Help me fire the cleaning lady

[Anonymous]

I hired the cleaner who worked at my house to clean at work. She has been coming to my house for about 2 years. She was at my house last week and my roommate noticed $200 was missing after they left. She called and the woman said she would be right over and asked her not to call the police. She never denied taking the money, and came to the house within 15 minutes of the call to return the money. I don't think we will be using her again. The complication is that I don't want her to clean my employer's place anymore. I would feel responsible if something came up missing.

Do I ask the cleaner what happened? Do I just send her a text saying we don't need her anymore? I haven't had to fire someone in almost 20 years. Help me out.

[Anonymous]

Inform her you won't be needing her services anymore, let your employer know and rekey all your locks.

[Anonymous]

Keep it simple, no need for a lengthy conversation.

[Anonymous]

She stole $200 and "you don't think" you'll be using her anymore? Wow.

If you've communicated by text in the past, then yes, a text is fine. I'm sure she's not going to be surprised.

I'd tell your employer, it's up to them to what to do with the information.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She stole $200 and "you don't think" you'll be using her anymore? Wow.

It's an expression. Chill.

[Anonymous]

I am guessing that she is actually shocked you haven't fired her yet,which makes the task really simple for you.

Hi Larla - No need to come clean today. We have decided that we no longer need your services. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am guessing that she is actually shocked you haven't fired her yet,which makes the task really simple for you.

Hi Larla - No need to come clean today. We have decided that we no longer need your services. Thank you.

I'm as shy as they come, but seriously? She stole money from you, and you don't I would how to fire her? Tell her that you won't need her services anymore. Tell your employer to do the same, and tell her why.
Change your locks if she had a key.

[mjsmith]

[Anonymous]

Gladys

Wanted to let you know that you don't work here anymore. I am going in a different direction. Thanks so much for everything - good luck.

[Anonymous]

I doubt you will be hearing from her again.

[Anonymous]

How do you function in life?

[Anonymous]

OP, don't engage in a conversation with her--meaning, don't ask her if she did it. If she says no, what do you do then? You don't want to be guilted back into using her, right? Then you *should* be making this decision now, before you talk to her.

I do think it is smart to give her some $ to tide her over. Two houses = double what you would have given.

Call her or text her--now is not the time to chicken out because you are afraid to talk to her; so if you are, just text. Get it done, OP.

Then just tell her, look, Larla, don't go to (employer's house) anymore. We loved having you and I've put an envelope in the mail for you (or if you don't have her address) I've got an envelope here for you, and I'm leaving it under my door mat. Thank you for everything.

I had to do this, OP, and yep, it's hard, but believe it or not, she still works multiple days at the house across the street from me and we say hi and follow up on our kids. I was worried about that; that I see her constantly--when I get into my car. But I never pinned her down on what she did. She knows she screwed up, even if she denied it, and that's probably why she isn't rude to me.

[Anonymous]

Hi, your services are no longer needed at my apartment or at (business).

How hard is that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi, your services are no longer needed at my apartment or at (business).

How hard is that?

It's not that hard. I was asking how to approach it. My question was clear in the original post.

I feel morally responsible since the two houses made up much of her weekly pay. I am also morally responsible to deal with it so I don't put my employers' place at risk. I don't know if you've ever had to fire someone, but it is difficult, especially if the person doesn't make much money.


Thank you, 9:43. I appreciate the advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi, your services are no longer needed at my apartment or at (business).

How hard is that?

It's not that hard. I was asking how to approach it. My question was clear in the original post.

I feel morally responsible since the two houses made up much of her weekly pay. I am also morally responsible to deal with it so I don't put my employers' place at risk. I don't know if you've ever had to fire someone, but it is difficult, especially if the person doesn't make much money.


Thank you, 9:43. I appreciate the advice.

She stole from you. She needs to find a better profession that does not have the opportunity to steal.