Things that are unintentional status symbols.

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Anonymous wrote:Only wearing white in season[i][b]
Knowing how to sail
Having gone away to summer camp
Not asking people what they "do" (almost everyone in DC fails at this)

Oh no to this one (underlined). Nobody, no matter what their class, should wear white out of season. End of story.

That rule doesn't apply anymore. Even Emily Post said so.

http://www.vogue.com/fashion/most-wanted/how-to-wear-white-after-labor-day/

http://fashionista.com/2012/09/a-quick-guide-to-wearing-white-after-labor-day#awesm=~oD1OZiwpE3xaxL

http://www.luckymag.com/style/2013/09/white-after-labor-day

http://www.esquire.com/blogs/mens-fashion/white-after-labor-day-090313

The great unwashed have spoken!

+ 1 million!

Luckily, your helmet hair and your Tod's driving mocs are still considered "fashionable" in DC.

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No, you are a perfect candidate for a "bless your heart."

Additionally, most old school southerners don't have multi-course sit down dinner receptions (nor do they use the phrase "surf and turf").

Indeed, that was for YOUR benefit, little poseur. Figured it was a phrase you would be all too familiar with as you clearly dont go to many nice weddings, espcially not ones in the South.

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Anonymous wrote:Jotting quick notes to the teacher on properly monogrammed stationery.

RSVP'ing to a wedding on same rather than sending back the little "check fish or chicken" cards.

HA! I do this. Only because I hate those reply cards

I used to do this until my son's friend's mom said -- very sweetly-- that it screwed up her box of reply cards for kid's Bar Mitzvah.

I just write a sweet note on the back of the RSVP card unless I receive one without an RSVP card (which seems to not happen anymore).

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There, that is a perfect one! Sending out wedding invitations with no reply cards! Very very old school and an unintentional status symbol. Only those with enough knowledge will even get this. What is really sad though is people who don't even know how to reply to such an invitation.

Nah it's just the culture changing and evolving over time.

Ha...we did not have reply cards (my mother and grandmother's preference) and a lot of our guests were confused.

Me too and only guests on DH's side were "confused." Kind of funny to me but not to my mom.

I have to say, most of the wedding invitations I received from college friends did not have reply cards. I am in my early 40s so it's not that "old school". I know many people who think reply cards are tacky, even the plain blank ones. But I also did have friends and even relatives who sent these. They chose to largely because they were worried too many people these days dont know how to respond to a formal invitation without a reply card.

I have only ever seen one of the style reply card where you could chose your dinner. Had never even heard of such a thing. That was very humorous to me.

Like many other things on this thread, it is simply one more "tell" related to social class.

Bless your heart.

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You, the "Bless Your Heart" Poster and the "+1" poster are seriously clueless and wierd. The term "Bless Your Heart" is a Southern one used for people thast are socially inept or inferior. Anyone who uses a reply card with a meal choice on it is from a socially inept or inferior background because this is just flat out tacky and low class. If you are so unfortunate as to have a caterer who requires it, get a new caterer and, really, atv a formal sit-down multi-course wedding, you dont serve different main courses, just one with, if you like surf and turf but there is no selection process. You eat wjhat is served or you dont eat it. That is the choice and that is how it is done by proper folk who may say "Bless Your Heart" IRL even if they sound ridiculous and silly.

Well, bless your heart.

+1

Because "Bless your heart" can mean a lot of things.

No, it cant and you are clearly too stupid to get that and to know that a card instructing one to check a FOOD choice in a formal wedding invitation is actually okay. bwahahahaha

Different poster. You don't understand "bless your heart." It is very appropriate here.

[Anonymous]

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No, you are a perfect candidate for a "bless your heart."

Additionally, most old school southerners don't have multi-course sit down dinner receptions (nor do they use the phrase "surf and turf").

Indeed, that was for YOUR benefit, little poseur. Figured it was a phrase you would be all too familiar with as you clearly dont go to many nice weddings, espcially not ones in the South.

South and "nice wedding" never go together. Southerns think it is appropriate to serve punch and cake to 300 people standing around in sweltering heat. If it is really fancy, there is a nasty red velvet groom's cake, too.

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The meal-selection reply card is a necessity in today. There are too many people who are GF, vegetarian, pescetarian, etc.

If it's classless to make sure your guests needs are accommodated, so be it. I'd rather be classless than say "oh, you don't get to eat because some granny on DCUM said meal selection/reply cards are declasse."

Thankfully, your kind are dying out and there are far fewer sticks-in-asses these days.

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Anonymous wrote:Jotting quick notes to the teacher on properly monogrammed stationery.

RSVP'ing to a wedding on same rather than sending back the little "check fish or chicken" cards.

HA! I do this. Only because I hate those reply cards

I used to do this until my son's friend's mom said -- very sweetly-- that it screwed up her box of reply cards for kid's Bar Mitzvah.

I just write a sweet note on the back of the RSVP card unless I receive one without an RSVP card (which seems to not happen anymore).

.


There, that is a perfect one! Sending out wedding invitations with no reply cards! Very very old school and an unintentional status symbol. Only those with enough knowledge will even get this. What is really sad though is people who don't even know how to reply to such an invitation.

Nah it's just the culture changing and evolving over time.

Ha...we did not have reply cards (my mother and grandmother's preference) and a lot of our guests were confused.

Me too and only guests on DH's side were "confused." Kind of funny to me but not to my mom.

I have to say, most of the wedding invitations I received from college friends did not have reply cards. I am in my early 40s so it's not that "old school". I know many people who think reply cards are tacky, even the plain blank ones. But I also did have friends and even relatives who sent these. They chose to largely because they were worried too many people these days dont know how to respond to a formal invitation without a reply card.

I have only ever seen one of the style reply card where you could chose your dinner. Had never even heard of such a thing. That was very humorous to me.

Like many other things on this thread, it is simply one more "tell" related to social class.

Bless your heart.

+1

You, the "Bless Your Heart" Poster and the "+1" poster are seriously clueless and wierd. The term "Bless Your Heart" is a Southern one used for people thast are socially inept or inferior. Anyone who uses a reply card with a meal choice on it is from a socially inept or inferior background because this is just flat out tacky and low class. If you are so unfortunate as to have a caterer who requires it, get a new caterer and, really, atv a formal sit-down multi-course wedding, you dont serve different main courses, just one with, if you like surf and turf but there is no selection process. You eat wjhat is served or you dont eat it. That is the choice and that is how it is done by proper folk who may say "Bless Your Heart" IRL even if they sound ridiculous and silly.

Well, bless your heart.

+1

Because "Bless your heart" can mean a lot of things.

No, it cant and you are clearly too stupid to get that and to know that a card instructing one to check a FOOD choice in a formal wedding invitation is actually okay. bwahahahaha

"Bless your heart" or "Bless her heart" can mean that someone is displaying a remarkable lack of taste and manners. For example, if someone were displaying a remarkable amount of ignorance on a topic, displayed terrible grammer, and showed a tendency to abuse emoticons, "Bless your heart" would be a proper response.

"Bless your heart" can mean "I am sorry that happened to you. That's awful." For example, if the neighbor's house burned down and her husband had a heart attack while the fire department was putting out the fire, and she was telling you about it"Bless your heart" is completely an appropriate, non-snarky, sympathetic response. It's also useful in less dire situations. For example, if your BFF calls and vents to you about her crazy kids, lazy husband, and destructive dog and has just had an all-around bad day "Bless your heart" means "I love you and I get it."

"Bless your heart/bless her heart" can also mean "You don't have the sense that God gave little green apples, but I love you anyway." It is very useful in when addressing family members who are still voting Republican/Democrat/whatever you don't agree with.

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No, you are a perfect candidate for a "bless your heart."

Additionally, most old school southerners don't have multi-course sit down dinner receptions (nor do they use the phrase "surf and turf").

Indeed, that was for YOUR benefit, little poseur. Figured it was a phrase you would be all too familiar with as you clearly dont go to many nice weddings, espcially not ones in the South.

South and "nice wedding" never go together. Southerns think it is appropriate to serve punch and cake to 300 people standing around in sweltering heat. If it is really fancy, there is a nasty red velvet groom's cake, too.

As long as the gossipy, gin-soaked old biddies approve, who cares? Screw everyone else.

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Anonymous wrote:

No, you are a perfect candidate for a "bless your heart."

Additionally, most old school southerners don't have multi-course sit down dinner receptions (nor do they use the phrase "surf and turf").

Indeed, that was for YOUR benefit, little poseur. Figured it was a phrase you would be all too familiar with as you clearly dont go to many nice weddings, espcially not ones in the South.

South and "nice wedding" never go together. Southerns think it is appropriate to serve punch and cake to 300 people standing around in sweltering heat. If it is really fancy, there is a nasty red velvet groom's cake, too.

I like those kinds of receptions. I like them better than sit-down meals where you have to make awkward small talk with relatives that you haven't seen in years and then pray that the DJ is decent. Stand-up receptions are more like a garden party and less like a terrible Thanksgiving dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Only wearing white in season[i][b]
Knowing how to sail
Having gone away to summer camp
Not asking people what they "do" (almost everyone in DC fails at this)

Oh no to this one (underlined). Nobody, no matter what their class, should wear white out of season. End of story.

That rule doesn't apply anymore. Even Emily Post said so.

http://www.vogue.com/fashion/most-wanted/how-to-wear-white-after-labor-day/

http://fashionista.com/2012/09/a-quick-guide-to-wearing-white-after-labor-day#awesm=~oD1OZiwpE3xaxL

http://www.luckymag.com/style/2013/09/white-after-labor-day

http://www.esquire.com/blogs/mens-fashion/white-after-labor-day-090313

The great unwashed have spoken!

+ 1 million!

Luckily, your helmet hair and your Tod's driving mocs are still considered "fashionable" in DC.

DC is a giant black hole that sucks in every Tracy Flick in the country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

No, you are a perfect candidate for a "bless your heart."

Additionally, most old school southerners don't have multi-course sit down dinner receptions (nor do they use the phrase "surf and turf").

Indeed, that was for YOUR benefit, little poseur. Figured it was a phrase you would be all too familiar with as you clearly dont go to many nice weddings, espcially not ones in the South.

South and "nice wedding" never go together. Southerns think it is appropriate to serve punch and cake to 300 people standing around in sweltering heat. If it is really fancy, there is a nasty red velvet groom's cake, too.

I like those kinds of receptions. I like them better than sit-down meals where you have to make awkward small talk with relatives that you haven't seen in years and then pray that the DJ is decent. Stand-up receptions are more like a garden party and less like a terrible Thanksgiving dinner.

Every southern wedding I have been to has been awful. Traveling for a few mints and the chance to stand in disgustingly hot weather for some fondant covered cake? No thanks. I will take my choice of beef or chicken, thank you very much.

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No, you are a perfect candidate for a "bless your heart."

Additionally, most old school southerners don't have multi-course sit down dinner receptions (nor do they use the phrase "surf and turf").

Indeed, that was for YOUR benefit, little poseur. Figured it was a phrase you would be all too familiar with as you clearly dont go to many nice weddings, espcially not ones in the South.

South and "nice wedding" never go together. Southerns think it is appropriate to serve punch and cake to 300 people standing around in sweltering heat. If it is really fancy, there is a nasty red velvet groom's cake, too.

I like those kinds of receptions. I like them better than sit-down meals where you have to make awkward small talk with relatives that you haven't seen in years and then pray that the DJ is decent. Stand-up receptions are more like a garden party and less like a terrible Thanksgiving dinner.

Every southern wedding I have been to has been awful. Traveling for a few mints and the chance to stand in disgustingly hot weather for some fondant covered cake? No thanks. I will take my choice of beef or chicken, thank you very much.

You know who can throw a good reception? Those from NY and NJ. The south should take some notes at their weddings.

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Anonymous wrote:

No, you are a perfect candidate for a "bless your heart."

Additionally, most old school southerners don't have multi-course sit down dinner receptions (nor do they use the phrase "surf and turf").

Indeed, that was for YOUR benefit, little poseur. Figured it was a phrase you would be all too familiar with as you clearly dont go to many nice weddings, espcially not ones in the South.

South and "nice wedding" never go together. Southerns think it is appropriate to serve punch and cake to 300 people standing around in sweltering heat. If it is really fancy, there is a nasty red velvet groom's cake, too.

I like those kinds of receptions. I like them better than sit-down meals where you have to make awkward small talk with relatives that you haven't seen in years and then pray that the DJ is decent. Stand-up receptions are more like a garden party and less like a terrible Thanksgiving dinner.

Every southern wedding I have been to has been awful. Traveling for a few mints and the chance to stand in disgustingly hot weather for some fondant covered cake? No thanks. I will take my choice of beef or chicken, thank you very much.

You know who can throw a good reception? Those from NY and NJ. The south should take some notes at their weddings.

+1, whether it's formal, or a red-sauce American-Italian buffet with drunken dancing. Bot are much more fun, pleasant, and welcoming!

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No, you are a perfect candidate for a "bless your heart."

Additionally, most old school southerners don't have multi-course sit down dinner receptions (nor do they use the phrase "surf and turf").

Indeed, that was for YOUR benefit, little poseur. Figured it was a phrase you would be all too familiar with as you clearly dont go to many nice weddings, espcially not ones in the South.

South and "nice wedding" never go together. Southerns think it is appropriate to serve punch and cake to 300 people standing around in sweltering heat. If it is really fancy, there is a nasty red velvet groom's cake, too.

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I like those kinds of receptions. I like them better than sit-down meals where you have to make awkward small talk with relatives that you haven't seen in years and then pray that the DJ is decent. Stand-up receptions are more like a garden party and less like a terrible Thanksgiving dinner.

Every southern wedding I have been to has been awful. Traveling for a few mints and the chance to stand in disgustingly hot weather for some fondant covered cake? No thanks. I will take my choice of beef or chicken, thank you very much.

You know who can throw a good reception? Those from NY and NJ. The south should take some notes at their weddings.

+1, whether it's formal, or a red-sauce American-Italian buffet with drunken dancing. Bot are much more fun, pleasant, and welcoming!

Yep! I have been to some very expensive receptions and some very inexpensive receptions there. They all were fun and had lots of good food, alcohol and music.

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Irish people throw good weddings too!

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Anonymous wrote:Irish people throw good weddings too!

They do!