10-yo DS asked me if i regret marrying DW

[Anonymous]

his reasons? that we're so different and we like different things and do different things. i said true but we complement each other..., and he goes "um no you don't!"

you know your marriage is in trouble when a kid who doesn't know complement from compliment can see right through it...

[Anonymous]

that was the age that I asked my dad if they were going to get divorced. long pause then "no, of course not." From then on, it was just waiting and expecting it to happen (it did 4 unhappy years later when i came home to my screaming at my dad and hurling shoes as my dad packed to move in with his girlfriend).

[Anonymous]

i don't have any girlfriend, not looking for one either.

[Anonymous]

This is not normal - you or your wife have contributed to this. He would not say these things otherwise. Not good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not normal - you or your wife have contributed to this. He would not say these things otherwise. Not good.

Good thing you weighed in. Previously OP thought what happened was awesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not normal - you or your wife have contributed to this. He would not say these things otherwise. Not good.

Good thing you weighed in. Previously OP thought what happened was awesome.

+1. OP, do you all fight, or make passive-aggressive comments in front of DS? What exactly is he picking up on? DH and I are in a rough patch right now, and I wonder exactly what the kids pick up on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not normal - you or your wife have contributed to this. He would not say these things otherwise. Not good.

Good thing you weighed in. Previously OP thought what happened was awesome.

+1. What an ass.

As for OP, so sorry. This hits very close to home, and I'll be right there with you One day. My kids are younger, but there are only so many years of mom's constant hostility, screaming, crying, and threatening to harm herself before they realize these are not normal "arguments". Regret doesn't even describe it.

[Anonymous]

Well... do you?

I do... my kids know it but they also know that I am trying to help my mentally ill husband become a stable healthy person. Life is not perfect, you don't just bail out of a marriage because parts of it suck.

You can't explain to your son, you know nothing is perfect.

What is going on?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well... do you?

I do... my kids know it but they also know that I am trying to help my mentally ill husband become a stable healthy person. Life is not perfect, you don't just bail out of a marriage because parts of it suck.

You can't explain to your son, you know nothing is perfect.

What is going on?

Actually it seems many people do - including my ex. So good luck to you and I hope it works out for you.

[Anonymous]

OP, make sure your son gets the message that while marriage isn't always fun or easy, you are glad you married your wife because without her, there'd be no HIM.

Even if you don't mean it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, make sure your son gets the message that while marriage isn't always fun or easy, you are glad you married your wife because without her, there'd be no HIM.

Even if you don't mean it.

well said.

[Anonymous]

If you want out, don't post anonymously on the Internet. Nut up, get your shit together, and get out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, make sure your son gets the message that while marriage isn't always fun or easy, you are glad you married your wife because without her, there'd be no HIM.

Even if you don't mean it.

+1 and sit down with your wife to discuss how you all can move forward in a way that will protect your son. If he just asked you, he's been agonizing over it a long time. Don't let your kid be another kid who thinks of their childhood as one long stressful fight they are in the middle of.

And take something from his observation that the two of you are apparently not that nice to each other. Some mutual complimenting might go a long way

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well... do you?

I do... my kids know it but they also know that I am trying to help my mentally ill husband become a stable healthy person. Life is not perfect, you don't just bail out of a marriage because parts of it suck.

You can't explain to your son, you know nothing is perfect.

What is going on?

Why did you take it upon yourself to help your mentally ill husband become a stable healthy person?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, make sure your son gets the message that while marriage isn't always fun or easy, you are glad you married your wife because without her, there'd be no HIM.

Even if you don't mean it.

Yeah but at his age, the kid would know that people don't need to be married to have a child. That's a lame answer.