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Anonymous
| I need confidential help about a scary situation. If I go to a women's shelter for advice, is it confidential? What I am afraid of would also cost my husband his govt job if he was found out. I need to ask some specific questions but know that no one is going to take that question and send a cop to my house to follow up on it. Who could I go to? |
Anonymous
| A lawyer? |
Anonymous
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I do not know for 100 percent, but I have to imagine that the only way that a woman's shelter would work was for it to be 100 percent confidential. Hopefully someone on this board has personal knowledge and can help you more.
You could call one and ask about the policies. Call from a payphone if you are worried about them seeing the number (I've seen some payphones by the Ballston metro if you are near and in need of a payphone). |
Anonymous
| I would suggest a lawyer, or an anonymous help line. |
Anonymous
| If it is related to domestic violence, you can call the national hotline - 1 800 799 SAFE. They have a web site if you are comfortable visiting it. |
Anonymous
| The shelter can only be confidential to a point. i think that you were in imminent danger the have some liability responsibilities. Is it physical? Are you in a position to leave? i really wish you the best. a lawyer would be a good route. |
Anonymous
| What about an attorney? They can advise about possibilities and legal matters. If you are in real fear for your safety, then fuck him and his job (and not in the love making sense of the word). |
Anonymous
| Don't know where you are located but call your local domestic violence shelter and ask if it's confidential (I would guess that it is). Or try Bread for the City (www.breadforthecity.org; 202.265.2400). I do not know if you can wait but they may have a legal clinic this Saturday. If it is urgent, get out of there and stay with family or friends now. |
Anonymous
The women's shelter may have rules to follow re. what needs reporting to authorities. This whole thing is a bear WRT security clearances and gov't. jobs. People who need help and their family members who, as a result, really need help are forced into either isolated secrecy or the threat of financial and professional ruin. |
Anonymous
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WEAVE is a local organization that assists victims of domestic violence. Through the organization you can meet with and speak to an attorney regarding your situation.
http://www.weaveincorp.org/ |
Anonymous
| I was once in your situation and afraid of "costing him his job". I know how you feel, but YOU (and your kids) are most important right now. I am so sorry. Hugs to you. |
Anonymous
| I think I'll talk to an attorney, but again I'm worried that he'll be obligated to report what I've told him. My husband could be a sociopath and I'm trying to extricate myself and my kids from this situation safely. At a minimum, I want it documented somewhere so if anything does happen, he will be first on the list to investigate. I have no faith in restraining orders. |
Anonymous
| Trust your gut. Get help ASAP. Do you have money to get away? Document with attorney and a counselor if you can. Tell family and friends. Leave information on a computer file and give it to someone. Get away from him. Who cares about his job. Good luck to you. There are great people out there that will help you. |
Anonymous
Any attorneys here who can tell me whatever I tell my attorney is 100% confidential before I call him? Please? |
Anonymous
Whatever you tell your attorney is 99.9% confidential. The only time an atty is obligated to reveal a client confidence is if someone is in imminent danger. Even then, s/he could report it to the police without mentioning your name. |