What to do about affair trigger?
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Anonymous
| My wife's favorite perfume reminds me of a trip she took that led to an affair. I know she loves the perfume, and I used to love it too, but whenever she wears it now I get an anxiety attack. We have talked about it and I want to get past this, but I am having a hard time. How have others traumatized by affairs coped with this? And eff you all cheaters. |
Anonymous
| She should absolutely stop wearing this perfume. |
Anonymous
+1. She had an affair. She doesn't get to do what she wants to anymore. |
Anonymous
Why is this even an issue? |
Anonymous
| I'm surprised she hasn't volunteered this herself if you've talked about it. She should toss the perfume. Go with her and pick out a new one. |
Anonymous
| She needs to stop wearing the perfume. Period. |
Anonymous
| Yup. She needs to stop wearing the perfume. It's the least she can do. |
Anonymous
Yes, this. |
Anonymous
| How selfish can she be? Must be her signature scent! Nasty |
Anonymous
| As a woman sensitive to fragrance, I hate perfume. |
Anonymous
that helps OP greatly. |
Anonymous
Right? Why do some people respond? |
Anonymous
| OP whatever negative emotion that scent instigates...anger, sadness, insecurity, suspicion...don't run from it, don't crumble underneath the weight of it, and don't try and pretend like its not there. Instead take all that negative energy that scent incites within you and unleash all that pent up passion and anger and frustration on your wife in the bedroom in the backseat in a stairwell in a back alley behind restaurant, wherever. Two birds with one stone - 1) you no longer suffer the emasculation of that scent reminding you of her infidelity or your inadequacy because you redefine it for both of you and 2) you no longer have to worry about your wife so much as thinking about straying again because the spontaneity and carnality of your new response to her wearing that perfume will have you two f__king like newlyweds again. |
Anonymous
| This is a no-brainer. She stops wearing the perfume. Has she refused? |
Anonymous
| Leave her. |