this is why it's been hard to watch her the last few years, maybe this makes sense more than anything to me so far. Her sense of safety in herself was likely rocked when things fell apart with Brandon, and now we're seeing the activated version of her that *thinks* she's healed. But her body language and know-it-allness and tone doesn't suggest such. It is hard to feel grounded and okay as I observe her because I pick up on her arousal levels and want to get away from it/defend against it. Also, I didn't realize she was branding herself as a life coach. That is news. I truly hope she can do what she needs to calm her own nervous system down, and really find a deep sense of safety within herself apart from any audience. |
Anonymous
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“I truly hope she can do what she needs to calm her own nervous system down, and really find a deep sense of safety within herself *apart from any audience*.”
This is super key. Her desperate, craving, unending need for an audience’s approval. She’s the sad sort of person who only attributes something as worthwhile or good or valuable only after an outside audience has deemed it so. |
Anonymous
| Is the Sherri Show appearance on YouTube? |
Anonymous
| I have to say this. And I am looking for input because I am truly confused. I used to follow and adored Jen. I read this thread and follow it, rarely post but have read comments about Jen’s change. I understand divorce is a super hard thing but I have also listened to Brandon’s podcasts on his part of it. What Jen choose to tell her followers was a kinda a lie. Their marriage was not a awesome one in the last few years and what Jen presented wasn’t true. How could one be so devastated over a divorce if there hadn’t been intimate connection in years? It makes it all seem so fake. Then the total change in how Jen presents herself, how she talks, what she pushes, her current topics. I’m so confused. I read not to long ago on here about someone saying something about what’s missing with her brand is Brandon. I think someone else defended that statement. Which made me laugh, because how many times has Jen herself bragged about not knowing about technology or email? Who do you think set that up in the beginning for her? Anyone who’s been married for more than a month knows the answer to that question. Saying all that, knowing this is a snark forum, do you think, what was actually awesome at one time about Jen Hatmaker was actually Brandon and no one realized it? I mean in reality? I am truly wondering. Was she so awesome at that time because she had a amazing husband that she just couldn’t see and didn’t give him the credit he actually deserved? I don’t know and frankly it doesn’t really matter, but it’s got me thinking. I hate that Jen seems to have gone so far away from the truth, from the word, the hope so many flocked to her to find. I miss it honestly. Frankly I feel bad for her. Not because she’s divorced or that her husband appears to have moved on or even that her boyfriend seems to be a jerk. I’m sad because I think she’s chosen to exit a place that she shined at. |
Anonymous
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Brandon speaks in superlatives about new wife, all of the tattoos, the motorcycle gang cosplay, clearly overcompensating for his stuff.
Jen overcompensates in her writing, speech, dialect, appearance, mannerisms, etc. Look up try-hards on urban dictionary. You’ll see their pictures. Jen has led a very privileged life. To try to come off as someone who’s really been through it and has anything to offer is just gross, in every sense. Not that it’s a competition but there are women who’ve been to hell and back whose faith is a real testimony to a real and powerful Almighty God. We all know them I am sure. They don’t require this constant public affirmation that she seems to need. They certainly don’t run around selling courses and cruises trying to turn profit on their tragedies. Just gross. |
Anonymous
One son must have requested to not be a part of her “family photo” in appearances—this is at least the second or third time she’s been on a tv show and had the host throw this same photo on the screen featuring just her and the other 4 kids. |
Anonymous
| The post about her fidgeting is interesting. Watched the ig story and the link and she’s messing w her dress or hair every couple minutes. |
Anonymous
| Jen self soothes like no one else. |