If you are gay, how often can you tell someone else is gay within the first minute of meeting them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can pick out non-stereotypical lesbians and bi women. It's something in the eye contact, a knowing, a recognition, an almost mysterious form of communication.
Or maybe it's just attraction, I don't know. I'm a bi woman.

I don't think it's attraction. It does feel like a kind of recognition, though, when eyes meet for a second, like an unasked question is present, which actually kind of answers the question, if that makes any sense. There are so many fleeting looks, expressions, and body language cues our brains process without our being conscious.

[Anonymous]

Straight woman here. There is a recognition. I say this as somebody who has hung out with gay men and women to varying degrees over the years, but never once been asked out or hit on by a lesbians. I'm your average interesting person who would get asked out by men regularly. Clearly nobody is mistaking the straight lady with the lesbians for anything but a straight lady.