If you are gay, how often can you tell someone else is gay within the first minute of meeting them

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08/25/2016 23:21

Subject: If you are gay, how often can you tell someone else is gay within the first minute of meeting them

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Anonymous

Are you gay?
Male or female?
How old are you now?
How old when you came out?
What per cent of other lgbt people of the same gender as you do you perceive you can tell are gay within the first 60 seconds of meeting them?

I'll go first.

Yes
Male
39
20
95%+

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08/26/2016 04:51

Subject: If you are gay, how often can you tell someone else is gay within the first minute of meeting them

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Anonymous

I'm a bi woman, am generally "out" but married to a man so it doesn't come up much, and can tell people are gay pretty much immediately. Amazing how many married women seem to be lesbian!

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08/26/2016 06:23

Subject: If you are gay, how often can you tell someone else is gay within the first minute of meeting them

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Anonymous

Bisexual woman. I would say maybe 80% of the time. 31 now, came out at 21.

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08/26/2016 06:24

Subject: If you are gay, how often can you tell someone else is gay within the first minute of meeting them

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Anonymous

I would add ... It's other bisexual people I have the hardest time figuring out.

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08/26/2016 06:24

Subject: If you are gay, how often can you tell someone else is gay within the first minute of meeting them

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:I'm a bi woman, am generally "out" but married to a man so it doesn't come up much, and can tell people are gay pretty much immediately. Amazing how many married women seem to be lesbian!

Curious, if you're bi and married to a man, why are you assuming they are not bi as well?

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08/26/2016 06:40

Subject: If you are gay, how often can you tell someone else is gay within the first minute of meeting them

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Anonymous

Bi woman engaged to a man
44
Gay men I can tell 80% of the time
Lesbians maybe 75%
Bi 0%

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08/26/2016 07:40

Subject: If you are gay, how often can you tell someone else is gay within the first minute of meeting them

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a bi woman, am generally "out" but married to a man so it doesn't come up much, and can tell people are gay pretty much immediately. Amazing how many married women seem to be lesbian!

Curious, if you're bi and married to a man, why are you assuming they are not bi as well?

I don't get the bi vibe - I get the straight up lesbian vibe. But of course I could be wrong, and it's hard to verify in a situation like that (obviously).

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08/26/2016 09:04

Subject: If you are gay, how often can you tell someone else is gay within the first minute of meeting them

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:Bi woman engaged to a man
44
Gay men I can tell 80% of the time
Lesbians maybe 75%
Bi 0%

This sounds about right to me.

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08/26/2016 13:54

Subject: Re:If you are gay, how often can you tell someone else is gay within the first minute of meeting them

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Anonymous

It's easy to recognize those who exhibit traits of "gayness."

But I'm also constantly surprised at finding out who actually is gay. There seems to be quite a few "normal" people that are homosexuals (before anyone gets upset at my terminology I'm trying to keep the language as simple and brief as possible).

My question for those who claim to have an excellent gaydar, how can you tell if another person is gay after a few minutes? What are the clues? I'm not talking about flamboyant or butch behavior but people who dress, talk, walk "normally." What "gives them away" in your eyes?

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08/26/2016 13:58

Subject: If you are gay, how often can you tell someone else is gay within the first minute of meeting them

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Lesbian, 52 now, came out in college.

Out gay men are pretty easy to spot, although I don't really try.

I've met many married (to men) women who give off a serious lesbian vibe. I can always tell by eye contact -- they either can't make any, or they are fused, as if they are trying to figure me out or beg me not to expose them.

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08/26/2016 14:16

Subject: Re:If you are gay, how often can you tell someone else is gay within the first minute of meeting them

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Anonymous

How old were you when you knew you were gay?

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08/26/2016 14:31

Subject: If you are gay, how often can you tell someone else is gay within the first minute of meeting them

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08/27/2016 14:10

Subject: If you are gay, how often can you tell someone else is gay within the first minute of meeting them

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Anonymous

I'm bi, a woman, married to a man, 37, not out publicly but I've known I'm bi for nearly 20 years. I have the worst gaydar ever. DH says I'm just not very observant in general and that affects it.

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08/27/2016 16:00

Subject: Re:If you are gay, how often can you tell someone else is gay within the first minute of meeting them

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:It's easy to recognize those who exhibit traits of "gayness."

But I'm also constantly surprised at finding out who actually is gay. There seems to be quite a few "normal" people that are homosexuals (before anyone gets upset at my terminology I'm trying to keep the language as simple and brief as possible).

My question for those who claim to have an excellent gaydar, how can you tell if another person is gay after a few minutes? What are the clues? I'm not talking about flamboyant or butch behavior but people who dress, talk, walk "normally." What "gives them away" in your eyes?

I'm first PP of the thread. It's intuitive for me (and always correct when I'm able to verify). It's not just people who act "stereotypically" gay. Same goes for bi-ness.

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08/27/2016 16:25

Subject: Re:If you are gay, how often can you tell someone else is gay within the first minute of meeting them

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's easy to recognize those who exhibit traits of "gayness."

But I'm also constantly surprised at finding out who actually is gay. There seems to be quite a few "normal" people that are homosexuals (before anyone gets upset at my terminology I'm trying to keep the language as simple and brief as possible).

My question for those who claim to have an excellent gaydar, how can you tell if another person is gay after a few minutes? What are the clues? I'm not talking about flamboyant or butch behavior but people who dress, talk, walk "normally." What "gives them away" in your eyes?

I'm first PP of the thread. It's intuitive for me (and always correct when I'm able to verify). It's not just people who act "stereotypically" gay. Same goes for bi-ness.

Op here. Same for me, I just know. My dh thinks I'm crazy, but after 15 years of marriage he's never found e to be wrong. In the few instances it appeared that I was wrong, those I thought were gay subsequently came out. FYI, I said I was only accurate 95%+ because there are some gay people I do not realize are gay.